Trust? What should i do?

[Bluesky28]

All along me and husband respected each other's privacy. We do not check each other's phone. But recently out of boredom I signed in to his facebook with a password that was the same for many online accounts. I saw that he was sending videos of animals to and fro with a lady, who i have never saw before in my entire life. I realised he started chatting with her 1 month plus ago. After finding out about this thing, it has been a very emotional ride for me. I start to lose appetite and i cannot sleep well. I also tend to lose temper out of nowhere. I became more and more paranoid. I started to login into his facebook more often to check on his chat with this woman. On facebook, they merely send videos to each other. Even when he is in the toilet at home and im in the bedroom he would send something to her. I'm just thinking more and more about them chatting somewhere else maybe whatspp or in real life where i couldnt see. Today, after my husband is asleep, i managed to check the phone number of the woman (thru some way online, its complicated) and i saw that both their last seen time on whatsapp is exactly the same at 02:35!!! I thought he was already asleep at that time. Now its 03:45 and i'm still boiling that i could not sleep. What should i do?

*Also, all i can see on the woman's fb page is few pictures of her in blonde hair, pink blonde hair and white hair. 1 week ago my husband suddenly brought up his desire of bleaching his hair.

Should i worry? I know i havent found concrete proof... i think i should expose it before it's too late.. But i'm worried that our relationship would be ruined once he knows what i did.. pls advise.. thanks

 

[timmerin]

well, i dont think u have found concrete proof yet. i will bide my time n observe n collect mr info on the nature of their r ship if i were you. some men are going to lie their way through until u fling concrete proof in their faces.

 

[Bluesky28]

well, i dont think u have found concrete proof yet. i will bide my time n observe n collect mr info on the nature of their r ship if i were you. some men are going to lie their way through until u fling concrete proof in their faces.

Thanks for yr advice. I am trying to find as much as things about her as possible, but it's so hard. I can't find much things about her in her pg even thru my husband's fb. I will observe first as wad u suggest

 

[Bluesky28]

I think you should wait, it's never good to rush into anything! A lot of things are clearer on hindsight. You should start by looking at your relationship first, I think you will know yourself if there's something wrong with the relationship. Find out more about this woman in a calm manner, it really could be nothing in the end. always examine your own relationship first

The problem is i did nt find anything out of place in him, nthg changed. And our relationshp is still gd. I hv tried to hint him time 2 time tht if he hv any secrets that i dunno. Right frm the start of our relationship he said he's a bad liar, but i dun see any form of awkwardness when i asked him that qns..

 

[Bluesky28]

Saw their first conversation with each other tdy.

Him: wish u 顺顺利利 in everything
Her: thanks
Her: Super hectic week at work but at least personal matters are settled.
Her: you take care too ok

(Everything seems ok up to here)
Her: till this week ends


What does her last sentence mean????
Anybody keen to enlighten me what she might mean?
Are they meeting up next week or smth?

 

[shirlenzo]

Saw their first conversation with each other tdy.

Him: wish u 顺顺利利 in everything
Her: thanks
Her: Super hectic week at work but at least personal matters are settled.
Her: you take care too ok

(Everything seems ok up to here)
Her: till this week ends


What does her last sentence mean????
Anybody keen to enlighten me what she might mean?
Are they meeting up next week or smth?

I understand it as till this week ends her misery and tiredness.

Probably don't interrogate him. Chat him up that you saw their conversation by chance. Let him talk and understand his thoughts.

Not all couples behave like soul mates or best friends. Most of us are just want an outlet for sharing and chatting. Humans need personal space. Hope you can recollect your emotions and find a different perspective. Good luck, dear.

 

[Missy.Gem]

I agreed with Shirlenzo... everyone of us need personal space... honestly for men at times they simply like to share things with another stranger instead of the ones closer to them, I think is ego issue... they don't want to be seems weak, that's how I gather... if just chat chat only then I think is fine to watch it for now...