Princessy...my three kids are 3+, 2, and 3 months old.. Age gap quite small, 18 months between the first teo, then 23 months between 2nd and 3rd. SAHM, no helper, the elder 2 only go to playgroup 1 morning a week. Used to have a part time cleaner 1x a week but we stopped her when #3 was 1 month old
Cope is can cope.. Though its tiring as I don't get a break at all the whole day cos at least one of the kids will be awake (the 2 elder boys take their afternoon nap consecutively). I do major cleaning every weekend (one morning) while hubby looks after the boys. Weekdays, I cook the boys' meals and eat lunch with them, but hubby buys back dinner for him and me. Weekends I seldom cook.. Eat at grandparents' or we go out or we buy back.
The main reason why I can manage is bcos my boys sleep on their own. For naptime n bedtime, I just need to bring them to the room, say goodnight and close the door. Sleep trained since about 7 months old. And they go to bed early, by 8pm unless we go out. So I get me-time at night.
And very luckily my baby girl is very angelic. Dunno whether its bcos girls are like that in general? Gosh, after having her, then I realised my first two were monsters!
But then, I think twins will definitely be much more challenging! How's the current childcare arrangements for your two now?