Need advices

[y1ng]

Hello all mummies and mummies to be. Anyone out there encounter situation like your own parents and parents in law probably would not be able to help you takecare of your bb after giving birth. And you feel getting a babysitter or helper isn't very trusted and also because of the cost. Should Discuss again with my parents and husband? Because of this, had a small tiff with my mum.
Also, i thought my grandmother will be able to help me do my confinement cos she is just staying beside my parents unit, but due to some unforeseen circumstances, it seems that my mum told me she ask me to find a confinement nanny instead. What should i do? I would want to continue with my work after birth too. Hope someone able to give me some advices. Thank you in advance.

 

[venussnow]

Have you tried talking to ur mum or mil if they could help u to take care of the baby if u get a helper? Personally, I did not like the idea of a helper coz most of them might not have exp in taking care of nb and I didn't wan my mil to take care of the baby alone coz it is taxing. In the end, I found a babysitter who lives in the same block as my mil so they can help us pick up our girl if we run late after work.

And I also got a cl coz i need the help not only in terms of food but also caring for the baby esp at night for the first month

 

[pixie ng]

My hub took 1 month paternal leave and took care of me. So we didn't hire any confinement lady. My parents maid will cook lunch and dinner for me. Basically my hub & i took care of our twins for a month.

So i think is doable for you without any help if your hub willing to take paternal leave to aid u

 

[messymissy]

My mum and my mum in law will not be looking after my bb so I got a helper too. I think what's most important is that if u plan to get external help.. make sure she is trust worthy. I have installed 6 cctv at home at every possible corners.

 

[y1ng]

Hi all thanks for the reply i told my dad couple of weeks back That I'm worry no-one take care bb after i go back work after ml. He said chinese don't worry, n the chinese saying, "the boat's head will be straight naturally when reach the shore" probably he will be arranging his work stuffs then help to take care in the late morning to evening when I'm off work. Hopefully all goes well

 

[Elm]

I am taking care of my girl on my own. I am one whose mum and MIL are all not interested to look after my baby. Since they don't show interest to take care, I also didn't ask them because I believe if one has no real interest then they will not do a good job. Nothing is more precious than the well being of my girl so I have been caring for her on my own since birth. It can be very tough at times when you are doing it all alone but I can only hope it will be easier as she gets older.

During confinement period, I hired a confinement lady primarily to prepare meals for me and my husband. My hubby and I looked after our girl on our own as we wanted to get used to it since we will be caring for her after confinement. My family and in-laws only came over once a while to play with baby and for baby's full moon. So yes, I am one of those who don't get much help from our families but at the end of the day, we just got to find ways to do it since our baby is our responsibility.