Need advice....i'm lose / confuse

jaquline

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Hey mummy

Need ur advice regards to this, as im quite not happy n confuse the situation

one day i have found one msg from my husband hp that one of the lady msg him, content is asking him out and y u going out didnt inform me, just only inform her (i think the "her" she mention is me). but he didnt reply the msg to her. nxt day he knw i saw this msg and he explain to me that the lady like him, and he tell me is one of his customer, she is student bla bla...and he has explain to her is impossible to be with her, as he oredi have family.
one of the day, i went to his fb msg to look look, i found one msg he chat between he and one of his gal friened...this gal also one of my husband customer and knew the lady..between their chatting is casual, but myhusband ask her for her contact num and telling her not to tell this lady, wait the lady not happy..in the end i found out he lie to me previously he explain to me the lady is a student..the lady actually only work beside his shop (actually i ok him to ask the ph num from his customer, jus feel that u jus asking the num from the gal why he scare the gal go n tell this lady n scare she not happy). so i confront him, and he explain say bcaurse this gal is this lady introduce to him for business and he scare this lady not happy,she introduce this gal to him for business and she asking for borrow money or bla bla and go trouble him.

So i ask him, y in the first place u wan lie to me saying this lady is student and not the gal who work beside ur shop? he told me, if i knw that, i will go find trouble at her lady boss shop..i was like hmmmm....

the first msg was saw around few mth ago, after he explain i jus act nth...but the FB msg i jus found out recetly..

So im quite confuse wat should i do...did i believe him again or....he told me again ang again, he no doing anything wrong outside and nth between he and this lady. (forgotten to add, this lady also got married already, but no kid. i feel like wan go look out for htis lady, but my husband say not to look for her, becaurse he already told the lady he is impossible to together with her and leave his wife n kid behind..

So mummies, hope the above roughly story not confusing you all.
 


Based on your recount above, obviously yr husband is trying to hide something from u.... if he is clean and upright, there is nothing to hide the facts from u.

Even if he know/scare u might imagine things, wont it worsen the situation that u found out yrself eventually and he has lots to explain then?

So if he is acting on a clear conscience and got nothing to hide, then he wont lie in the first place..

hope this advice helps.
 
Thx Ken!

Ya i also thinking like tat...this few day i was thinking to look out this lady! hmmm...

Overall my husband is treat us vry gd and no night outting bla bla...so this such msg is very fishy!
 
temptations are everywhere so in order not to succumb to temptations outside, it is best to win his heart over and let him know he got a great family there for him.
 
Seems like your husband cares a lot about how you feel.

Have confidence in him, as Ken said, let him know that you are there for him, you trust him and will support him. With that, if he's hiding anything, he may feel guilty and not do so anymore?
 

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