Sad to say, gambling destroys family. Especially, when he starts to borrow to gamble. Moreover, he gets abusive.He's job was unstable, ran into debts. He went MBS Casino lost a lot of money, from saving to borrowing. He kept saying that he want to find opportunity to earn money. When bills come every month, I told him bills come. He always said that will prepare will prepare, some months are paid some months not paid. Times I only left few dollars with me. I want to ask him for money, but I scare that I will stress him. Sometimes, he will even say why I spent money so fast. But I only spent in needs. His work stress and money stress turns on criticizing me, shouting at me, scolding me, then hitting me when I asked for divorce. I don't want my family to look down on him. I'm worried about how my family will see him. I love him very much, but he keep hiding and tell lies til a point I don't know what is the truth. I feel very hurt, very disappointed. But I still love him. What I should do?
Have u had a heart to heart chat with him on why he gambled?Hi brainy smurf,
He start to borrow to gamble. But he always tried his best to return. But he will always promise return someone in full, in the end only partial. Or he will find reasons and excuses to drag a period when he can find money to return. But also in the process of finding money. His attitude and bad tamper worsen
It's not about trust. He is getting abusive, and might get more abusive.Hi brainy smurf,
I did had a heart to heart talk with him. He said is the fastest way to find money for daily expenses.
He don't drink or find prosituties.
If I find another person go with me, I already show him indirectly I don't trust him anymore. Will cause more negatives to him. I'm his wife, I shouldn't give him more negatives. Sometimes he will need to go casino find his business partners
My family is coming over to me now
Hope everything is OK for u..Hi brainy smurf,
He is abusive and might get more. I don't dare to tell anyone now. I'm afraid he will lose his reputation, I know I must protect my baby. As for "real man don't blame their wife for their problems at work" maybe he is stressing on heavily on family daily expenses?
I guess ur family is right, at least for this few days. He needs to cool down and reflect on his wrongdoings.He keep calling my phone, texting me to forgive him. My family told me don't answer or reply anything. What I should do?
Possible.He kept texting me that he can't live without me, love me and realized his mistakes. Can someone realized so fast?
U got my meaning wrong. Pardon my poor command of English.Thank you brainy smurf
Making him write down is something that I'm doing to revenge by insulting him like a kid. For debts I believe he wouldn't take long to pay, because for my understanding. He doesn't like to borrow money in the past. Only helping friends by lending friends money and never return. I'm just afraid that he does any silly things like ending himself