My Experience with Bad Maids (lets share)

i used to have an Indonesia maid few years ago name Ike Nurjanah or Ike Camelia as she now married.and about 30 years old from Jawa Barat Indonesia.passport : 3202 188748
she was a transfer maid and i think the agency lied that she was fresh maid but when she came here she couldnt cook dont know how to do housework and was not patient to kids even she acted innocent but still she was lazy and sleep till 9 or more in morning and sleep early . so beginning i tolerate her bo chap attitude and even renew her contract ...
But things start getting worst when she came back from indonesia , she start using her hp regularly and even take selfies of herself in toilet and leave my child alone when i was at work...terrible and when i tell her off she show black face and things turn nasty ...she cook food and leave it burnt , add many chilli to my instant noodle and cause me gastric purposely already few times out of spite... also whenever i reprimand her over something she will rudely argue back and shouting sometimes when i raise my voice to show she is not afraid how bold and arrogant.Never have i seen a maid like her acting all high and mighty and even use her hp to message regurlarly even during working hours...even i tell her off she ignore me i has no choice but to keep her phone untill her break time or at night when she sneekily spemd hours in toilet just to talk to her friends and and to take a selfie and next day coz of this she always cant wake up early and affect the way she work...floor she just anyhow sweep .. and many dust left over and even break many things like my cup , saucepan etc but we did not punish her . Also sometimes she will just take break and sit down and rest anytime she like even without finishing her work that is so bad and i was payinh her wages like crazy and there she was acting like a princess and show me rude and nasty attitude ...each time i give her orders she will always mess up the orders include food i instruct her to buy and never bother to ask when she is unsure and wasted my money as she bought wrong things from the supermarket ...so terrible bad attitude of this ikeu ...also each time i ask her to buy sonething like macdonald thats near our house she will take round an hr plus to come back ...its like taking the time to meet her friends instead so i tell her off but there no inprovement...she was close to 30 of age but did not think sensibly .sometimes i scolded her coz she did not do the housework propely and neglect my child.once i even see bruise on my child hands i think she abuse it too much...when u confront her she deny it blurntly and even ask one of my family who was not on good terms with me to sides her stupid and bad act.. she was too cunning...many times i was nice to her before give her treats dinner brought her out and trusted her but now she was too over and even my family was disapointed with her but we give her too many chances to stay 4 years here and she show no inprovement. i also think she steal many sanitary pads of mine as i remember only giving her little she a thief .sometimes my cupboard also seem to be unlock even i was back fr work.i inform her agent and they try to consoul her but guess they give up as she too cunning to change her side of story and blame us for bullying her instead ...such a rude and rebellious maid...i bet she was transfer maid coz previously she did something bad at her work place even her agency covered.Her agency was a money eating agency only care for profits.One day i checked her phone and found that she was soliciting in fb and so many guys malay or blangadash photos was found in her hp.wonder what is she doing...it seem real bad and my friend advise me to send her back incase she did more harmful things.she was also a great liar and will act innocent so careful of her. i also found a paper drawn in her bag with our family cartoon and seem like a curse for us to obey her.it too scary . Also we fight many times and when i shout at her she will threaten me with an evil smile as if i cant outwit her.finally i send her back and peace so better avoid such maid for your own safety.
 
If i may quote a small section of your text below

"..........she couldnt cook dont know how to do housework and was not patient to kids even she acted innocent but still she was lazy and sleep till 9 or more in morning and sleep early . so beginning i tolerate her bo chap attitude and even renew her contract.........."

Frankly speaking, i cannot understand how can your family make a decision to actually let her complete her 1st contract and even offer her an opportunity to renew her contract. Your family ppl are really too kind until being taken for granted in a big way.

Personally i have change helper 3 times.

The 1st one was plain lazy and we send her back about 6 mth. (This helper came from a big maid agency that is trusted by my sister)

the 2nd helper was excellent worker, however she have a fatal flawed that is she got involved with a SG guy and wanted the guy to marry him so much that she runaway from my house to be with her "BF". (This helper came from a website that she advertise herself for a job)

The irony is that my current helper starting salary was lower then both of the 1st 2 helper, base on resume, she have lesser experience taking care of children and she came from a tiny agency that chance upon accidently. Yet to date, she turn out to be the best (so far......)

Moral of the story and lesson learn for myself are as follow:

1) Treat helper with respect & talk to them nicely

2) Never deprive them of food, rest time

3) Never abuse them verbally & of cos physically too

Last but not least

4) If your current helper is not up the the standard that your family expect (I am expecting your standard is reasonable and achievable), then do not be afraid to send them back and get a replacement. Do not stick with a shitty helper because you fear the next helper will turn out to be shitter. It may happen but if you never try, you will never know.

All the best
 
Thanks for reply .well we treated her with respect for so many years.. untill she took it for granted and keep abusing us.
we keep her for so long as i thought she willll changed but she didnt and it was a bad lesson for me as it was my first maid ..
oh i understand ur situatiom almost bad as mine...nwadays hard to find gd maid...i scolded her for her own gd as it really over the limit and i guess we humans as tolerance level but she took it wrong way and argue fiercely to me ...and sometimes she make an evil laugh scaring my family .
Thanks for ur advice and hope we have better luck in maids soon.
 
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Thanks for reply .well we treated her with respect for so many years.. untill she took it for granted and keep abusing us.
we keep her for so long as i thought she willll changed but she didnt and it was a bad lesson for me as it was my first maid ..
oh i understand ur situatiom almost bad as mine...nwadays hard to find gd maid...i scolded her for her own gd as it really over the limit and i guess we humans as tolerance level but she took it wrong way and argue fiercely to me ...and sometimes she make an evil laugh scaring my family .
Thanks for ur advice and hope we have better luck in maids soon.

Hello, no worries. You can call me a cynical, but i do not really believe in ppl ability to change for the better. In the case of domestic helper, i will give 6 mth at most for them to change, if unable to meet my minimum requirement then i will opt to change. Yes, there is cost incurred to make the change and also a lot of inconvenience during the change process, but my family is of the opinion that it must be done without any further delay.

Hope your current helper is doing a good job.
 

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