Crayonmum,
I am not a strong person, I am emotionally weak. Like I said in my previous posting, I am emotionally needy. From young, I hv a lot of problems emotionally and physically. I had skin problems, felt neglected and frustrated as my dad was always fierce to us and I felt suppressed ( I hv low self-esteem). In work, I met nasty bosses cos I guess my PR skills are not good. I was really stressed esp when I came out to work and I had a lot of health problems then, but I didn't know how to treat it then.
Now it's better but I hv problems with my hubby. He doesn't communicate to me much ever since my gal was born despite talking to him nicely abt my needs. I felt he was not ready for fatherhood and supporting the family. I hv been through a lot, hurting myself and going into depression. I just felt a marriage without communication is meaningless. It's a lot of things, and I am softhearted so my hubby takes me for granted. I hv a part to play, I wished I was firm, rather than accommodating to him most of the time during courtship. If I had done that earlier, I wouldn't hv to suffer so much now. I has seen a fortune teller on my marriage, and she told me that I would hv a lot of problems im my marriage. I ask her will I get a divorce, she told me it's totally up to me. I took it with a pinch of salt then, but I never expected to be so true.
First, our problems were on hsework. After that it progress to lack of communication. Our r/s is not any better, cos I don't want to forgive him as I know he'll not change for the better. I just ignore him unless I hv something to tell him abt the kids, anyway he never bother to talk to me. I just keep my distance away from him. After all these emotionally pain, I realise I hv grown stronger, though I still feel sad sometimes. I need to focus on my kids, as they hv a long way to go and I don't want them to be like me.
I start to accept it, cos the more I resist, the more I suffer. I hv to live for myself, not just for my kids or my marriage. I feel that all the problems that I faced is to make me a stronger & better person. After hving kids, I get to know myself better, sometimes I don't even know why I behave in a certain way. I find that the person who is the most difficult to understand is myself.