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workingwife
congrats!
u did very well, esp so that u had to stay in hospital for the past weeks! enjoy motherhood
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sometimes i really dun knw how to handle my boy leh... 60ml usually last him 2-4hrs, but just now he woke up 1 hr and started screaming. he pooed and then started rooting around for food. i was reluctant to feed him more but gave it finally. getting quite stressed on how much milk to give him. worry over feeding
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singapoh
i've chked, no rash on anus. when my boy poo, the sound is really like explosion. it sound like its hard for him to poo. any idea how baby behave if constipation?

baby
my appt with dr f was fast like u said. the cold spray was a little stink. he asked me to see him in 1 mths time to chk that all is cleared and do pap smear.
my wound seem ok. but i still feel sore inside when i press the area between the wound and belly button. not sure why.
my vertical line is now very dark, and got dark patches round my belly button, dr f said it wont go away
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do u knw why we need to do pap smear? i forgot to ask him.
 
Gan,
I saw in the Motherhood magazine that if we deliver in KKH, we'll be given a goodie bag by them, upon discharge. Did u receive yours?
Btw, how do u find Huggies and Drypers? Which is better?
 
Happy hippo,
If bb is constipated the stools will be hard. Yr bb could be having gas pains. Is his tummy hard or bloated? If yes means got wind. U can try applying ru yi oil or massaging his tummy in a clockwise direction. Another way is to hold his calves n 'cycle' his legs
 
Babyhopeful yes received the goodie bag, inside got some kodomo samples, drypers, 1 piece of mamy poko, an earlier issue of motherhood mag etc

Huggies quality looks better but the nb size up to 4 kg so cutting smaller. My gal is abt 3 kg now, find the thigh area looks tight though she doesn't have thunder thighs so I am using Goon nb now.
Drypers I only used 1 piece seems ok. I think drypers is cheaper compared to huggies
 
Working wife
Congrats!! Im so proud of u!!

Happy
Me too.. I also have a dark vertical line and dark patches round my belly.. But i ask dr f whether will the line go away.. He say yes but not so soon leh... Hmm...

Panda
I also massage my breast real hard when i pump to get rid of the hard lumps and to get more milk... U can press on the side of the breast.. Or u can try to use single pump.. Its easier...

Gals i need advise
After stopping giving my gals bm.. The girls have problem pooing.. My elder girl cant poo out.. Has poo at the anus but cant come out and it went bk in again... Then got some blood... Anyone can advise how? I aldy let her drink water...
I ask pd today if bb got constipation how.. He say change formula.. Im using similac.. He say use nan1... But the price much cheaper so i dont know whether is it lesser nutrients..
What formula u girls using?
 
Grumpus my baby's stool is Like yellowish pumpkin soup... U mean if constipated will be solid stools? Then how do we know baby has diarrhea?

Happyhippo the sound is not farting? Coz my gal sometimes let out farting sound when she poo
 
Working wife, Congrats! Enjoy motherhood!

Panda, gan's method is right. That's how the LC thought me too. And it worked. Another way I figured is to hold the right funnel with right hand and left funnel in left hand. Use your pointer finger and middle finger to hold the funnel, then use your thumb and other 2 fingers on the middle part of the breast. This is good whenthe middle part is engorged. To prevent air from getting in, you must press the pump tight towards the breast.
 
grumpus
my bb poo is yellow watery, ok so tat means not constipated. his stomach sometimes feels hard/bloated, so that must be wind then.
yes im ardi using ru yi oil. how often shd i use? i rub ru yi oil on my hand then put my palms over his stomach, without touching his stomach. is this how u do it? how many times shd we do this each day? any other parts we can apply ruyi oil?
tks for the idea on rubbing his tummy & cycle his feet- ok will try tat out too.

gan
the sound my bb make is really very very loud and sudden. so not sure if that is considered farting or gas.
 
Baby,
Sounds like yr girl is constipated. Some bbs r very sensitive to FM. My girl can only drink mamil, most other brands make her constipated. U kind of hv to trial n error, different FM work for different bb. Think u shouldn't worry too much abt nutrients, all FM should be abt the same, solving the constipation is more impt.

Gan,
Err after u take care of yr bb for awhile n u clean poo everyday, U'll know if there's a change in texture/colour/frequency indicating something is not right. But yes it is quite difficult to identify diarrhea in a bf bb cos they poo so frequently....hahaha

Happy hippo,
My girl was a super gassy bb. I used ru yi oil after her bath and before every feed cos it helped her to burp better. I put the oil on my hands and rub my hands together to warm the oil and I actually place my hands directly on her tummy for a few seconds, then rub my hands together again and apply again. But I dun rub the oil onto her tummy.
After applying the oil I sometimes wrap a cloth nappy around her tummy to keep it warm or I carry her upright on my shoulder so tat her tummy is pressed against me. Usually she will burp or fart and then be much more comfortable after tat.
 
grumpus, tried the method..heheh.. end up leaking the bm everywhere...need some practice...:S

wht the LC at tmc taught was to pump 5 mins, massage 5mins..then pump 5 mins.. so i never got to do massage while pumping in hosp....

another forum sister suggested using warm water bottle... i tried just now..seems to stimulate more milk..

i tink i have mastitis leh.. right breast has this red patch which is very sore... haiz. tmr better go see doctor get anti biotics... dun want to get worse n hv to stop bf.....
 
Grumpus
Ohh.. Then we must buy different kind of fm brand to let bb trial n error? So far we only give similac.. Yday nite hb went to buy nan1 as suggested by pd.. We notice nan1 is more watery not as thick as similac...
Can bb take honey water now to ease the constipation?

Panda
So serious ah till u have red patch on yr breast... Better go see dr.. Cos if u have mastitis.. U need antibiotics to clear it..
Yday i went to glen e parentcraft to see lc.. She help me massage till all my blocked ducts are cleared.. Immediately my breast turn soft... Is yr breast hard rock? Or only some part are hard?
U may want to consider getting another pump cos i thk avent is not good in clearing all the milk tats y we have blocked ducts and engorgement... I used the hosp medela pump.. I find it so good... Maybe u can t loan hosp pump home see whether its better for u.. Then u can go buy...

U must be in alot of pain now... Poor thing.. I know the pain is v v unbearable.. I had it for almost 3 days till i wana die mann...
 
Btw how come cannot apply ruyi oil directly on bb tummy?
My cl rub the oil in her hands then apply directly on bb tummy leh... Not good is it?
 
Panda,
U try single pump n massage first then when u're used to position then try double pump. Hot water bottle helps to soften the lumps so will get more milk.

Baby,
Since dr said try nan, then u try nan first. if ok then no need to change anymore. If still constipated then u hv to try other fm brand to see wat works for yr girl.

NO HONEY for bbs under one.
 
Baby,
I rub ru yi oil on my hands n apply to bb tummy also, but I just place my hands gently on the tummy so some oil gets onto the tummy. I dun rub the oil onto the tummy. It will be too hot for bb cos their skin is very sensitive.
With the oil on my hands I can feel the heat already, imagine how hot it will be for them
 
baby, the red patch is sore..not very painful.. still ok. my breast is very soft after pumping.. i always try to empty it.. only the red patch has some discomfort.

today the patch is smaller n less painful.. i will observe..if still hv fever n sore later, will go see doctor. now hv to continue pumping 2hrly...

grumpus, yeah.. last night i tried single pump, hot water bottle n massage while pumping.. the two night pumps, emptied both breasts...
 
Congrats just faith and working_wife on your promotion ! Enjoy motherhood...


fruitree
2 wks is too soon, I would not risk it. I only drove 5 wks after. C-sect is post op., it is advisable to follow post op. procedures since u cannot see your internal wound. What's you Dr's advice ? Just take cab or deliver when your hubby is around, other times just give bbs formula.

happyhippo
It is recommended we do pap smear eveyr 2 yrs to see if u have abnormal cancer causing cells. But its not a must, but if u already seeing gynae, might as well do it.

Colic bbs usually fuss at about the same time of the day for no reason, plus those mentioned by grumpus. Soaking bb in a tub of warm water may calm them also, but abit troublesome. The hospital here uses a tummy massager on colic bbs.

baby
grumpus is right, don't worry about the price of fm. 'Nan' has been around for a long time, its reliable, fm is more or less the same. For me, my top choice is S26, which is what I used to drink as a bb.
 
baby, can post ur agency contact details again?

need to start looking for maid.. my bro's wife also preggie.. delivering in aug...hb says he surrender to maid..hehe.. in case my mum decides to go n help my bro, i will need extra pair of hands.

FM...my gal poo very little while on Enfalac A plus.. PD ask me to feed her Enfalac HA...

but since ur PD recommend NAN, you should give it a try...
 
nancy..squeeze the breasts like u are squeezing milk out... need some practising for me in order not to leak the precious BM out..
 
Nancy to massage.... Start with ur nipples first, ur thumb And 2nd finger in a c shape roll ur nipples 5 times, then u shape 5 times. Move on to ur aerola, similarly c shape 5times, u shape 5 times. Then the flesh part, use ur palm hold top and bottom massage left right , then palm on both sides of 1 breast up down.
Not sure u know what I meant. =p I did that in hospital when my supply not in. Now I just pump without massage.=p
 
Also massage like this when I had the hard lumps.... Which is painful.

Not sure about avent the medela swing before pumping as a function which imitate the sucking of a baby to simulate milk Flow.
 
Grumpus
Bb under one yr cant drink honey ah?
Cos scare of allergy?

Brought my twin 1 to see pd cos of constipation... Pd got to manually take out the poo... So heartpain.. Luckily the pd manage to get all poo out.. She say if cant.. Got to go hosp to do rectum wash... Gosh...

Panda
If yr breast if soft then im sure u should be fine...
U still having fever?
U pumping every 2hrs ah.. Must be v tiring for u..
 
All Lovely mommies and Mum to be,

May peace break into your house and may thieves
come to steal your debts.

May the pockets of your jeans become a magnet of $1000 bills.

May love stick to your face and may laughter assault your lips!

May your clothes smell of success like smoking tires and

May happiness slap you across the face and may your tears be that of joy.

May the problems you had, forget your home address!

In simple words...
May 2011 be the best year of your life!

Wow iam so excited next year i will hold my little one in my hand.. iam sure all mum to be will be feeling same like me..
 
Baby,
Honey is an unsafe food that can cause infant botulism.
Honey is more likely to contain botulinum spores than any other food and therefore should avoid it as bb could get very sick.

Nancy,
I massaged my breasts literally like milking a cow. Squeezing and rubbing from back to front in one smooth motion.
 
Nancy,

There is a way to massage yr breasts b4 pumping. LC taught me how to. If I remember well, u can refer to the Bf guide from KKH

Nipple rolling is important as it opens more pores.
 
Mummies,

Today is D2 post op. Woound very painful, especially when I try to sit up or cough (cuz got mucus frm the GA). How did u all cope w the pain? When did u start walking and was it painful when u did it?

At this rate, dunno how to be discharged sooner. Really hope tomorrow got progress. My first meal was dinner tonight, before that was Milo for lunch only. Got a lotta wind now which adds to the pain. How do u resolve that?
 
working wife,
i started walking 24hrs after op. in fact i was kicked out of bed by the nurse. i remember i gave her this incredulous look when she told me i had to get out of bed to go toilet. i looked at her and literally asked her "how to get up?". but hang in there, it really does get better if u walk around more. walking helps with the wind too.

when u sit up dun use yr stomach muscles, roll to yr side and use yr arms to push yrself up. if u need to cough, grab a thickly folded blanket and press to yr wound then cough lightly (i had mucus from the GA as well).

are u wearing a binder? that helps to support the wound and relieves a lot of the pain. if u need to, take some painkillers.
 
Working wife I took painkiller during my stay at kkh... 2 weeks after delivery, I still feel pain when I cough and get out of bed. But ok with walking sinc d3.

Happyhippo my gal will auto cry for milk every 3 hrs. She is taking abt 70 to 80 ml now.

Happy 2011 to all !!
 
hi gan
u are breast feeding 100%?
i kinda of gave up after 2wks, started to use FM. now thinking of trying to get back to latching on 100%. not sure if can succeed.
 
Happyhippo, my gal is on breadtmilk 100%. Since discharge from hospital . but I din latch but express out the milk to feed her.
 
Working wife
D2 the wound is still v raw.. Its normal to be v painful...
I only started to get off the bed at d3... It will get better after walking abit... Its difficult to get up.. So like what grumpus say.. Roll yr body to the side and use ur arms to support u up.. Or ask ur hb to carry u up...

And its v pain when u try to cough.. So cough lightly.. And press ur wound when u wana cough... Pass out more air is good cos our tummy got alot of wind during op.. So its normal to pass out wind...
 
working wife, nurse ask me to start try n get out of bed and try to go toilet on D2.. i tried a few times in the morning n afternoon..but din make it..once i get on my feet, my bp dropped and i feel giddy...

only successful in the evening... before tht had to use bedpan to pee....

pain is normal....but once u overcome it n get on ur feet..it doesnt feel so bad anymore.. esp when u see the precious darlings
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i took warm honey w lemon to ease the coughing..

yah..i also had alot of wind... nurse says its normal as well... n the wind will cause discomfort or pain as its circulating...so passing it out is good.
 
Thx girls for the advice!

Today is better than yesterday. Will try to get out of bed today to go toilet. If successful, can remove catheter.

Did u girls try breast pumping in the hosp? Any milk whilst in hosp? I've been latching on my boy n girl since yest but don't think got much, only some colestrum. Nurse will let them latch on first to familiarise w the breast then they will bottle feed FM. I want to start pumping so they can feed BM.

One more ques, what fruits can we eat during confinement? And frm what I read in yr posts, no chicken and egg in first two weeks? Can we drink plain boiled water or only the red date longan tea?
 
Working wife
I tot must remove catheter then can get up? With the catheter still there how to go toilet?

U can borrow pump frm hosp to pump milk and to stimulate yr nipple for milk to come in... U can ask hosp to cup feed yr bbs so they wont be used to the bottle if u wana latch them on..

Yes no chicken n eggs for the first two weeks... And most believe no plain water.. Only red date n longan tea... But i start to drink plain water frm 3rd wk onwards cos really thirsty..
 
Hi working wife, i started pumping on 4th day coz i had the hard lumps and was painful so the nurse said use the hospital pump to express the milk. since then i have been expressing my bm to feed my baby as she had to do phototherapy. i pump during the day every 3 hrs and bring the bm to the nursery for the nurse to feed my baby. but night time i didn't pump coz was tired. i tried latching my baby on the first 3 days also not much. so the nurse will also supplement with FM.

My CL said can only eat apples and those green pears. didn't take chicken and eggs until day 12. but still eating pork and fish most of the time now. I drank plain boiled water since delivery coz there is no red date tea provided in kkh. my mum is too excited abt the grandchild to remember to boil for me. =P guess it is no no to drink plain boiled water if you follow strictly confinement rules.
 
Working wife,

If u see colostrum means yr milk is coming in. For my 1st delivery, I didn't drink plain water at all. I find that longan drink is too yucky if drink too much.

This time I drank warm water from D1 coz need plenty of fluid to produce milk for 2 babies. I just can't drink too muc of soup/longan drink and I sweat a lot after drinking those.
 

Panda,
technically u dun cos when bb drink direct they dun suck in wind. but good practice is to carry them upright for awhile after the feed before putting them to lie down.
 

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