Enchanted
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Hi gal, yes i agreed her words hurt. But i guess her style is frank type. She didnt accept me as ours is sperm issues(guess she dun specialise in male infertilty) so she referred me to dr hemashree who sees males subinfertility. Apparently,dr hema mentioned it was bad. She ask e embrologist for advise n she told our soldiers is not enough to do ivf even though u can store 5 to 6 vials prior. So dr hema suggested op for hubby.
We were reluctant to go to op for hubby so we dropped sgh and went to private clinic. Private clinic embrologist was encouraging n says can try icsi, His soldiers enough for it. No need for op. So off we were for 1st ivf and yes i managed to have 14 eggs fertilised,2 transfered. But sadly it was a bfn n the rest didnt make for freezing as after day 6 all e embries stop growing. I am left with none to freeze and got to start fresh all over again if i trying 2nd time. Apparantly,e diagnosis was largely due to cos hubby sperms tt leads to cells stop multiply n thus arrested development.dr says can try 2nd time. But as ivf is ex at private hospital, i have second tots of going 2nd time at private hospital.
I rested a few mths after bfn and went to govt route for subsidy n since i feel my case is trying luck on finding a good spermie. So i went poly clinic to get a referral letter to kkh.
For govt route,i think if yrs is ivf,u can directly name e dr u wanted to see. There is no difference once u start ivf simulation on e cost. E only difference is e blood test and scans having subsidy if u are a sub patient. E cost diff is ard $200 that u can saved. U already is kkh subsidy patient?then is easier,u use e subsidy patient status to do all e test if needed(maybi u can skip as u already have recent bloodtest n scans done at sgh),then proceed ivf to name a doc from there then private. U can save a little bit with this route as mentioned above
I went to kkh but not done ivf yet. Will be next mth and stepping in with not much confidence. But will try as there is no way put for us to strike natural as advised by both western n chinese doc.
So in e certain extent,i believe there is some wisdom in dr yu diagnosis but out there we just wanna try luck n to find e lucky good egg n sperm,if we can find a good 1 to have a bfp n a live born bb.
But i also find tt different labs has different handling styles. (Eg some wash e sperms a lot hence a lot will not make it,some minimal washing to retain more spermies).So its also maybi trying luck at different labs.
Internet tells me if embries stop growing at day 1-3 ,its more of egg issues. If arrested after day 3,its more of spermies issues.
So i guess maybi need to try if multivits works for u for 3 mths at least and go for another shot of try at another hospital. Good luck!
I also didn't tell my family about my ivf route, don't want to give them false hopes. After married 5 years ago, my hb and I had been avoiding CNY gatherings and go travelling instead to avoid unnecessary remarks or questions. We just told them we are saving the Ang Pows during reunion dinner.
Don't give up hope! All the best.