Hi
@blurtingz, I have read that there is actually no real scientific evidence that less stress improves the chances of conception, contrary to popular opinion. That said, many friends have told me about how their friends were in stressful jobs (most common example is teaching) and couldn't get pregnant but conceived successfully thru IVF quite quickly after they quit. So maybe it depends on the level of stress in your job. I have also read about (and agree with) opinions that quitting a job is not necessarily beneficial, especially if you are the type to get easily worried or depressed. Sitting around at home with no major responsibilities (other than IVF) creates too much free time. With no other major distraction to take up your time and energy, you focus too much on the outcome of IVF and withdraw into a world where your problems become magnified, so you may get even more stressed, anxious and depressed. I think I was one of these kind, which is why job-related stress was not a significant contributing factor to my TTC efforts, contrary to what most people tell me. Since you have been doing IVF for 4 years, have you asked for your doctor's opinion whether quitting your job might help at all? Maybe if your company allows it, you can apply for no-pay leave and see if it helps with your IVF and see how you feel about your change in lifestyle.
Staying at home by yourself with nothing much to do is of course very different from staying at home to take care of children. One of my bosses is the sole breadwinner of his family, which consists of a stay-at-home wife and 3 children. He told me that it is possible for a family with young kids to get by on one person's income. Just make conscious decisions to save up, for e.g., go on fewer overseas holidays, buy less expensive clothing etc etc.