IVF/ICSI Support Group
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rostrum: think its the hormone level also la, amongst other factors..
yah u'r right.. sometimes dunno so much better, jus close one eye and follow the nurse's advice or dr's .. thats why when i was doing the program i didn't log in here. i found it quite stressful.. later think why this person feel this i dun etc..
sometimes, things jus dun need any explaination.. jus go with the flow... personally la.,
yah u'r right.. sometimes dunno so much better, jus close one eye and follow the nurse's advice or dr's .. thats why when i was doing the program i didn't log in here. i found it quite stressful.. later think why this person feel this i dun etc..
sometimes, things jus dun need any explaination.. jus go with the flow... personally la.,
Singapoh,
Actually u r a very +ve person...I hope to get all the +ve vibes from u without tinking too much or too paranoid...everytime I read yr post, u seem bo chup lidat bt things still run smoothly for u..I hope I can be like u,....
I wun give up cos tis is my oni chance to get preggie...never try never noe ma..
Actually u r a very +ve person...I hope to get all the +ve vibes from u without tinking too much or too paranoid...everytime I read yr post, u seem bo chup lidat bt things still run smoothly for u..I hope I can be like u,....
I wun give up cos tis is my oni chance to get preggie...never try never noe ma..
rostrum: yea, i started a blog n stopped coming here.. cold turkey!! only came back after BFP hehe..
scary la, keep reading too much info.. all the worries etc etc.. to me it's stressful..
anything i jus call up the nurses at kkivf direct,
ignorance is indeed bliss. but not saying we totally dunno anything, i allowed myself to surf for info.. read up on library books until day 1 of my lucrin.. start day 1, i totally stopped! n it worked! made me less stressed up..
scary la, keep reading too much info.. all the worries etc etc.. to me it's stressful..
anything i jus call up the nurses at kkivf direct,
ignorance is indeed bliss. but not saying we totally dunno anything, i allowed myself to surf for info.. read up on library books until day 1 of my lucrin.. start day 1, i totally stopped! n it worked! made me less stressed up..
hope_for_bb,
I dun tink u hv much of a plm though u r on 13 yrs of medication, if so, Prof will alert u already...dun tink too much ok?
Are u going for the talk next Sat?
oxidised,
I also start on my own blog and oni allow myself to read and a close fren of mine to access oni....tt is another way of letting out anything inside me there...
I noe abt the procedure now aft going for the counselling..now I will try to build up my body to be ready for the start of the program next mth....
Dun wan to noe too much liao...try to relax and relax...
I dun tink u hv much of a plm though u r on 13 yrs of medication, if so, Prof will alert u already...dun tink too much ok?
Are u going for the talk next Sat?
oxidised,
I also start on my own blog and oni allow myself to read and a close fren of mine to access oni....tt is another way of letting out anything inside me there...
I noe abt the procedure now aft going for the counselling..now I will try to build up my body to be ready for the start of the program next mth....
Dun wan to noe too much liao...try to relax and relax...
rostrum,
I try to stay positive. Things have not been going on smoothly for me as you think. Halfway through the ivf fresh cycle, I quarrelled with my dh. He told me to stop ivf. Well i told him, I will not give up halfway whether he liked it or not.
During my FET , he made me cry again. Am really lucky to get a BFP.
I have learnt to motivate and comfort myself coz I am the best person to do so. It made me a stronger person.
I try to stay positive. Things have not been going on smoothly for me as you think. Halfway through the ivf fresh cycle, I quarrelled with my dh. He told me to stop ivf. Well i told him, I will not give up halfway whether he liked it or not.
During my FET , he made me cry again. Am really lucky to get a BFP.
I have learnt to motivate and comfort myself coz I am the best person to do so. It made me a stronger person.
rostrum,
It seems like I am the only one involved in the IVF program. All I ask him is to drive me to KKH during his lunch hour for my oil progestrone jab. He pulled a long face and quarrelled with me in the car when I confronted him. Here I am taking all the pain and I just want him to be there to support me. So he asked me to stop IVF. How selfish of him lah? I already halfway there. Not gonna give up because of him or anyone.
It seems like I am the only one involved in the IVF program. All I ask him is to drive me to KKH during his lunch hour for my oil progestrone jab. He pulled a long face and quarrelled with me in the car when I confronted him. Here I am taking all the pain and I just want him to be there to support me. So he asked me to stop IVF. How selfish of him lah? I already halfway there. Not gonna give up because of him or anyone.
Singapoh,
Issit bcos he is v tied up at work...if not, i tink he is not being v supportive...U r the one suffering, not him and so he got to chip in to help u out!
U r v strong and determine, if I were u, I will be so pissed off too...bt also not giving up cos already halfway thru le...
Issit bcos he is v tied up at work...if not, i tink he is not being v supportive...U r the one suffering, not him and so he got to chip in to help u out!
U r v strong and determine, if I were u, I will be so pissed off too...bt also not giving up cos already halfway thru le...
hope 4 bb,
I can take the car but I want him to be there for me for at least once but I have been going down all by myself.
Btw after a few oil progestrone jab, I was unable to drive a car due to pain and nausea.
FET also the same thing. Expect me to go by myself. Never offer to send me there before going to work. Only when I asked him, he sent me there once. Lucky my cycle was short so I didn't have to go to KKH so many times for scanning. He only took leave for the ET.
I can take the car but I want him to be there for me for at least once but I have been going down all by myself.
Btw after a few oil progestrone jab, I was unable to drive a car due to pain and nausea.
FET also the same thing. Expect me to go by myself. Never offer to send me there before going to work. Only when I asked him, he sent me there once. Lucky my cycle was short so I didn't have to go to KKH so many times for scanning. He only took leave for the ET.
Hey Singapoh/Rostrum, i agree it's good to get the husband involved. i made my husband jab me everyday so i didn't feel like the journey was mine alone. He had to prepare the needles, swabs, everything. Hee hee. He's not afraid of needles anyway, though i am.
hope 4 bb - i had a bruise once or twice when i hit a vein, but that was at the start. after that i just avoided those same spots. Pinch a fatty part of your tummy an inch or two away from your navel, relax dont tense up the muscle, inject, let go of tummy, remove needle, quickly press the alcohol swab but not too forcefully. Sitting down is easier because the tummy fat (if you have) is easier to grab.
hope 4 bb - i had a bruise once or twice when i hit a vein, but that was at the start. after that i just avoided those same spots. Pinch a fatty part of your tummy an inch or two away from your navel, relax dont tense up the muscle, inject, let go of tummy, remove needle, quickly press the alcohol swab but not too forcefully. Sitting down is easier because the tummy fat (if you have) is easier to grab.
Hi Spiffy, thks for advice..will ask huby to do tat..his hand seems to shiver when he inject for me..haha..but i cant manage with one hand pinching and another hand holding needle myeslf
singapoh,
gd that yr determination pays off...but seems carrying twins..u need to be mmore careful, so in future all consultation and follow up just ask huby to send u there..dont care...keke..
singapoh,
gd that yr determination pays off...but seems carrying twins..u need to be mmore careful, so in future all consultation and follow up just ask huby to send u there..dont care...keke..
Singapoh, hang in there because of your children. I know it is very sad to know that you had to go through a lot and it was so easier for the man to give up. Think this way, you went through a lot just to have your babies. They are worth more to think then any other problems.
Sometimes I just don't understand men. When the ladies have problem getting pregnant, problem always lies with the ladies. THen when we are going through the hassle of trying to get pregnant they want us to give up.
ANyway Singapoh, take care of yourself
Rostrum, so you cannot have your IVF started this cycle beacause of no slot??? Now I am wondering if I can actually get a slot using my Nov menses since you mentioned that you had asked CHR nurse to "squeeze" you in. Maybe I will call up CHR and find out. I wonder if repeat patient like me will have priority..heheheh....
When I met Prof last week, he did not ask me to book at CHR which we did for our first attempt. It just told me that my cycle will be in NOv-Dec instead of this month.
I guess we can be cycle buddy again.
Any idea when is Chinese New Year? I see if my leave will fall on that so can cut down the number of leave.
Sometimes I just don't understand men. When the ladies have problem getting pregnant, problem always lies with the ladies. THen when we are going through the hassle of trying to get pregnant they want us to give up.
ANyway Singapoh, take care of yourself
Rostrum, so you cannot have your IVF started this cycle beacause of no slot??? Now I am wondering if I can actually get a slot using my Nov menses since you mentioned that you had asked CHR nurse to "squeeze" you in. Maybe I will call up CHR and find out. I wonder if repeat patient like me will have priority..heheheh....
When I met Prof last week, he did not ask me to book at CHR which we did for our first attempt. It just told me that my cycle will be in NOv-Dec instead of this month.
I guess we can be cycle buddy again.
Any idea when is Chinese New Year? I see if my leave will fall on that so can cut down the number of leave.
jklim4642
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Singapoh, yes I do agree that mother is the best giver. But single income is really risky n man can be very stressful coz of that. He has to bring in the bacon to feed the wife n children, he has to pay for car n housing loan n save for retirement n save for the kids' education. Is really not easy, Am not siding him. But is true loh...
He may have overlooked how u feel at times. but he is a good father n hubby to provide for u n the children.
He may have overlooked how u feel at times. but he is a good father n hubby to provide for u n the children.
Hi Singapoh
I went for social counselling and the social worker advise that I should let my hubby knows exactly how I want him to support me during the IVF process. In fact she was saying give your husband the 10 years series with the right answers, tell him exactly what you want to hear or expect. so that I won't get angry or upset during the process when I think he didn't do the right thing.
Will be getting my hubby involved by asking him to jab for me. =) he was the one practising at KKH today.
I went for social counselling and the social worker advise that I should let my hubby knows exactly how I want him to support me during the IVF process. In fact she was saying give your husband the 10 years series with the right answers, tell him exactly what you want to hear or expect. so that I won't get angry or upset during the process when I think he didn't do the right thing.
Will be getting my hubby involved by asking him to jab for me. =) he was the one practising at KKH today.
Thx gan, it reported today so no more issues.
personally, i found the counselling session too long (almost 2 hrs) and the points mentioned were repeated.
not sure if it was due to the fact that mine was with another couple.
sometimes i feel that she (the counsellor) painted too bleak a picture or made us (women) appear too weak and vulnerable. I admit that we can be, but I wonder if preparing us for the Worst is better than teaching us how to keep ourselves positive throughout the process. DH tried so hard to stifle his yawns (it was right after lunch) while i just kept nodding thru out, hoping it would be over soon. I felt that she didn't have too good an impression on the info we share in the forum, saying that some are too negative etc. but i beg to differ so i 'jumped to the forum's defense' so to speak. Ha!
personally, i found the counselling session too long (almost 2 hrs) and the points mentioned were repeated.
not sure if it was due to the fact that mine was with another couple.
sometimes i feel that she (the counsellor) painted too bleak a picture or made us (women) appear too weak and vulnerable. I admit that we can be, but I wonder if preparing us for the Worst is better than teaching us how to keep ourselves positive throughout the process. DH tried so hard to stifle his yawns (it was right after lunch) while i just kept nodding thru out, hoping it would be over soon. I felt that she didn't have too good an impression on the info we share in the forum, saying that some are too negative etc. but i beg to differ so i 'jumped to the forum's defense' so to speak. Ha!