Hello daledale , hello Fel C and hello imkfanatic
Welcome gd_luck_come , hello all
So many good sisters and listeners here, really grateful to come back to this forum and having you all.
First of all - big thank you to daledale for the mini confinement menu - I can't read Chinese but I will forward my Mum to translate for me
Fel C and all , sharing my update since my bleeding...
Saturday, the first bleeding was mixed with the pill - hence faint pink, the later night one was red n some blood clod here n there ; I knew it's over . Next day , almost like full flow of menses , and I am still having menses by now , which is the longest I ever had since 3 years now . I had problem with short period and Long spotting each cycle . So my gf said it's good to reboot and "refresh" the womb.
I called kkh on Monday before I go in directly . On the phone they said "come and bring the blood test letter"; and we will give you a new slot to see doc. I followed what they said obediently n lucky I asked - which number of q do I press ? She said no.3
I waited a while - I go to room no1 where I went once to learn how to jab and probably it's the ad hoc request room! The nurse was surprised on adhoc updates and request - being a mass patient in KKH - we really need to be equipped with as much knowledge ourselves and know what to ask n do next ! She's totally blur (the nurse); went out a long while with my blood test letter ; n then came didn't say much and said here you go - ur next appt to see doctor end of next month !
I loose it at that point - I said here I m - failed my first fresh cycle , I need to understand what went wrong and I want to plan next step asap coz my age is not young and what kind of Counselling or support kkh give for failed cases ? Morally ? Nothing correct ? With that insistence , she said why not u go front desk again (payment area) and ask for earlier appointment to see doc ? Blur enough why I need to do that myself - I went to the front ; press a q number n waited. 2 young Nurses - one is trainee and one experienced - I was firm and demanded for earlier doc meeting . From a 2 months wait (just to review the cycle ; not to start a new cycle) ; I got an appt this Thursday AM. Will update more after Thursday appt.
Also, I didn't see dr Zou or any Tcm earlier coz I had not very successful stories with TCM (one even sell USANA products as her main supplements !) and a gf adviced don't eat any Chinese herb during Ivf.
But since my flow quite heavy this time ; n I feel cramp on one side (like literally ; I m drying up fr bleeding kind of cramp, haha exaggerating); I decided to go dr Zou .
Went there yesterday without appointment at 12pm ; thinking can last min squeeze myself in before lunch time 1pm close. To my surprise , No DOCTOR for a month during morning ! The gatekeeper said morning doc is not Dr Zou n currently Travelling in US . Afternoon starts 330pm onwards will be Dr Zou n she's fully packed in the afternoon though he said u can go shopping centre nearby n hang n come back later. I didn't . Coz I need to pick my Son.
Today I went again without appt at the time gatekeeper highly recommend that's Low peak - 4plus PM . He forgotten what he said to me but I insisted he suggested I walked in that timing n I did! No choice he gave me a number , only 3 numbers away , I waited 30 mins... n seeing Dr Zou n her lady assistant is my best experience in my whole cycle so far !
Both of them ESP Dr Zou explained so many things to me that I couldn't pick up fr this forum n fully understood now! I happened to bring my 2 embryos pics n she looked at it and said -it's 2 days old ? I said no, 3 days old . She said , having 8 cells is optimal and I only have 4-5 cells each egg. I said why didn't kk waited one more day ? She said sometimes one more day the egg will not succeed ... so kk will never recommend it coz some patients will be too disappointed if no FET done. N good eggs should continue to grow cells even after transfer but she said looking at the pic n understanding my history and I have hypertension - she said my quality of eggs not so good ... mystery solved !!! It's not my carrying of my son! Basically my eggs looked weak to start with. N I only had 6 good eggs , 3 fertilised , the other 3 dunno it's status yet (kk hasn't told me as of FET day).
As I was still bleeding , she couldn't give me acupuncture , just one week of Med and ask me to return for acu when I stop bleeding. Hence I have a much clearer understanding of most things now ...
Lastly - i bumped into a close gf with a 4 months old baby girl (2nd child); n I blurt out n said - can I be her godma? She happily said yes ! At that point of Time - I suddenly felt total relieve ! I have a GodDaughter I can shower my love ... my Son can experience having a "Sister" ; I don't have to stress giving my Son a sibling or two ! I dunno maybe it's just me...
I don't know if I can go through another round of IVF. With my impatient and restless and "mang Zhang" character - it's just too much for me to endure another 2WW. Of course , nothing compared to holding our own baby , but with all the stress ... I felt like I might give up after this round ....
That's all sisters. Thank you for reading my post!
Take care everyone and good luck !