Hi,
I'm happy to see that there's a support group for TTC gals. It's an arduous painful journey. I have been TTC for 5years, married for 7 years. After trying on our own for 1st 2 years, nothing happened. My husband and I went to do a check up. There was nothing serious with us. Everything is fine. No blockages, no PCOS, hormones are normal. My menses is very regular, except that it can drag on to 9 days. So I decided to try TCM. I've been on TCM since 2014, changed a few doctors. I've been very dutiful in all my medication and acupuncture and still not pregnant. I was afraid of going for something invasive as I heard many stories of how hormone treatments have very bad after effects in the later part of life. Nevertheless, I went for 1 IUI and sadly, it didn't work out.
I stuck myself in the same job, just so that I don't stress myself out with the change. But I couldn't take it anymore as there was no growth in what I was doing and there was cost cutting in the company. In addition, my good friends have left the company. Finally last year, I left my job of 9 years. I did freelancing, thinking that with less stress, it could help me, but I still did not get the result (pregnancy) I want. I will be going back to work next month, so that I could have enough savings to embark on IVF.
Although my husband is supportive but he can't understand the pain I'm going through. At times, he doesn't cooperate. There were days when I was ovulating and he just refuse to try because he's tired. As years passed, his sperm quality went down, it took me a long time to convince him to see a TCM doctor. He would take medicine the 1st 2 months but stopped because he wonders if it's worth it. It took me a lot of effort to get him to go back again.
I feel so alone at times.
Right now, I'm thinking of changing a TCM doctor again, to someone who's more supportive. I have went to the following doctors:
1) Dr Zou (at AMK) - she's ok but her clinic queue system its horrible. I waited 1-2hours each time I was there. I realised that it doesn't make a difference whether you make an appointment or not. Each month, I have to visit the clinic at least 6 times (Acupuncture, follow-up consultation). It was taking too much time.
2) EYS standard physician- I saw a normal physician near my office. It was convenient as I could do acupuncture during lunch time. It saved alot of time. Though my health was better but my menses was still 9days long.
3) Dr Tan Kian Seng - the queue system is good, though I may wait up to 1hour at times, but they will anticipate your coming and hold the place for you. Health didn't improve much and menses still 9days long.
4) Dr Tan Siew Bouy - the queue system here is good too. Yes, the wait can be 1hour long, but again, they anticipate your coming and hold your place. There was one time I was 30min late but they still honor that I was a 3pm appointment and put me before the 4pm person. Unfortunately, due to the long Q, Dr Tan don't chat much and neither does she update you on your health condition. The consultation is very chopchop. My health improved and so did my menses. Finally It's 7days! She only sees the patient once a month, compared to all the above Drs and there's no acupuncture.
I hope to find a good TCM doc who's supportive too. If you gals have anyone to recommend, please let me know.
I'm happy to see that there's a support group for TTC gals. It's an arduous painful journey. I have been TTC for 5years, married for 7 years. After trying on our own for 1st 2 years, nothing happened. My husband and I went to do a check up. There was nothing serious with us. Everything is fine. No blockages, no PCOS, hormones are normal. My menses is very regular, except that it can drag on to 9 days. So I decided to try TCM. I've been on TCM since 2014, changed a few doctors. I've been very dutiful in all my medication and acupuncture and still not pregnant. I was afraid of going for something invasive as I heard many stories of how hormone treatments have very bad after effects in the later part of life. Nevertheless, I went for 1 IUI and sadly, it didn't work out.
I stuck myself in the same job, just so that I don't stress myself out with the change. But I couldn't take it anymore as there was no growth in what I was doing and there was cost cutting in the company. In addition, my good friends have left the company. Finally last year, I left my job of 9 years. I did freelancing, thinking that with less stress, it could help me, but I still did not get the result (pregnancy) I want. I will be going back to work next month, so that I could have enough savings to embark on IVF.
Although my husband is supportive but he can't understand the pain I'm going through. At times, he doesn't cooperate. There were days when I was ovulating and he just refuse to try because he's tired. As years passed, his sperm quality went down, it took me a long time to convince him to see a TCM doctor. He would take medicine the 1st 2 months but stopped because he wonders if it's worth it. It took me a lot of effort to get him to go back again.
I feel so alone at times.
Right now, I'm thinking of changing a TCM doctor again, to someone who's more supportive. I have went to the following doctors:
1) Dr Zou (at AMK) - she's ok but her clinic queue system its horrible. I waited 1-2hours each time I was there. I realised that it doesn't make a difference whether you make an appointment or not. Each month, I have to visit the clinic at least 6 times (Acupuncture, follow-up consultation). It was taking too much time.
2) EYS standard physician- I saw a normal physician near my office. It was convenient as I could do acupuncture during lunch time. It saved alot of time. Though my health was better but my menses was still 9days long.
3) Dr Tan Kian Seng - the queue system is good, though I may wait up to 1hour at times, but they will anticipate your coming and hold the place for you. Health didn't improve much and menses still 9days long.
4) Dr Tan Siew Bouy - the queue system here is good too. Yes, the wait can be 1hour long, but again, they anticipate your coming and hold your place. There was one time I was 30min late but they still honor that I was a 3pm appointment and put me before the 4pm person. Unfortunately, due to the long Q, Dr Tan don't chat much and neither does she update you on your health condition. The consultation is very chopchop. My health improved and so did my menses. Finally It's 7days! She only sees the patient once a month, compared to all the above Drs and there's no acupuncture.
I hope to find a good TCM doc who's supportive too. If you gals have anyone to recommend, please let me know.
