Hi, i do kind of identify with this thread ever since I became a SAHM. With a single income, our total income has effectively halved. And we both came from humble backgrounds and our incomes had always been those super average kind.
I dun feel bad abt taking public transport, although I hate the squeeziness. But I wun pay an arm and a leg to support a car when I can have much better uses for the money. Actually I'm very environmentally conscious and we are the kind of people that don't mind walking 2km to get to a destination when we have the time on a weekend. We don't like consuming lots cuz we think of the environemnt. The fancier the food, the more stress it has caused on the environment. I don't feel it's right to just take and take from the environment. E.g. looking at how restaurants package their food, or even processed foods which may seem fancy but in the end laced with trans fat and possibly even harmful plastics due to the packaging. Watch Food, Inc if you don't believe me. Overly "enriching" your kids will only make him dislike learning too. That's when the not buying a car unnecessarily comes into play - the savings can give u the boost should the need for enrichment class really arise.
Sometimes I do feel bad about not being able to afford more for my child, but hey he's got time from me that his friends don't! I have seen how a rich friend's kid - spoilt brat he is.. kicks tantrum even at the age of 5! Gets to be ferried to and fro sschool in continental CARS (yes more than 1), sometimes even sports car yet cries at will. (My son is only 2+, and he walks happily with me in the rain to the MRT station. He was tired but still he was cheerful. No whining, no fussing.) Served at home with 2 maids, get BIG item toys ever so often.. but at the end of the day, a very lonely child whose dad prefers to play golf than spend time with the kid when he's back in town (overseas based job). I also noticed he makes more eye contact with the pets than his own kid! So what if you earn 30k a month?! Contrast this with another friend's case - SAHM with 2 lovely girls, well mannered and pleasant, intelligent and a joy to be with. Who has the last laugh now? Today I realise why young children are so difficult to teach. No, make that ALL children. Because what we're trying to teach them constantly is values. And that's the hardest thing to teach - simply because it's the most important. And you certainly don't need money to teach that.
You don't need money to excel in some sports, like, running, basketball, soccer, swimming, most other team sports. Granted some of the sports do require deep pockets, like sailing, golf, tennis. And all sports are really about character building - perserverance and resilience training, being able to motivate oneself and others as well as teamwork.
I feel grateful for what I have. Having my son (when we thought we would never have a child), having a good hubby and everyone is healthy. Money can't buy u health, never forget that. It may buy one some time if one is ill, but that's abt it. And this rich friend of mine, I don't really think she's happy either. I will not go into too much detail here, but this is what I see.