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wow just as we are discussing this, my hb went to delete all of the porn emails his friend sent him...i wonder why?
is it remorse, or clearing his tracks in case i know the password to his email...
well he can always open a new account...
bottom line is i never trusted him completely and i trust him even less now...
is it remorse, or clearing his tracks in case i know the password to his email...
well he can always open a new account...
bottom line is i never trusted him completely and i trust him even less now...
omg i just found out about this site from a friend who caught her hubby surfing it:
http://www.san68forum.com/
Whats going on in this world that pple can easily get women like buying apples in the supermarket?!
http://www.san68forum.com/
Whats going on in this world that pple can easily get women like buying apples in the supermarket?!
I have a husband who watches porn too. I'm very upset,disgusted about it. I felt betrayed. Like every time he said he love me, it's all a lie. Fantasizing about other woman is still adultery. Adultery in the mind.
I'm really contemplating divorce because I don't like to be treated like an idiot. How can I even sleep with him now? The tots of him lying n accusing me of accusing him doing something wrong. I just feel sick. When I was pregnant, he's watching it too.
I suspected something was wrong when he always stayed up late so I downloaded a program to check on his web history. U knw how when they tried to cheat n delete history so tat u don't find out but nowadays a lot of software can retrieve the web history. Wah! After seeing the data from the software then I know this idiot surf all these porn sites for so long n frequent.
I'm really contemplating divorce because I don't like to be treated like an idiot. How can I even sleep with him now? The tots of him lying n accusing me of accusing him doing something wrong. I just feel sick. When I was pregnant, he's watching it too.
I suspected something was wrong when he always stayed up late so I downloaded a program to check on his web history. U knw how when they tried to cheat n delete history so tat u don't find out but nowadays a lot of software can retrieve the web history. Wah! After seeing the data from the software then I know this idiot surf all these porn sites for so long n frequent.
pingping
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Hi buyerz,
I happen to read an article on "Online brothels replacing Geylang's pimps" in the Straits Time. It seems like the link you provide in yr previous post is an online brothel. The numbers are increasing and it's not a good sign, as the article states that it makes it far too easy for pple, esp the young and the uninitiated to pay for sex. The counsellors are worried that it'll create more problem, as now it's is just a click on the mouse to book prostitutes.
This is a really worrying issue, not only it affects marriage, it will also affects our kids when they are teenagers. I think you really hv to check on yr husband before the problem gets worse. I don't even dare to let my hubby to know abt this, you just never know what a man will do. Now the temptations has reached our doorstep, really worrying.
I happen to read an article on "Online brothels replacing Geylang's pimps" in the Straits Time. It seems like the link you provide in yr previous post is an online brothel. The numbers are increasing and it's not a good sign, as the article states that it makes it far too easy for pple, esp the young and the uninitiated to pay for sex. The counsellors are worried that it'll create more problem, as now it's is just a click on the mouse to book prostitutes.
This is a really worrying issue, not only it affects marriage, it will also affects our kids when they are teenagers. I think you really hv to check on yr husband before the problem gets worse. I don't even dare to let my hubby to know abt this, you just never know what a man will do. Now the temptations has reached our doorstep, really worrying.
Personally, I think porn is ok.. My hubby watches it and I think it's just natural (good for me also, especially when I'm tired.. =X).. It's just as natural as DIY, to me la.. Just that men needs more visual stuff than women.. I also watch porn leh.. lol.. Those jap cartoons one and sometimes I also ask hubby to download for me!
We share everything and have trust in each other.. My hubby is a very good man, both as husband and dad.. I wouldn't be so mushy to say that we love each other very very much or something but our relationship is going great after 6yrs.. I still come before porn in his heart, mind & body.. hehe..
But if your man is cheating (by cheating, I mean affair with women personally, be it online or real life) then it's wrong la.. I would kick the man out!
Sorry if I offend anyone with my opinion.. But just offering my point of view.. =X I just feel like it's not wrong to view it.. It won't harm the relationship unless either one of u go out of hand loh.. Example : hubby gets obseessed n neglects wife or going astray online/in real life or wife wanna separate or make hubby feel like the worst just because of this.. I won't ever want to leave my hubby just cause of this issue (he's a great guy!) and he's happy that I trust him..
We share everything and have trust in each other.. My hubby is a very good man, both as husband and dad.. I wouldn't be so mushy to say that we love each other very very much or something but our relationship is going great after 6yrs.. I still come before porn in his heart, mind & body.. hehe..
But if your man is cheating (by cheating, I mean affair with women personally, be it online or real life) then it's wrong la.. I would kick the man out!
Sorry if I offend anyone with my opinion.. But just offering my point of view.. =X I just feel like it's not wrong to view it.. It won't harm the relationship unless either one of u go out of hand loh.. Example : hubby gets obseessed n neglects wife or going astray online/in real life or wife wanna separate or make hubby feel like the worst just because of this.. I won't ever want to leave my hubby just cause of this issue (he's a great guy!) and he's happy that I trust him..
Nope, he doesn't.. He's not obsessed with it.. Just viewing it like we browse through magazine.. xD.. Basically, just surfing and viewing la.. haha..
We all have our own fantasies la.. Just that we understand it is just that, fantasies.. I also have fantasies.. If we can act it out together, best la.. If cannot cos too extreme then it remains as a fantasy loh.. But I understand not all men are like that.. Then again, not all men who view porn are bad also la..
We all have our own fantasies la.. Just that we understand it is just that, fantasies.. I also have fantasies.. If we can act it out together, best la.. If cannot cos too extreme then it remains as a fantasy loh.. But I understand not all men are like that.. Then again, not all men who view porn are bad also la..
gcherny
Member
hi tsw. can share more details abt the retreiving of past internet history? tks.
ladies - your husbands uses many free email accounts for the purpose of downloading porn videos. confront them directly and tell them how his acts hurt. if he dont care, threaten to leave him. if he really care for you, he would not leave you and take the chance to bar him from using internet without your presence at home.
ladies - your husbands uses many free email accounts for the purpose of downloading porn videos. confront them directly and tell them how his acts hurt. if he dont care, threaten to leave him. if he really care for you, he would not leave you and take the chance to bar him from using internet without your presence at home.
springles53
Member
Hi..happen to come across this site...
just want to say that I'm really against porn and once i caught my hubby watching it, i cried so much. He promised he won't do it and we installed child protection on our computers and laptops. we prayed abt it and I just have to tell myself to trust him or else God will deal with him. we have a young baby less than 2 yrs, i just felt terrible that while i was going through pregnancy and stress when the baby was born, he was there watching those things...
ITs just wrong..its disrespectful and degrading and yes...cheating.
the problem is deeper than just the surface watching of porn..it draws a couple apart in time and leads to addiction. its like a plant if u feed it more and more...it will grow and grow and eventually 'eat' u up.
sorry...no offence to those who say its okay...
just want to say that I'm really against porn and once i caught my hubby watching it, i cried so much. He promised he won't do it and we installed child protection on our computers and laptops. we prayed abt it and I just have to tell myself to trust him or else God will deal with him. we have a young baby less than 2 yrs, i just felt terrible that while i was going through pregnancy and stress when the baby was born, he was there watching those things...
ITs just wrong..its disrespectful and degrading and yes...cheating.
the problem is deeper than just the surface watching of porn..it draws a couple apart in time and leads to addiction. its like a plant if u feed it more and more...it will grow and grow and eventually 'eat' u up.
sorry...no offence to those who say its okay...
once the porn starts, u can never satisfy them cos they r visual creatures n no offence but i dont think any of us can look like porn stars with that much of plastic surgery on every part imaginable, make up etc
and none of us would be willing to do half the things that those degraded women do for men...
then the men start getting addicted and since wives dont do that, they start fanatasizing about other women lor...even if they cannot match the prn stars, for the men, its something difft ....
like someone once told me, for men, they feel cannot eat the same dish everyday...
and none of us would be willing to do half the things that those degraded women do for men...
then the men start getting addicted and since wives dont do that, they start fanatasizing about other women lor...even if they cannot match the prn stars, for the men, its something difft ....
like someone once told me, for men, they feel cannot eat the same dish everyday...
I'd like to agree with Pearly that some porn is ok..my hubby always has porn pics on his phone/com..maybe it helps with his diy..??? anyway, i do watch porn video with/without him and its not like im abt to start an affair or watever..
actually, this is a personal issue as a couple so u need to discuss ur limits/expectations with ur partner..its not a right or wrong thing..
Personally, i like to watch porn video to get in the mood, n it gives me new ideas to try with my hubby..i try to mimic the moves..'blush'
actually, this is a personal issue as a couple so u need to discuss ur limits/expectations with ur partner..its not a right or wrong thing..
Personally, i like to watch porn video to get in the mood, n it gives me new ideas to try with my hubby..i try to mimic the moves..'blush'
die,
Glad to know I'm not the only one thinking this way! hehe..
Just my personal thought.. I think if a couple (husband & wife) is able to "act out" their fantasies together or are able to "mimic the moves" (lol), it's very great intimacy right? It's like baring your soul (maybe embarrassing la.. we're not pornstar material after all.. haha) to your other half! And sharing your deepest secret! xD If we can do that, it means we have utmost trust in our other half!
Glad to know I'm not the only one thinking this way! hehe..
Just my personal thought.. I think if a couple (husband & wife) is able to "act out" their fantasies together or are able to "mimic the moves" (lol), it's very great intimacy right? It's like baring your soul (maybe embarrassing la.. we're not pornstar material after all.. haha) to your other half! And sharing your deepest secret! xD If we can do that, it means we have utmost trust in our other half!
Regretted,
That decision lies between the husband and wife doesn't it? Won't it be kind of personal to answer a yes to your question? LOL.. But then again, not every man goes for SM and anal.. Actually, I kinda like SM.. LOL.. Being the damsel is distress! LOL.. It would be nice to be all open mind between a husband and wife is my opinion.. xD
If u don't like what your hubby is doing, talk to him instead of condemning him for wanting a different kind of "roleplay" from yours.. Not every man likes it slow and romantic and not every man goes for harsher fantasies.. He is your husband after all, right? ^.^
But, well, of course if u prefer your hubby to "experiment" outside instead of "being daring & totally open" with your hubby once in a while, then I guess u wouldn't have anything to complain about.. ^.^ We still need to put in effort to keep our men faithful.. Can't expect them to stay leashed when we don't give them treats once in a while..
Sorry if I sound "too open" or offend anyone.. But I don't have a virgin-like mind.. =X I'm not saying it works for everyone, just for me.. It's only my opinion..
That decision lies between the husband and wife doesn't it? Won't it be kind of personal to answer a yes to your question? LOL.. But then again, not every man goes for SM and anal.. Actually, I kinda like SM.. LOL.. Being the damsel is distress! LOL.. It would be nice to be all open mind between a husband and wife is my opinion.. xD
If u don't like what your hubby is doing, talk to him instead of condemning him for wanting a different kind of "roleplay" from yours.. Not every man likes it slow and romantic and not every man goes for harsher fantasies.. He is your husband after all, right? ^.^
But, well, of course if u prefer your hubby to "experiment" outside instead of "being daring & totally open" with your hubby once in a while, then I guess u wouldn't have anything to complain about.. ^.^ We still need to put in effort to keep our men faithful.. Can't expect them to stay leashed when we don't give them treats once in a while..
Sorry if I sound "too open" or offend anyone.. But I don't have a virgin-like mind.. =X I'm not saying it works for everyone, just for me.. It's only my opinion..
Regretted,
I don't think all men will die die also insist on acting their fantasies out.. Most will ask for it but won't, eh, how to put it.. "die die also cannot don't act it out.. rather go out find someone else to do it with" kinda mentality right? Well, u are a guy, think u should understand better regarding what I'm trying to say.. xD If hubby is really this kind, then got nothing else to say also liao..
I don't think all men will die die also insist on acting their fantasies out.. Most will ask for it but won't, eh, how to put it.. "die die also cannot don't act it out.. rather go out find someone else to do it with" kinda mentality right? Well, u are a guy, think u should understand better regarding what I'm trying to say.. xD If hubby is really this kind, then got nothing else to say also liao..
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