jen_wong79
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Hello, there something bugging me and I need to get this off my chest. It's something to do with my MIL , so obviously I cannot discuss with my hub. My MIL is a typical Chinese MIL, a nice little lady except she suffers frm verbal diarrhea. She talks non stop whether you are listening or not. That is not as bad as it sounds, cos I don't live with her. She's house wife all her life so she is kinda disconnected frm today's society. What is bugging me is her insensitivity and constant blabber. 2 yrs ago my elder daughter arrived and my 2nd princess is arriving in June. She made it no secret that she wanted a grandson, when we broke the news to her she appeared quite displeased! Recently, she has been getting on my nerves , she kept telling me it's a must to have a 3rd kid, she assumed it WILL be a boy!! I told her countless time , NO. The hub and I are fine with 2 kids. 3 kids would be too much to handle for us. She has been the main care giver for my elder one and the younger one and recently demand we get a maid for her. Fair enough. But,I just lost my job last year, with an additional person to feed. It's really taking a toll on me and hub. She has been buying food, diapers etc for the babies. I appreaciate that a lot. I just feel it's very inconsiderate of her to think my duties as a DIL is just to give her a grandson. She thinks she is the main care giver and she provides for the babies too, I don't have to look after my kids. Easy job for me what! SHE thinks that she is mummy! She forgot the hub and i are just normal working class folks, we are not filthy rich like her other daughter. My SIL totally dotes on my hub, so she very generously helped us during this tough period. But the MIL doesn't see it this way. She speaks like we are sponging off her , so I must give her a grandson??We want a confortable lifestyle for our 2 kids, not a family who's struggling to make ends meet every mth. I mean WTF, daughters are not human too? It will totally break my girls' heart if they knew this is how their grandma sees them. She herself is a woman, i can,t take it she is belittling my daughters like that! Danmit! I'm not a naive and closed minded SAHM like her. I want to get bk to work and have a small closed knitted family. I have been putting up with her verbal shit long enough. The next time she mentioned this again, I think I'm gonna snap at her. I have problems communicating with traditional and closed minded people like her. She's been giving me nightmares at night , so much so that a lot of annimosity has been building up inside me. Each time I see her , I feel like hammering her to shut her up. How do you mummies deal with this kind of MIL?