Husband visiting bar

[Capriqueen]

Hi,

Would you be upset if your husband asked for space and the space is when he visits the bar every weekend?
Once I saw him sitting at the bar counter ( neighbourhood bar with karaoke)with a woman sharing a jug of beer? They were chatting and the woman pat him on the shoulder in a teasing way. I was upset and told him I cannot accept this. He said is normal to offer one another beer at the bar but there is no any hanky panky going on.
Can you accept this?

I am filing divorce now because if this is the type of space that he asked for, i simply cannot swollow it

 

[margret]

is that women working there?
if you are filing based on that, better get evidence if not he will deny in court.

 

[Capriqueen]

is that women working there?
if you are filing based on that, better get evidence if not he will deny in court.

I have a photo of it.The woman is a regular at the bar which he claimed and he said the photo doesn't prove adultery so the judge will not approve

 

[margret]

I have a photo of it.The woman is a regular at the bar which he claimed and he said the photo doesn't prove adultery so the judge will not approve

touching him doesn't mean its adultery. adutltery means sex have taken place.

like what he claim he can say it's just a friendly pat and it happened once. u need to catch him a few times and the photos have to be dated

 

[Capriqueen]

Everytime is just him going to the bar alone, sometimes he will chat with other guys. So I did not catch anything other than that sole incidence.
I am divorcing because I cannot accept the condition that he gave me:

1. Gave him the space he wants
2. Separation

 

[margret]

Everytime is just him going to the bar alone, sometimes he will chat with other guys. So I did not catch anything other than that sole incidence.
I am divorcing because I cannot accept the condition that he gave me:

1. Gave him the space he wants
2. Separation

if really there is no valid reason for divorce then have to go for 3 or 4 years separation

 

[Capriqueen]

if really there is no valid reason for divorce then have to go for 3 or 4 years separation

The lawyer has drafted the writ based on unreasonable behaviour

 

[margret]

what unreasonable behaviour?

 

[janey09]

The lawyer has drafted the writ based on unreasonable behaviour

because he go drinking on weekend?
have you ask your lawyer what's the chance of getting divorce?

 

[Capriqueen]

because he go drinking on weekend?
have you ask your lawyer what's the chance of getting divorce?

My lawyer is confident of the reasons that will satisfy the court

 

[QIANX2]

My lawyer is confident of the reasons that will satisfy the court

lawyer always say that. then when other party contest or judge feel otherwise they will say its beyond his control.

 

[Capriqueen]

lawyer always say that. then when other party contest or judge feel otherwise they will say its beyond his control.

There are other reasons stated which i believed are enough to grant the case

 

[Capriqueen]

And my husband said he will not contest

 

[Freely now]

Good for you.
You say he wouldn’t contest but he wan separation?
Anyway u are not the judge and what you think it’s enough for divorce doesn’t mean the judge will think so.
When the others say drinking is not enough as reason for divorce then you say have others stuff.
You are contradicting and flip flop a lot. Very confusing women

 

[Capriqueen]

I have other reasons which ido not want to state here. Thanks for the input i appreciate.
Anyway we both decided to part way

 

[Capriqueen]

Good for you.
You say he wouldn’t contest but he wan separation?
Anyway u are not the judge and what you think it’s enough for divorce doesn’t mean the judge will think so.
When the others say drinking is not enough as reason for divorce then you say have others stuff.
You are contradicting and flip flop a lot. Very confusing women

He had asked for separation initially but i told him i will file for divorce and he had agreed

 

[Capriqueen]

Good for you.
You say he wouldn’t contest but he wan separation?
Anyway u are not the judge and what you think it’s enough for divorce doesn’t mean the judge will think so.
When the others say drinking is not enough as reason for divorce then you say have others stuff.
You are contradicting and flip flop a lot. Very confusing women

Hello! He asked for separation initially but I said don't waste time and go straight to divorce which he agreed.
I am not so dumb to just use drinking as a reason to file. Contradicting what?