Husband feeling down

[cheeksymummy]

Hi mummies, my husband is now experiencing low self esteem thinking that he did not achieve much in his career at his age and not providing enough for our family. He just started new job for one day and still feeling low. In fact before he start his new job, we went for a short getaway without our boy. How can i help him to boost his self confidence?

 

[cheeka]

Hi Cheeksymummy, try to support him and comfort him. They need to know that we will be there to support him no matter what. Me and dh also sometimes also have "mid-life crisis". We feel that we have achieved nothing... no money (have lah, just enough), no kids (despite trying for many years), no car... But have to look at the bright side. At least you are healthy, you have an adorable boy. Maybe you could talk to him to find out his expectations. What does he want to achieve in his career? What does he mean by providing enough for the family? Once you know his expectations, try to work and come up with a plan to achieve them. If not possible, then temper the expectations. There are many other things in life that we should be grateful for...

 

[september]

Cheeksymummy,

Beside supporting him, u can see if he is interested to look at a biz opportunity coz perhaps, he is tired of his current platform where he do not seem to excel like his peers. So trying out something new might be a good chance for him bring out the best of himself and also to earn the kind of income he want.

U can email me at [email protected] if you are keen to find out more.

 

[cheeksymummy]

Hi Cheeka, I have a heart to heart talk recently with him and glad that he is opening up to me. Because he used to earn higher, and now earning lower after switching to different companies thinking of a change/challenge and didn't expect it be worse than his previous job, and he is not used to getting so bare minimum after deducting our expenses like school fees, bills, housing loans, etc. he felt lousy and a failure. I assure him this is part and parcel of life. We saved a bit of money but better than nothing, though we don't earn or study much, at least we are employed and don't anyhow spend.I think his esteem is hurt because his income is lower, suddenly dunno which kind of job he should take... He is only in his 20s and feeling like that already. Lol... We don't have a car too but in SG it's not really necessary, plus it's so expensive! Ya and I always tell him to be grateful or this and that... At least we are alive and safe here!
Hi Diana, he is actively looking for other jobs too, if I need it will contact you, really thanks for the offer.

 

[jaylonmummy]

What kind of job is he looking at? What is his interest?

 

[cheeksymummy]

Jaylonmummy, he is in sales, dont have specific interest.

 

[clye7888]

cheeksymummy, i will be attending a opportunity talk tmr at Orchard, 7.15pm. ask him to contact me (91639141) if he would like to explore n understand more.