How do you make a new father be more pro-active with the baby?

[Jenson29]

Posting on behalf of a good friend, her husband is not that responsive to the newborn baby.

She has to push the baby onto him before he holds her. Its like he just leaves it to the wife until she really forces the little one on him.

They are happily married but the baby was born 4 months ago and now they are constantly fighting.

Any suggestions are much appreciated.

 

[sghlynn]

i think a good heart to heart talk will be good and to manage expectations and duties
ask him to help out with diaper changing if he doesnt like feeding or vice versa, so there's some exact tasks allocated
i think some men are quite slow/ thick headed so must spell out exactly to them.
and when they are doing it, DONT COMPLAIN its not good enough, its very fustrating for the men.

or ask him to bring the baby down for walks everyday for 30mins also good, at least give you some sanity at home.