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I am not sure if it is just me feeling this way or what. But I have more than 10 friends, relatives and colleagues altogether expecting their babies this Dragon Year.

Some of my colleagues and some friends (including dragon mummies to be) know that I m trying for a baby this year. However, I m not sure if it is just me feeling that they are being very insensitive to my feelings. All they do in front of me or thru mass group chat is to talk about dragon babies and how great it is to have babies who will be DRAGONS.

Some "friends" know that I m trying hard but with no good news yet (or so they thought). I have a feeling that they are secretly despising me, laughing behind my back, calling me infertile, not so fertile, wants but dun have a dragon baby etc.

Though a kind friend who is expecting her dragon baby this year and a kind colleague told me that the animal horoscope does not matter, deep down, they are so happy and had tried hard for a dragon baby themselves.

Why are people such hypocrites???

Can anyone advise me if I m wrong or too sensitive?? I am so upset almost every night that I cry myself to sleep until the wee hours. Can't they just feel me alone??
 


I think it's ok to let our feelings and emotions when we are sad. Just let nature takes its course.

Maybe u can try using an ovulation kit immediately after your menses is over. Test it everyday...not just when you think u are ovulating. It's more effective that way.
 
xena: thanks for your advice. Actually, I tried to take my BBT every morning and ovulation kits as soon as my periods were over but I find it more stressful instead. Now, I try to monitor my CM and take supplements to boost the fertile CM as I did not have much EWCM in the past few months.

As what many have said, I just have to take it easy now and stop stressing myself up. The stress was actually built up due to expectations of conceiving a dragon bb and not just a healthy baby. Anyway, I have already resigned to my fate of not having a dragon bb
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I don't think it's good to have a dragon bb. Too competitive. That is what I tell my friends, and I really think so. Imagine your kid has to work much harder than kids in other batches to get into the school of his/her choice.
 
dont feel this way.. it's really veri competitive to have dragon bb... i know so many pple having dragon bb.. in the office, neighbours and frenz.. imagine all going to the same school.. probably it's good that they can talk more coz their kids are of the same age.. but then again.. it's like competing with each other?

I always wanted a dragon bb too but my husband said it's too competitive.. and i slowly accept it.. it's for the kids.. else they will be e one suffering next time... we will suffer nxt time too coz we be stress for them too...

Cheer up!
 
Dear TTCing,

I wanted to send you a PM, but you do not accept PMs.

I completely understand how you feel. The stress of ttc is already bad enough without having the additional stress of having to conceive by a certain time.

Please try not to worry about what other people are saying or thinking about you. You cannot control that and they may not even be thinking or saying anything about you because they are so wrapped up in their own lives. For all you know, they have their own problems, even though they may seem super happy on the surface.

The most important thing is to try to stay positive, although I know that sometimes, it's not easy when you want something so badly and it doesn't happen at the time that you want it to.

I thought I would share my story with you. Hb and I tried for 3 years to conceive our 1st baby. We went for many IUIs, 2 IVFs, nothing worked. We were very happy when it finally happened naturally and the last thing we cared about was the animal horoscope.

Then we tried for a 2nd baby naturally and it took over a year. We didn't care about the horoscope because we were just happy that we even managed to conceive. It just happened to be Dragon year. At first we were just very grateful to even be expecting, then everyone started telling us how good it was to have a Dragon baby and a boy on top of that, baby will be very smart, blah blah blah. I started to feel even more happy.

But I suddenly went into labour 6 weeks+ ago when our baby boy was 18 weeks and we lost him. Now I am faced with seeing pregnant women and newborn babies everywhere, constantly reminding me of the Dragon baby boy that we took so long to conceive and then lost. Just like that.

What I am trying to say is that you're not alone in your feelings of sadness about not having conceived yet and in wanting a Dragon baby. Because of all the things that everyone told me about how good it is to have a Dragon baby, I now keep hoping that we can conceive again in time to make it for the Dragon year, even though I know that the chances are close to zero of that happening, especially since it has only been 6 weeks since we lost our son and we have always taken very long to conceive.

As for people being insensitive, I relate to that completely. It is difficult enough to deal with your own sadness about not having what other people have, not to mention listen to them talk about it.

I know deep down in my heart, that the right thing to do is to be grateful for any baby that we manage to have, Dragon or not.

Try not to cry about it and keep looking forward to the next cycle each month that it doesn't work. Let's both jia1 you2 to make that dream of having that baby happen!

P.S. Feel free to PM me if you would like to.
 
Don't feel bad at all 'cos you own your own body. Let nature takes it course because stress will not help one bit.
 
Hi gals,

Thanks for your advice. Appreciate it very much ;)

I have TTCed since Jan this year and every month, it will just end up in red
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-ve, -ve and more -ve.....

My friends and even those who just got married managed to conceive within a month. But not me
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Can't keep thinking why life is unfair for just me? Others can conceive easily but
not me even when I took supplements prior to trying.

Hi Baby Lang:
Sorry to hear abt your loss. I can understand your pain and
feel your sadness. At least you still have a child but I have none. I feel that nobody understands me, my frustations of
not conceiving month after month. And seeing more n more people having dragon babies around me while I have nothing
to be proud or happy of....

Never felt such darkness in my life for a long time
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TTCing, dun think of what others think or say cos we cannot control them. Just let them be. I have been ttc for more than 3 yrs now, got a mc &amp; now starting all over again. I also have a lots of friends, colleagues &amp; relatives preggy now. All waiting anxiously for their dragon babies. Yes, I do feel down at times, but life got to move on. People sometimes can be insensitive, for me, my 2 SIL are preggy also. They din console me when I mc, &amp; now when I am around they only talk about their pregnancy &amp; their precious dragon babies. I usually choose to just walk away from them. I believe you can find true friends who can really talk to. We can always choose who we want to be with. Stick around with positive people with positive thoughts. I think it helps.

I think you are too stressed up. Take a break, go for a holiday, who knows you might have good news soon.

Good luck!
 
Baby Lang: u can PM me liao. I just edited my profile.

Princess Leopard: So sorry to hear that. U r so strong indeed. We have to gambate no matter how life treats us
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though many times when I m still not pregnant, I really feel upset and wanna give up. I even felt like dying because I felt that life has lost its purpose for me. My hubby is so busy and he cannot even take leave to go holidaying with me so how to relax overseas and have good news? Haha....

Sometimes I even regretted marrying him coz he is so messy, fat and always working till late hours. Maybe not having any kids at this point in time is apt for us? I really dunno.

3 of my "closest friends" are all having their precious dragon bbs. So, do u think I can still confide to them how unfair I feel life is? HahA. I cried while telling one of them that I feel very useless and upset whenever they are talking abt their dragon bbs. Their happiness is somewhat my saddness and finally
bitterness. They will all grow closer with a similar topic while I feel useless and hopeless and childless. Even my colleagues wondered why I still dun have good news since beginning of this year coz they knew I was trying for a dragon bb. Maybe I shouldn't have told anyone that I hoped for a dragon bb. The more people knew I wanted a dragon bb, the more I dun get it!
Sigh!!!!!
 
TTCing, u have to relax yourself. You have just start TTC this Jan. Its normal to take 1-2 years to conceive naturally. Dun give yourself too much pressure. I think you need to talk to hubby. he seems so busy, how do u make time for baby? Does he want baby? I think you need to work things out with your hubby first before making baby committment.

Take care!
 
Princess Leopard: I can accept that I m not pregnant w a dragon bb but I cannot accept that everyone else around me is conceiving with just a one month try and got their dragon bb! Why them and not us???

My hubby loves to have his own babies and wants kids too. He has expressed that if dun have dragon, snake or even horse also can but I can't stop wondering why we can't make it! Even after visiting a few gynaes also doesn't help! Just told me to relax and try for another 6 months !!! I can also be a gynae like that liao ....

I have been withdrawing myself from my friends now. Dun feel like talking to them and dun feel positive abt this whole thing anymore. Unless a miracle happens this month ....
 
TTCing, after reading your posts...i think you push yourself too hard and you are giving hard time to yourself. I just lost my dragon bb but I am still happy that my niece still carrying her bb now.

You can't control whatever things happen surrounding you. You only can manage yourself what you wanna be.

You seems have a few issues with your hubby and yet you want to have a baby. You have been complaining him as messy, fat and workaholic. I am not sure whether having the baby will change anything in your life or not but one thing for sure, if your mentality not change...everything also won't change.

i am not saint nor god. you may not need to listen to me.
 
TTCing,

I think you too stressed up in conceiving a baby.

If you are too stressed, chances of getting pregnant might decreased also as stated somewhere I have read online.

Try to stay calm and most impt is to relax.

Can try buying ovulation kit to increase your chances of getting preg.

Good luck to you.
 
TCCing,

U sound too stress might lead to despression ok. So dun be too hard on urself.

I was trying for pig bb last time but nv succeed too but in the end I got a rat bb. So it is ok de lah....

By stressing urself out u wont see result de.

Btw, baby land and princess leapord, u all hv to bu back ur health then try ok. For me after my rat bb, I was pregnant again with OX, but who know it was a empty sac, that is no bb inside. So in the end got to remove it. but after resting for a while, I got a tiger bb le.

Also, if u really hv difficulties conceiving, I do know of a supplement that can help u to conceive faster. Do PM me for more detail ok.

Know the stress that u all gng thru, hope I can help by sharing wat i know.
 
TTC-ing: I can understand how you feel. I also withdrew from my friends and cried when I got AF every month. I lost confidence and wondered if I would ever be a mum one day. You are not alone. I have a number of friends who were married for years but no kids. It is quite common in a stressful place like Singapore.

You mentioned that you went to some gynaes to get checked up, so I assume everything's OK. How about your hubby, did he get checked up too?
 
Egg factory: yup, for me gynae said all is normal. We will both be checking with another gynae again soon for my CD21 blood test (for O) and maybe for DH, c what the doc says.
 
I see. Sometimes the problem may lie with the DH (as in my case). In any case if u have tried for one year but nothing happened it's best to go fertility specialist as some ppl have 'unexplained infertility'. Give yourself a realistic deadline...not good to delay too long as age makes it worse.
 
Egg factory: thx for the advice. After reading that most men managed to improve their troops by taking supplements and healthier food, I also told my DH to do so. Only started a couple of mths back and the troops might need at least 3 months to take in the supplements.

Not sure if I m ovulating these few months too.
 
Hi TTChing, I agree with egg factory. Singapore is really a stressful place to do anything. Don't stress out too much. For me, my friends are overly sensitive abt my infertility. It makes me feel awkward when they overly trying to avoid the topic. For the whole year last year, I was very depressed when I see pregnant ladies. Now I just feel numbed. But I feel more at peace with myself taking care of my body by eating healthier, receiving acupunture treatment and proceeding with Ivf.
Let's jia you together. Ganbetta!!!
 
TTc

Frankly speaking, u only tried for a few mths , not even one year, and u already so stressed. These ladies here who commented, do u Noe how much time they have tried having a baby? All of us here tried years, some even 7-9 years , ended up failures with IUI and IVF. So who is more frustrating to having a baby than having a Dragon? The last thing in our mind is animal horoscope and the first thing we wana have is to conceive a healthy baby. So many years of waiting, seeing thousands pregnant and giving birth. The worse part is pple ask u the same qns over and over again during Chinese new year each year. Seriously, take off the stress to ttc, u probably feels alot more better.

When u say no one understands how u feel especially with ur good friends all preg. Hmm this is wrong thinking bcos since they are your good frens, u should give ur sincere wishes to them and not sounded like u are jealous over it. For the worse part is when you meet up with you best frens for dinner and u saw them holding hand with their child to join the dinner. You cannot believe that your best fren's child is already so big while the last time both are trying to conceive together! This is Wat happen to us but we still happy for them.
What I want to say is that, relax to ttc, and if u can preg one day, its already a blessing no matter which mth or animal they are. And the child is healthy that's most impt. Look at many ard you, they can't even conceive in the first place. Jiayou!
 
Hi,

Personally I feel that you are stressing yourself too much. Whatever horoscope our kids are, they are still our kids. I can understand how you feel coz my buddies kids are of the same year. There are many things that they can do together. There will b times when they are on the same topic and I couldn't chip in.

My point of advice: why not go to a fertility specialist and do a check up? If everything is ok, just relax yourself and try again. Don't bother about d dragon year.
 
I don't think having dragon babies is big deal. Most important is to have a strong relationship with hb and a healthy/happy child. Zodiac will not guarantee success. How can every dragon baby be expected to excel? To me, having a dragon baby (or baby in peak year) = many more competitors for placing in school!

Relax, think through your priorities and work towards enjoying a healthy/smooth pregnancy and enjoying motherhood afterwards.
 
TTCing
gosh seriously u are way too stressed up and way too sensitive.
I can see/read what Jajah meant is that she's relieved she's not the only person that's so stressed up about trying to get a dragon baby. Think she's relieved she's not so alone in this matter. U know the feeling that sometimes you feel 'better' that there are other people facing the same predicament as u and thus understands your problem. This is a very normal human nature ya.

Ok getting back to your 'problem', i agree with the ladies here that bb horoscope is meaningless. MOST important is bb is healthy.
I too had a miscarriage before i got my child. and after my mc, i had to try for 1 year before i got her.
what more you have only tried since this year which means it has been only 4 mths, right.
There are many many ppl that tried for YEARS and had to go thru so many tests and methods before succeeding.

So just try to relax and don't focus about getting a bb dragon. Just enjoy the *ahem* process with your hubby. Afterall, u married your hubby because you love him right, not because you purely just wanna get a child. Don't think about making bb, just think about making love.
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Dear EM,
Thank you for understanding what i meant in my 1st post. It's indeed comforting that i am not all alone so that I can get advice from you ladies and we can support from people in the same situation..

Dear TTCing,
I am sorry if I offended you in my post. But Like what EM said I am just happy that there is someone out there who understand very well what I am going through. By reading this thread I am able to get valuable support and advice that not anyone can give... Hope you understand...
 
Ok, I tot u meant otherwise. I apologize to u here then.

Yes, I do agree that I was indeed v v v v depressed and stressed all along when I have finally decided to TTC. Felt very bitter and angry at myself and hubby too. But now, I felt better after thinking it through. If not for the people around me who are all so obsessed abt having dragon bbs, I wouldn't be that crazy.

People who told me that they have no plans for kids suddenly announced that they are pregnant this year &amp; yes, they have planned for the babies. Yet both of them can tell me not to be bothered abt the horoscope, saying that there will be intense competition. Then how abt themselves?!?! They didn't preach what they say!!! So two-headed snakes lor!!!

However, after visiting another frd who had twins recently, he sounded most genuine to me coz he confessed that they have been married for almost 5 years and tried for a baby for quite sometime (2-3yrs) already and both babies came when they least expected and so happen that it is dragon year this yr. According to him, as he brought his daughters to You Long Zi for their Chinese names, the Dragon Year does not necessarily meant that every dragon baby will be blessed or lucky and the not so popular snake year might not also mean that it is an unlucky year for babies born next year. Need to see their 8 characters too.

Besides, good primary schools, popular secondary schs, JCs and universities throughout the world will be extremely competitive and only the very best of the best will get their coveted places in the schools or faculties of their choice.

So what will happen to those whose parents are not rich enough to send them overseas for univerisity studies? Even got money also might not be able to enter the course of their choice coz there are also millions of China-born, Taiwansee, Hongkongers and many other affluent Chinese or Asian families who would want to send their so called precious dragon children to good universities aboard.

Call me sour grapes but many of those I know of who have dragon babies this year are neither extremely blessed with a rich family,are highly educated or in highly paid jobs, so I do hope that their precious dragon babies will do their parents proud man! Some dragons I know are not rich, or have good lives too.

Anyway, good luck to those superstitious dragon mummy wannabes! Pls only have dragon babies if u think u have the means!
 
Ttcing, i was supposed to have a dragon bb too and its 2013 jan dragon bb, suppose to be less competitive than to have 2012 ones. But i lost it last sunday. After this incident, i started to have different thinking, horoscope is not important. Most impt is the health of bb. I used to be obsessed with dragon bb too, u know.
Maybe gods want to punish me for being obsessed i dunno. But ppl born in dragon yr may not necessary be blessed or wat. Try for snake year and be relax about it. Snake ppl are smart and witty. And if u are really superstitious, fengshui master ever said in the beginning of cny that water snake year is an even better yr to have bb than water dragon year. Snake is considered mini dragon and have some characteristic of a dragon. Ok. Superstitions aside. Bb health more important ok!!
 
Don't let horoscope affect when u have a baby and relax, jhw. Your health and happiness are more important 'cos a stressed body/mind isn't conducive at all for a smooth pregnancy if u don't mind me saying frankly.

TTC I think u really over-reacted to the above post by jajah... relax... everyone's here to share/give advice and find a listening ear.
 
Dear TTC,
I have been trying for a dragon baby too since last year and yes its quite depressing knowing friends around u started conceiving while u can't.I have two girls already and I m trying for a no3 boy.In fact I had trouble conceiving my no.2 too.Now that the window for dragon baby has closed,I still trying cos I seriously thinks that it doesnt really matter at all which year ur baby is born,becos its YOUR baby.
I m still trying hard,and I hope you and other mummies out there who r still trying continue to keep an open mind,keep trying and work harder at night!!Cheers
 
Dear TTC,

Don't give up, keep trying..horoscope is TOTALLY not important..there are so many more important things in life..such as health of baby..emotional contentment of baby and mom etc..

And trust me..I was born in a dragon year and all my peers are dragons..and its hell. My mom had such a stressful time enrolling me into a primary school nearby when I was reaching primary level..it may sound good and "prestigious" to be a dragon when the baby is just born..but as the years go by..no one gives a damn if you are a dragon or not..For instance, no person in their thirties would go around boasting.."Hey, you know what, I am high and mighty as my horoscope is DRAGON". Go tell people that and they would laugh at you.

In fact, I am so so glad that my daughter is a little tigger..having her was not easy and hence, I did not do any horoscope planning. In fact, to be really honest, if I had the luxury of planning when I can conceive, I would go for a tigger or snake year anytime. Its not sour grapes..its heartfelt words from a person who had to survive in crowded dragon year during her schooling years and wants her child to have a less crowded and scenic environment to thrive...heheee..

So Jiayou TTC, think long term..and babydusts to u
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Jiayou Jiayou again.
 
Dear Moms,

Just managed to read some earlier posts on this thread and huggzz to those who are trying hard to ttc and also to those who lost precious babies..

Take time to rest, recover physically and emotionally and then jiayou again k..take time to enjoy urself outside of ttcing and incorporate ttcing into your life as just another aspect and not a means to an end. Easier said than done but it has happened to me and I can truly understand the struggles and pain of a ttcing journey.

Most importantly, stay positive and keep going. Horoscope not important again..only the resolution to be happy is
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For me, as a christian, I wished to have my gals born in the years where the animals are more domesticated like rabbit, ox, pig, etc. Cos I felt that the dragon, tiger and snakes, as represented in our bible, are of beings that are not so good. Very different from typical chinese beliefs and teachings yah.

But in saying so... my gals ended up being born in the year of horse, monkey and rat. Though I was somewhat disappointed they were not born in the years I'd prefer... their health and well being is the foremost important factor. Nothing else matters - except that my 3 gals are healthy and normal.

No point having a so called dragon baby if the child has medical issues. Where is the so called good luck then? *touch wood*

Don't bother youself with those insensitive mommies who brag about their Dragon babies. Once this dragon year has passed, no one else will bother about the birth year anymore.

Please dun bombard me... just my tots and opinions only.
 
I agree with Solaris. I rather have a bb without medical issues than one with issue. I found out that i was pregnant in Jun last year, so happen that i delivered in early Feb after CNY, just in time for a dragon bb. But my bb is born with birth defect (have some hearing problem). What i want to say is that there is really nothing big deal on having dragon bb, i didnt plan for it, just so happen that i caught the "dragon head" as my EDD was aft CNY. What is most important is to have a healthy bb.
 
Ttc dear, i know you from another thread but I didn't know u were gg thru so much pain with the whole process. You shd know right? I married at age 23 and had tried for 5 years before deciding on ivf. People always ask y i got married so early and still no kids? They always said I'm at my prime so conceiving should be easy. Juniors from my school have gotten married later than me and are popping out babies left right and centre. But instead of letting all of them get me down, I chose to be happy for them. Sonetimes the more kan cheong you are, the more unlikely it will happen. I decided on ivf because i realised issue lies with me, so I'm glad I got myself checked and was able to take the right course of action to achieve my goal, which is to hv a baby. I also leaned heavily on God, which helped me thru the darkest period of my life and am glad my faith in Him helped me push on till today. Do try and take it easy ok? Remember that a healthy bb is more important than the year it's born.

When you are ready, God will give this baby to you to hold and to love. Keep believing dear. *hugz*
 
TTC, I think u think too much. u said 'People who told me that they have no plans for kids suddenly announced that they are pregnant this year &amp; yes, they have planned for the babies. Yet both of them can tell me not to be bothered abt the horoscope, saying that there will be intense competition. Then how abt themselves?!?! They didn't preach what they say!!! So two-headed snakes lor!!!'
How do u know they planned? Maybe is accident? Like me, my baby is a tiger I also dun plan to have a baby cos I have not go thru my customary wedding when I found out I was pregnant so we faster go thru the customary wedding b4 my girl was born. My husband also want a baby boy this year but dun have. Sometimes, we need to relax in order to conceive. Y care about the horoscope? Just let it happen naturally.
 
Alison: 2 of them told me in e first place that they have no plans for kids. Reasons being having kids does not mean that they will look after u when u become old and another being that they are still saving for a flat.

Then when they become pregnant, they told me themselves that they have in fact been secretly planning 'recently'. By exercising and being healthy, taking health supplements etc. So sly lo! What I can't stomach the fact that one of them even told other friends that I am so planning a
dragon baby while they have "no plans" when the fact is that she is secretly planning ahead of me and just happen to conceive. And she is so skinny at just 40kg only. Tot I read that skinny or fat ladies will have trouble conceiving? Doesn't seem to be the case!! I m at a normal weight at 50kg, not skinny, not fat but have been ttcing for the past 6 mths.

No wonder they say that life's never fair.
 
Miracle and the rest: appreciate ur advice and suggestions. Yup, to me now, a healthy baby is all that matters now. I just hope to conceive now. In-laws, colleagues, friends and relatives have been nagging or asking me to hurry up. But dun they know that I wanted to hurry up as well? If I can forsee that I will take sometime to conceive, I would not have waited till this year to conceive. I would have started to ttc 2mths before marriage. If only I can turn back time.....
 
TTCing: I believe in baby's fate so just leave everything to god. If i not wrong you just get married so just enjoy your married life.
 
Dear TTC,

i know you may feel uncomfortable when your 'dragon mummies-to-be' friends shared about their happiness with you since you are trying. However in reality, this year happens to be the Legendary Auspicious Dragon Year in the Chinese context and naturally people around, our social network and the media will be excited for these mummies.. Parents want the best for their children and having a dragon baby may definitely make them feel 'Extra' blessed despite the sayings of highly competitive.

i know this feeling because i am a mother of a Dragon Angel.. I lost my gal sometime back.. when friends and relatives around me knew that i was pregnant and especially a dragon baby, they were so happy for us. My husband and I were ecstatic. Being happy for having a dragon baby does not mean that we feel our babies will be more superior in any way than others of another zodiac..We were not exactly superstitious, we just felt thrilled since it is said to be legendary and auspicious.

What is important is the health of our babies..and not the zodiac, horoscopes, gender.. nothing beats that. Now, i am taking care of my body to prepare for my rainbow baby. I hope you will face friends who are pregnant whether they are carrying dragon babies or not with courage and not think too much on whether they are insensitive or hypocrites.. As one day, when you become a mother, you will be thrilled to share with your friends especially your closest friends about your experience and may neglect the feelings of those who are ttc unintentionally.
 
Hi TTC! I am one of the guilty ones who don't admit that I don't mind having a baby. Not that I was actively trying, I just was not doing anything to prevent. Reason being I don't want my job prospects to be affected, and I don't want pressure from people. Cos I realised pressure makes something enjoyable not so enjoyable. Maybe its just peer pressure that suddenly everyone wants a dragon baby! Even I, suddenly thought it would be nice. But thinking logically now, I realise that too many of my frens are pregnant or have given birth to dragon. When my child grows older, these same frineds whther intentionally or not, will compare and compete. Think it is not healthy for me or my child. I also met pple expecting dragons after a few months of trying even though I think that they don't deserve it. So my point is: stay strong, don't think too much, sometimes whaty seems like a bad thing may be a good thing. And life is unfair but we still strive to make it a fair place for our kids. And stay away from pple that make u negative or have negative thoughts against them
 
hi TTC

dun be too stressed as that affects chances to conceive from my experience. for me, being married almost 3 years, I did not plan for any kids but i didnt take any extra precaution either all the while. A few months ago, I quit my stressful job after all these years and was planning for a major career switch and then i realised a month plus later I was pregnant. so i think stress does play a role. Though mine was unplanned and one side.. happy over the news but I'm actually quite stressed as there are many people i know around me are expecting dragons and many EDD within one month of mine. 1st.. everything is sooo competitive and so expensive, confinement lady, childcare etc etc. In future, it will even be more competitive in school from my experience as a teacher.. resources are always stretched as there will be more students for this dragon batch only as they cannot possibly increase the resources just for one batch in a short period of time. Even my hubby's cousin's wife told me she actually placed her child in waiting list for childcare when her EDD is in Dec. I just cant stand the kiasuism around esp wrt dragon year. My EDD is early Jan but most people tell me it will likely be earlier in Dec... and at times i end up stressing myself over something i cant control as I hope mine will be Jan. Im also trying hard not to be stressed. So i understand your feelings in a different way.

Do not give up and relax ok...
 
Quote from TTCing's (ttcing) post , Tuesday, May 08, 2012 [According to him, as he brought his daughters to You Long Zi for their Chinese names]

You Long Zi specialty not giving Chinese names. He asked his kakia to do it and use computerise to generate Chinese names! Damn horrible! You Long Zi kakia charges $200. My goodness....

我专为宝宝取名字。I only do for free if baby come from poor family background. Couples have to tell me honestly, just do not lie to get free names.

我取名字的功力，绝对不会输给游龙子、陈军荣。I never crazily charge like them.
 
hi TTC, I'm a dragon baby. And honestly, there isn't a real advantage of being a dragon baby (we're all humans). However, everything is competitive for people born in the dragon year. Try to relax, and ignore what others say/think, it'll help with TTCing
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all child is God Gift.. whether is born in dragon or dog year he or she is a child that you have conceive for 9 months. nothing to be proud of having a dragon baby. All mummys must be proud of their child even they are born with birth defact.
 


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