Being Scolded in Delivery Ward

[worry_dad]

Hi I'm a daddy m going to be one for the second time. Decided to post here as I need some listening ear/advice. I'm in a way scared tt im going to be in the labour ward for the second time as my wife scolded me w/o any reason when she is in labour pain during the first labour. Now im sort of having a phobia... Can anyone help?

 

[september]

I bet she do tat as she was in great pain. So there is no need to worry. It is a joy to be a father, so dun let that silly reason make u miss the chance to witness the arrival of your little one.

cheer up.

 

[esther_ksk]

Er... I think u think too much. U guys never knw the pain v suffering.
U jus take it left ear in right ear out loh.

 

[worry_dad]

Thanks for your advices from mommy poko & Diana. Do you scold your husbands in the delivery ward/suite? This is a joyous occasion. Whatever encouragement I say is all rebutted back. Do you do that??

 

[esther_ksk]

i only keep quiet.. pain until cannot tok.. LOL

 

[oishi]

dun worry abt what your wife said or scold when she's in delivery.... it is just a way she's letting out n overcoming pain. just let her shout or scold or curse.

u don't really need to say much, coz she might not even know what she's shouting. best is you just hold her hands, try to ease her pain with massage (back pain).

it's only when baby is born and pain is over then it becomes a joyous occasion for the mummy. u can then say: u did great! i love you. these are the words that would probably go into her ears then.

cheers.

 

[small_one]

Don't worry about the 'scoldings' in the labour room. It is our spontaneous reactions to the labour pains. If you feel worried about it, then have a talk with your wifey - let her know what is your main concern and what you can do during thise moments to help both of you cope better.

My hubby went from no experience (doing nothing) during the first birth to somewhat experienced (doing something) during the second birth. Like he would help me monitor the contractions and inform the nurses when I feel pressure to push. Some ladies liked to be massaged, some prefer not to be touched, etc. so talk to your wife and let her say her preferences, so you can help her better.

 

[mice99]

Do you ask your wife y she scold you? I scolded my hb too during my no1 time and I believe it was all TMC nurse fault. Any way my hb was not affected by that. During the no2 birth, he stay alert and keep asking the nurse about me when he was told to wait at the waiting area. To aviod the same incident to happen again

 

[hermionej]

Giving birth hurts.
Alot.
You swore when you hurt yourself.
Your wife was in a lot of pain.
She will be in a lot of pain.
She will scold you.
Let it go.

 

[mumlissa]

this kind of pain not easy to let a.man to understand.

i am alone when i give birth my first kid. it's so pain that i can't talk and cant breath. but thanks god, the pain only 5hours.