Asking too much?

[Cindize]

Hi all,

If your partner tells you that they are going out with a personal friend and bringing the friend around for the whole day while at the same time concealing whether male or female, is it okay to ask who the friend is and whether male or female?

When you do ask your partner gets really angry and says because you are insecure they will not tell you who or whether male or female.

The curiosity comes when the partner tries to totally conceal the gender of the friend in the conversation. If the partner were to share who the person is and you argue or don't allow the person to go then I think that would not be right?

Any thoughts or opinions on this?

 

[pixie ng]

i do go out with my buddy (a guy who i know almost 20yrs) once or twice per month...for dinner mostly or sometimes catch a movie. i do tell my partner about it, he doesnt like it but he never stop me. as and when he want to "spot check" me, i still answer his call and reply his msg.

there is no right or wrong, just how both parties accommodate each other.

 

[Tein]

I think it is perfectly normal for you to want to know if the friend is male or female. Personally I would be very upset if my partner cannot be honest with me. In the first place, if there is nothing to hide, why is there a need to get angry when questioned and use your "insecurity" as a reason for his anger?

If your partner thinks that you are insecure, then all the more he should be open with you.

On the other hand, it could also be the way you "question" him? My tactic is always to act nonchalant and do it in a "by the way" kinda manner ... works for me but I think it's because my hubby knows what I'm up to anyway, so he's also lazy to beat around the bush with me. Lol.

 

[Northern Lights]

Hi Cindize,

Want to share more details on your marriage/relationship before I voice my opinion?
Eg: yrs of marriage, age range, children?

As these are the factors to consider.

Cheers.

 

[liciachai]

i know this is bad but u can check ur partner phone if u have access to it