ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?

Wati,
yes... suruh ur FIL talk to your dad...
cos itu ur dad's maid.
cakap gitu jer...

stahu aku, MOM will close 1 eye for cases like
wen u gi work, u antar ur kids to ur mom's place..
and @ ur mom's place, ur maid help out skit2...
kalau gitu, okay..

for me, the helper takleh masuk my bedrooms.
she only enter the playroom yg penuh ngan toys & baju untuk digosok.
pintu bilik tido i tutup...
 


Nora, tu lah. Tapi bcos FIL go to my hubby to ask.. so aku diam dulu. Then this Thurs sure they ask again.. Will get my hubby to explain that borrowing maid is illegal. Tapi i guess i alrdy know their reply. They always say "Nak dgn tak nak jer.."

Dulu i baru give birth to Maya, then a few days later was my FIL bday. He said to us, nanti bday nk belanja makan at West Coast Market. Aku dgn laki aku terus mcm blur.. my hubby told him.."Mana boleh merayap, belum lepas hari.. lagi pun tempat tu kan mcm kedai kopi, mana orang hisap rokok..baby baru berapa hari".. then my FIL said, "Alah, cuma NAK dgn TAK NAK jer..." MIL aku pun sama perangai mcm gitu... they dun care and heck care.
 
wati kena firm..nanti dah sekali nak berkali2 so the best kau cakap tak leh sowie ...dah...

dorang nak cakap ape...'hear the good stuff only'

cam advertisement radio dulu
 
hihi, back from lunch. *burp*

wati, your PILS really sama dgn my HB's side.
I tak suka pegi their gathering / open house cos all the pakcik2 smoke openly in front of the kids.
Then they will give the kids minum coke lah, makan all the keropok and junk.
Then when I tak kasi, they will comment, anak I tak ruggedlah, I cerewetlah.
Dulu I diam aje.
Now, don't care.
Nanti budak tu dah sakit batuk, siapa yang susah?
 
betulx3.....

nak kenduri tarak maid pon boleh kenduri jugak...nak tak nak aje hahahhaha

aku now nak makan...tapi mase tak mengizinkan...
tunggu jam 3...hihiih
 
lina, yes, that one also.
worse is when all the other kids are eating the junk also.
so what i do now, i bawak my boy's snack and offer all the kids.
so at least they're all eating healthy.
i'm not like a food nazi or anything.
i kasi dia makan abit of kuih, cake jugak
but memadai lah.
and definitely no coke or cold drinks.
 
wati, I agree with the rest.. bab pinjam2 maid ni kalau dah sekali jadi berkali-kali-kali. so best is biar apa orang nak cakap, at least kita tak fed-up di balakang hari.

"Alah, cuma NAK dgn TAK NAK jer..."
this part i paling tak bleh carry.. Alhamdulillah I dun have to go thru this anymore.
sometimes ppl think kita ni berpantang sgt lah, sikit tak boleh etc. but at the end of the day, its our lives, its our body, kita yg tanggung akibatnya.
i choose to live life my way and accept consequences that comes along with it, tak nak dengar apa orang nak cakap cos they only see but they don't go through what we do.
like lina said "hear the good stuff only", case close.


nora, no hal.. sekadar highlighting the possible scenario since it happens to my fren.
sharing is caring
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lina, yasmeen was in the same science department in poly but she took biotech and i took cpt. dulu pon senyum-senyum jer tak cakap byk.


tekak sakit
my tekak gatal - i think gara-gara makan choc + kueh raya + smalam makan onion rings and burger at burger king for dinner... so irritating!
 
nor and everyone,
my fren recommended this ubat.
if you feel tekak gatal, macam nak jadi sore throat.
go to guardian and ask the pharmacist for Danzen or Leftose.
This tablet is anti-inflammatory.
But will only work BEFORE you get a sore-throat.
kalau dah sakit, tak jalan sangat.
 
agree with u ladies..

for my case, i ask my maid to singgah my mum's plc while wtg for the other son to come back to sch. Psl they on different session, sekolah pulak opp my mum's plc..i dont mind my mum to borrow my maid (she herself ada maid)..mayb she need extra help esp kalau ada famili gathering..tetapikan..tak kan sampai jln raya pon nak bwk maid aku, just bcoz i didnt bring my maid along! I wld prefer my maid to be at home, standby my call if I need her to do anything..dan psl nie i was misunderstood..
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Athlete, memang lah dah sama PILs kita eh. Dulu pernah dorang buat kenduri, then smoking area memang overloaded. Abih MIL kasi makan samosa goreng lah..anything oily and pedas dia kasi.. Dah anak aku nangis2, kepedasan, MIL buat apa tau.. she laughed saying it is so funny. I said it's not funny if anak aku nangis and merengek kat aku cos yg nak kena pujuk aku, nak kena kasi dia calm again is me. True enuf, anak aku besoknya demam.. hidung tersumbat and batok2 due to smoke inhalation and makan mengarots. Orang lain tak ckp aku nie cerewet and mengada-ngada.. cos MIL dah announce to everybody im like tat.. tu sebab aku notice a few makcik2 hubby ku giving me that "look".. and ada sorang tu not even talking to me alrdy. Not sure if MIL got anything to do with it.. cos dulu kita on talking terms. Sigh*
 
notty,
what happened? siapa yg misunderstood?

wati,
kalau nak cerita pasal the ILs, tak habis lah.
marry the man, unfortunately, marry the family jugak.
 
Athlete, true lah. Haiz.. tapi aku punyer citer, sebelum kahwin..madu aku rasa oi.. bila dah kahwin.. semua keluar tanduk. That is why, i keep telling my hubby, "I was cheated in marrying you.."heheh.. Kesian laki aku jadi mangsa. Recently my hubby tawar hati dgn his own parents.. bcos all along i cerita, he dun believe me.. Until they get him into deep shit. Then it opened up his eyes. So now the relationship is abit jarak... my hubby dah bochap attitude towards them. Nie pun kesian laki aku.
 
thanks athlete.. balik nanti i singgah jurong point and look out for that.
for now i'm taking strepsil pain relief..


lina, dunia ni kecik eh.. i see a lot of frens who knows other frens thru FB.


wati, pasal smoking i pantang kalau anyone do it in my house.
so what i did was i on the air-con in my hall and close all the room doors and windows.
then bila some of the uncles ask for ash-tray, i just say "oh sorry eh no smoking allowed pasal me and my anak sensitif. jgn lah marah"
so dorang pon kluar and smoke at the corridor, muka tak hepi sgt ah but its my house, my rules.
kedai kopi pon ada non-smoking area beb!

ada satu kali i pi jln raya with ex-hub nyer side, then i dah cakap my girl baru baik batok and DON'T feed her nonsense or cold drinks.
then bila i cari my girl, the nenek and another sister of hers tgh suap cold drink to her!
i pon lolokkan mata ah.. terkejut member.. pas tu bleh cakap "alah sikit ajer.. mak dia ni jaga-jaga sgt!"
darah naik, naik sampai pent house beb! ingat-ingat balik kisah lama rasa macam nak pekik jer but lucky i masih hormat tuan rumah..
well like i said, thankfully i dun have to go thru the merepek MIL anymore.
 
Nor, yes.. my MIL always say "Alah, jaga anak sayang2 sangat. Aku dulu jaga anak sembarang ajer, tgk anak aku sekarang.. jadi orang jugak." Tak ker kuwang ajor.. aku geram babe dgr nie tau.. aper maksud dia aku tak tahu jaga anak ? Dia nak step ajar aku konon, padahal dia masa mengandung anak2 dia, she herself smoking seh..
 
Athlete,
my mum ingat i ni ngada2..bwk maid tak blh, she wants to control my maid oso..i think my fault lah for the past 9years, coz i always give in..ingat mak kita, so try to help lah coz dulu mum takda maid...then now she ada her own maid almost 2 yrs to jaga my keponakan..but still need extra helper at home..sometime they do nothing thr..when my home byk kerja nak buat..aritu my mum call and asked me if i bring my maid to jln raya, i sd tak..so she sd she nak bwk..i sd no nid coz my laundry byk lom habis cuci and gosok..she sd baju ape byk sgt? baju rumah?? (telling me if baju umah not urgent wat..)haizz...
 
"marry the man, unfortunately, marry the family jugak."

i think the key point here is balance. its not a totally bad thing bila kita kahwin, kita terima suami/isteri dan sekeluarga seadanya.
yg important is that suami perlu seimbangkan immediate famili and keluarga parents.
tak boleh lah masih nak duduk bawah ketiak mak, everything nak dengar cakap mak/bapak, then kita kena dengar cakap dorang which indirectly is the ILs orders.
same thing with the wifey pon tak boleh lah everything nak complen kat mak/bapak pasal suami etc.

side-track
that day i happen to watch this Indo movie Tasbih Cinta 2, all about jodoh.. funny the girl dah kahwin then the hub did not touch her (cos he is HIV+) and then she confided with her mom.
 
athlete

ahhh pikir panjang nie .. masih pikir masih pikir masih pikir..

tasbih cinta 2 ni cite mesia or indon?
kalau mesia i nak tengok kalau indon kem salam la
 
nora kau fikir ape?? tak jadi antar maid kau?


sedapnye dpt luahkan ape yg terpendam dlm hati aku.takda tempat nak luahkan..finally all out...
 
notty

maid confirm yer hantar balik
no looking back insya'allah

kau tau la aku yer sifat ingin tahu tu ... ni tengah pikir

mak kau pun selalu nak side maid eh... haiz.. mcm mcm
buat sempit keta jer jln ramai ramai
 
nora
entahlah kenapa suka side maid, dari dulu arr mcm tu sampai maid pon besar kepala..

athlete,
yup she bring her maid, and want my maid to join her too..my kids with me i bwk jln..
 
paling aku sedih skali..one of the wkend during puasa..i tak tido more than 24 hours buat kuih org order(remember sharing here)...my maid went my mum plc on Monday, and told my mum I buat kuih sampai tak tido..her reply was,"mem kamu tak tido tapi nanti dpt duit ape!"
 
Notty, agaknya maid kau citer-citer kat your mum tak.. ye lah. mana tahu dia bilang kau bully dia..then dia duduk rumah boring.. so mak kau kesian kan dia.. bawak lah dia jln dgn maid dia so they can have each other as friends.. something like tat...

Nora, aku kalau tgk citer hantu, i will switch off the sound. Mcm gitu aku tak takut tau.. hehehe
 
nor
u tak segan tgk cite hantu..?? smlm i tgk preview dia serammmm giler muka dia..esp biler pompan tu tido mereng, then blkg ada cik pon peratikan dia...i think i wont watch lah, mlm jumaat oiii...
 
notty, sedih i dengar cam tu.. *hugs*
entah eh, kadang lebih sedih kalau mak sendiri yg macam tak memahami kita. kalau ILs, dah tentu kita ni cuma menantu.
I have a cousin almost same kes as you, but she is very fortunate to have a very loving ILs, she told me her MIL is more of a mom to her than her own. Sad eh in some sense.
 
Alah cian kakak Notty kita... Meh kita *hugz* you...

Tapi kan aku rasa my mum pun lenient jugak dgn maid nie. Ye lah.. maid nie kita share, but i think my mum too nice to her. Hari Raya aku takder kasut baru.. tapi she go and buy the maid kasut baru. Padahal, she alrdy got 1 shoe from my sis. My sis donate her shoes yg tak pernah di pakai. Then smlm, kita pergi shopping, she saw some perfumes.. then she said nak belikan the maid. Aku terus melenting lah. Aku ckp, "Mak nie manjakan maid sgt, tapi bila kerja dia tak betul you complain to me. Abih belikan minyak wangi, dia nak pakai wangi utk saper.. laki aku ?" My mum terus diam. Everyday, the maid get to some nap/rest time when my mum and Maya is napping. Abih bila orang tu bikin kerja tak betul, salah saper.. aku kaper.. ?
 
notty, i feverit dgn crite seram.. so far i ok lah, even balik kol 2 pagi pon i still ok jalan sorang.

tapi kan bila i watch Paranormal Activity (plak tu watch midnight!) i tak boleh tido.. i had to on the bedside table lamp and sleep pon tak nyenyak.. for 2 nights i terbayang-bayang the demon! now, thats what i call scary merry!
 
aku suke tgk crita hantu....
tapi bila shampoo rambut....mate aku pedih!

at least aku mandi..daripade nora tak nak mandi ihihihhi
 
Tu sebab aku selalu kacau mak aku.. "Mak, dah kena kaper dgn Sutinih? Kerja dia tak betul mak diam kan. Malahan diberi ganjaran." There was 1 time, i saw adik aku kasi dia $20 and another adik give her $10. So i asked them the money for what ? Dorang ckp, kesian Sutinih, kerja kemas2 bilik kita.. so kita upah. Aku ckp lah.. "Kepala hotak korang..tu kan memang kerja dia.. duh !" So i told them, if they give her extra, have to give to me 1st, i will keep for her. And tgk performance dia. From then onwards, i told my sis all the shortcomings of the maid..cos dorang cuma nampak dia buat kerja. Tapi dorang tak nampak quality of work.
 
wati betul3...

maid pandai belakon kalahkan sinetron punye berlakon...aku nyer 1st maid...
dulu ade orang datang rumah...overnite...
wah dia bgn kol 3 pagi buat kerja....
padahal padahal
 
wati tak yah kasi nap time lah...
kalau dorang penat ..kau ingat dorang bodoh nak cont work...

bab ginie semua ade initiative....

nor...
bab smoking ...i suruh dorang hisap pat luar...tokcik pakcik...semua kena keluar...

someone even burnt my sofa dulu...
 
nor
brani seh..if I did drv home svc, esp aft midnite at landed property areas, i will not sit in the car waiting..will stand outside and play with my hp, and kepala keep looking up at the trees..hehehe
 


atlete...dah tgk cerita hantu then takut...so bila mandi...nak pejamkan mate time bilas shampoo rambut pon segannnnnnnn!!!!!

badan i besar ...dlm hati ade taman
 
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