ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
- Thread starter bubs
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Wow wee, lauk pauk macam best. Makes me wanna go down to Rumah Makan Minang or KGC but very boring leh, this week no lunch time kaki. My husband and teacher friends are all on office hrs work week.
Re: Tahlil
What I know is nak buat can do but on any dates cos it's not proper to follow the 7 hari lah, 40 hari lah..berapa hari as itu bukan dlm ajaran. Pasal menjamu selera, I believe tuan rumah tu hajatnya nak sedekah makan to all those people who came and prayed but I also believe everything we do must be in moderation. Majlis tahlil kadang dah macam kenduri kawen. Lauk-pauk berjenis. Menyusahkan keluarga dalam kesusahan. And kalau pulak makanan diberikan ala kadar, ada pulak yang mengumpat. Manusia.
Re: Tahlil
What I know is nak buat can do but on any dates cos it's not proper to follow the 7 hari lah, 40 hari lah..berapa hari as itu bukan dlm ajaran. Pasal menjamu selera, I believe tuan rumah tu hajatnya nak sedekah makan to all those people who came and prayed but I also believe everything we do must be in moderation. Majlis tahlil kadang dah macam kenduri kawen. Lauk-pauk berjenis. Menyusahkan keluarga dalam kesusahan. And kalau pulak makanan diberikan ala kadar, ada pulak yang mengumpat. Manusia.
<font color="119911">gal
hehe oh aah eh no parking eh? takda hang land je ah atas kapal or containers yg ada tu tak bleh eh? hehe anyway hope u got gd medicine & a gd rest tonite
betty
tul tu seh kkdg majlis tahlil dah cam majlis kenduri kawin seh.. n byk plak org nak kena masak or contribute</font>
hehe oh aah eh no parking eh? takda hang land je ah atas kapal or containers yg ada tu tak bleh eh? hehe anyway hope u got gd medicine & a gd rest tonite
betty
tul tu seh kkdg majlis tahlil dah cam majlis kenduri kawin seh.. n byk plak org nak kena masak or contribute</font>
<font color="0000ff">betty
betol tu.. org skg buat talil dah mcm buat keje kahwin..
tapi dlm kitab Imam Syafie ada tau menyebut mengharamkan Kenduri Arwah and dlm kitab nya pun ada menyebut..
** yg sebaiknya yg menyediakan makanan untuk keluarga si Mati adalah jiran, kerabat atau org yg datang menziarahi bukan keluarga si Mati..**
sometime tu kita manusia ni selalu keliru.. kita takut dgn mulut org ke atau kita takut dgn balasan Nya.. ni semua masing2.. apa pun, niat kita tu yg paling penting..</font>
betol tu.. org skg buat talil dah mcm buat keje kahwin..
tapi dlm kitab Imam Syafie ada tau menyebut mengharamkan Kenduri Arwah and dlm kitab nya pun ada menyebut..
** yg sebaiknya yg menyediakan makanan untuk keluarga si Mati adalah jiran, kerabat atau org yg datang menziarahi bukan keluarga si Mati..**
sometime tu kita manusia ni selalu keliru.. kita takut dgn mulut org ke atau kita takut dgn balasan Nya.. ni semua masing2.. apa pun, niat kita tu yg paling penting..</font>
smalldreams
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Lynn
culture orang melayu ni, kalau dah mendalam sangat, susah kita nak kick lah.... for some families, kenduris are super big things. For me, I tak suka sebab waste paper plate & waste resources aje..hehehe...
Zu
Aku tak lost ler. I know you're referring to yr mom's place! Untung eh you, can just pop over for lunch!!
Sometimes I stress nak pergi my mom's place with Adam (anyway adam's not in school yet, so no chance to be there w/o him) coz he'll be up to some mischief nanti I pulak yang kena marah for not being able to "control" him. Grr.
culture orang melayu ni, kalau dah mendalam sangat, susah kita nak kick lah.... for some families, kenduris are super big things. For me, I tak suka sebab waste paper plate & waste resources aje..hehehe...
Zu
Aku tak lost ler. I know you're referring to yr mom's place! Untung eh you, can just pop over for lunch!!
Sometimes I stress nak pergi my mom's place with Adam (anyway adam's not in school yet, so no chance to be there w/o him) coz he'll be up to some mischief nanti I pulak yang kena marah for not being able to "control" him. Grr.
Lynn, betul. That I know untuk the kenduri selepas pengekebumian. The one I mentioned is the kenduri berhari. Even during sec school, if you all took CME, it was mentioned that you should not expect even a cup of drink from the family of the deceased bila pergi melawat because there shouldn't be any cooking or preparation of food during the funeral.
Anyway, this is something to be shared and learned. Can help to clear up misconceptions =)
Anyway, this is something to be shared and learned. Can help to clear up misconceptions =)
<font color="119911">NAw
hmm ada ke trend camtu? mana mazhab dorang dah ikut tu? subhanallah.. usually if lauk pauk tu dimasak or dicontribute oleh org luar ok gak bt if own family kena "paksa" masak dah menjadi mudarat plakkan? coz it happen recently cian seh e makcik hv to work & balik nak kena masak sebyk2 nya n disuruh masak lebih so dat ppl can tapau, n makcik tu bukannya sihat mana pung, n its their own family members, lau nak senang order je sudah tak susahkan family</font>
hmm ada ke trend camtu? mana mazhab dorang dah ikut tu? subhanallah.. usually if lauk pauk tu dimasak or dicontribute oleh org luar ok gak bt if own family kena "paksa" masak dah menjadi mudarat plakkan? coz it happen recently cian seh e makcik hv to work & balik nak kena masak sebyk2 nya n disuruh masak lebih so dat ppl can tapau, n makcik tu bukannya sihat mana pung, n its their own family members, lau nak senang order je sudah tak susahkan family</font>
hello, hello...
just got to office.
betty,
my ID co. is atliving.
according to my hb, jgn recommend.
smalldreams,
hahah, i thought i aje yg rasa stress kalau kat rumah my mom.
re: kenduri arwah
this topic selalu buat me and hb argue.
cos his side always ada.
and i of cos always tak nak pergi.
i will insist that dalam islam tak boleh.
but he will insist that kalau tak boleh pun dah part of malay culture, so if the family dah biasa buat we have to respect them...sigh...
just got to office.
betty,
my ID co. is atliving.
according to my hb, jgn recommend.
smalldreams,
hahah, i thought i aje yg rasa stress kalau kat rumah my mom.
re: kenduri arwah
this topic selalu buat me and hb argue.
cos his side always ada.
and i of cos always tak nak pergi.
i will insist that dalam islam tak boleh.
but he will insist that kalau tak boleh pun dah part of malay culture, so if the family dah biasa buat we have to respect them...sigh...
<font color="0000ff">Smalldream
tu lah masalah nya dgn org kita.. tapi selagi tak terpesong, masih boleh di teruskan.. tapi klu dah lari dari akidah, sebaik nya di tinggalkan..
my ustazah selalu pesan "kita belajar agama Allah, bukan dari agama turun temurun nenek moyang kita"
betty, cip
kat sini we just share apa yg kita tau je.. nothing more.. sharing is caring.. hehehe</font>
tu lah masalah nya dgn org kita.. tapi selagi tak terpesong, masih boleh di teruskan.. tapi klu dah lari dari akidah, sebaik nya di tinggalkan..
my ustazah selalu pesan "kita belajar agama Allah, bukan dari agama turun temurun nenek moyang kita"
betty, cip
kat sini we just share apa yg kita tau je.. nothing more.. sharing is caring.. hehehe</font>
then whn u dun attend the kenduri kendara
org cakap (org cakap lagii) u tak bercampur or tak respect
psstt.. i usually dun go
even my own grandpa yer
i dun see the point bile org tu ader..
takde org nak ziarah dia
bile dia dah takde yg lain lain sibuk sibuk berkumpul 7 hari, 14 hari, 100 hari buat ape
org cakap (org cakap lagii) u tak bercampur or tak respect
psstt.. i usually dun go
even my own grandpa yer
i dun see the point bile org tu ader..
takde org nak ziarah dia
bile dia dah takde yg lain lain sibuk sibuk berkumpul 7 hari, 14 hari, 100 hari buat ape
quote from lynn...
"tapi dlm kitab Imam Syafie ada tau menyebut mengharamkan Kenduri Arwah and dlm kitab nya pun ada menyebut..
** yg sebaiknya yg menyediakan makanan untuk keluarga si Mati adalah jiran, kerabat atau org yg datang menziarahi bukan keluarga si Mati..**
"
"tapi dlm kitab Imam Syafie ada tau menyebut mengharamkan Kenduri Arwah and dlm kitab nya pun ada menyebut..
** yg sebaiknya yg menyediakan makanan untuk keluarga si Mati adalah jiran, kerabat atau org yg datang menziarahi bukan keluarga si Mati..**
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