ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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mamaliz
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allo....(baru antar hilmi to sch bus)
zu...
kau biar betul cakap bukan bukan sampai stomach cancer...kalau worry go n see doc k...
aku pon dah 2 hari sakit pewut...menses tak datang abt 6 mths ni...haiz...pening kepala, entah bila nak datang...jgn aku dah syiok nak posa baru datang plak...
hubby i skang dah pandai...kalau i nak beli bag raya dia pon tau kena carik bag yg besar...if possible he wants a bag that he also like...hahahahaha...pasal kekadang he hv to carry cos its heavy to lug hilmi's things ard...
zu...
kau biar betul cakap bukan bukan sampai stomach cancer...kalau worry go n see doc k...
aku pon dah 2 hari sakit pewut...menses tak datang abt 6 mths ni...haiz...pening kepala, entah bila nak datang...jgn aku dah syiok nak posa baru datang plak...
hubby i skang dah pandai...kalau i nak beli bag raya dia pon tau kena carik bag yg besar...if possible he wants a bag that he also like...hahahahaha...pasal kekadang he hv to carry cos its heavy to lug hilmi's things ard...
shash_2901
New Member
afternoon earthlings...
oh i hope im not too late to say thanks to notty,lynzi(walaupun tak nampak bayang),wati,lina yg sudi dtg Rizqi's party...cuma i was so mad to myself tak dapat nak layan u all pasal mcm i sorang who needs to run the show
penat,pissed and bingit dgn adik ipar i...
dtg macam dijemput,duduk goyang kaki macam mam..
i hubby n her sister yg kelam kabut dari decorating to the end...thanks gurls jgn serek k..
wah pasal raya semuer da ready to go eh..wah siap dgn persiapan skali...cadar,baju,etc..hehehe
like me mcm biasa cuma diff is this year rizqi da blh pakai baju melayu,so i da tempah buat baju dia n hubby,as mine masih blum siap...since i dun haf my own place tak la kecoh sgt nak beli mcm2,kuih mmg kena beli kuih tunjuk2,i tak tau buat la...but im trying to find simple2 yg i blh try this year..insyallah...
shahlynn,hope ur family will recover soon,especially ur sis yg pregnant tu...and i pun sudi dtg ur house kalau dijemput,insyallah..
oh i hope im not too late to say thanks to notty,lynzi(walaupun tak nampak bayang),wati,lina yg sudi dtg Rizqi's party...cuma i was so mad to myself tak dapat nak layan u all pasal mcm i sorang who needs to run the show
penat,pissed and bingit dgn adik ipar i...
dtg macam dijemput,duduk goyang kaki macam mam..
i hubby n her sister yg kelam kabut dari decorating to the end...thanks gurls jgn serek k..
wah pasal raya semuer da ready to go eh..wah siap dgn persiapan skali...cadar,baju,etc..hehehe
like me mcm biasa cuma diff is this year rizqi da blh pakai baju melayu,so i da tempah buat baju dia n hubby,as mine masih blum siap...since i dun haf my own place tak la kecoh sgt nak beli mcm2,kuih mmg kena beli kuih tunjuk2,i tak tau buat la...but im trying to find simple2 yg i blh try this year..insyallah...
shahlynn,hope ur family will recover soon,especially ur sis yg pregnant tu...and i pun sudi dtg ur house kalau dijemput,insyallah..
shash_2901
New Member
a good wife = ready to kangkang =>
hahahahahahaha.....kangkang..jgn tak kangkang,lol
hahahahahahaha.....kangkang..jgn tak kangkang,lol
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Slynn
sesungguhnya seh i didnt noe pasal H1N1 thingy
hope ur sis recover soon eh..
yelah u kan mmg selalu buat open house, w/o fail..
untung sapa yg dtg dpt menjamu selera masakan u..
as for me lau masak pun provided MIL's nya kompuak coming either we masak lontong or soto tu je.. dats e normal dish.. tp tu ah ingat nak try smtg else any simple recipe to share.. muak plak aku asik masak ni dua dish je hehe
zu
sesungguhnya ku pun cant answer to ur question..pelik ah i tink sm men are jus too much.. they want everything smuanya bini buat, clean e house, cook for them, jaga e kids, jaga makan minum dorang & also kangkang for them too kan? bt sudah terang we women are not super women???
i jus got a box of kurma from my thai collg.. so sweet n she hugged me syg happy ramadhan</font>
Slynn
sesungguhnya seh i didnt noe pasal H1N1 thingy
hope ur sis recover soon eh..
yelah u kan mmg selalu buat open house, w/o fail..
as for me lau masak pun provided MIL's nya kompuak coming either we masak lontong or soto tu je.. dats e normal dish.. tp tu ah ingat nak try smtg else any simple recipe to share.. muak plak aku asik masak ni dua dish je hehe
zu
sesungguhnya ku pun cant answer to ur question..pelik ah i tink sm men are jus too much.. they want everything smuanya bini buat, clean e house, cook for them, jaga e kids, jaga makan minum dorang & also kangkang for them too kan? bt sudah terang we women are not super women???
i jus got a box of kurma from my thai collg.. so sweet n she hugged me syg happy ramadhan</font>
liz,
no la.. aku rasa aku gastric la.
psl abg ipar aku tu betul la.. dia slalu complain sakit perut,
then tau2 stomach cancer..
and kakak aku pun tak keje mcm aku...
i wonder how she's gonna cope.
liz,
org tu insist dia tau aper yg dia cakap ler.
and dat person tu laki aku...
dats y im sooo sooo upset.
no la.. aku rasa aku gastric la.
psl abg ipar aku tu betul la.. dia slalu complain sakit perut,
then tau2 stomach cancer..
and kakak aku pun tak keje mcm aku...
i wonder how she's gonna cope.
liz,
org tu insist dia tau aper yg dia cakap ler.
and dat person tu laki aku...
dats y im sooo sooo upset.
http://www.singaporemotherhood.com/forumboard/messages/449169/2697849.html?1250657270
org minta belas ihsan then kene shoot...
dunno how true is the situation.
org minta belas ihsan then kene shoot...
dunno how true is the situation.
mamaliz
Active Member
aiyoh.....i think theres no answer to zu nya question...cos no human is perfect lahh....nak cakap aku good wife pon takleh mesti ada buat silap perr...good mother also cant...im not always energized enuff to layankan those 2 cute lil monkeys of mine...hahahaha...a goos housewife....no way that i am..cos at times even hubby tells me to leave the mess n laze ard wif him...
what we can be is ...Do the best we can Do...ahhhhh...that sounds more realistic...hehehehe....
ps: umah aku ngah in a mess lagi ni...tapi aku jeling ajerrr...kekekeke...
what we can be is ...Do the best we can Do...ahhhhh...that sounds more realistic...hehehehe....
ps: umah aku ngah in a mess lagi ni...tapi aku jeling ajerrr...kekekeke...
<font color="0000ff">Quote **How does one become a GOOD FULLTIME HOUSEWIFE if she is a GOOD WIFE and A GOOD MOTHER? **
Good wife - u jaga makan, pakai, minum and layan dia dgn baik
Good Mother - u jaga ur kids dgn sempuna dlm semua hal eg, makan, minum dorang and their education
GOOD FULLTIME HOUSEWIFE - jaga kebersihan rumah, e surrounding environment.. menghias rumah maybe??
seriouly, i dont neo what the ans for ur Q! ni aku main tembak je..</font>
Good wife - u jaga makan, pakai, minum and layan dia dgn baik
Good Mother - u jaga ur kids dgn sempuna dlm semua hal eg, makan, minum dorang and their education
GOOD FULLTIME HOUSEWIFE - jaga kebersihan rumah, e surrounding environment.. menghias rumah maybe??
seriouly, i dont neo what the ans for ur Q! ni aku main tembak je..</font>
mamaliz
Active Member
zu...
kalau laki kau yg cakap gitu...kau cakap ngan dia...to tell u aper yg kau kurang...tell him to tell u straight in the face lahh...maybe ada yg we as wives dont realised wat we lack...maybe dia nak attention ke...saper lah tau...
my hubby dia pon suka putar belit at times..tapi bila aku dah sound suruh shoot...baru dia cakap...then thats where we debate/discuss...
no point kan kalau kita dont understand the question/comments but still not improving...
kalau laki kau yg cakap gitu...kau cakap ngan dia...to tell u aper yg kau kurang...tell him to tell u straight in the face lahh...maybe ada yg we as wives dont realised wat we lack...maybe dia nak attention ke...saper lah tau...
my hubby dia pon suka putar belit at times..tapi bila aku dah sound suruh shoot...baru dia cakap...then thats where we debate/discuss...
no point kan kalau kita dont understand the question/comments but still not improving...
smalldreams
Active Member
<font color="0077aa">Shash
Hope Rizqi had a good time at the party!
Alah, sudah lah, no hard feelings k? Since you dah tau, next time, tak payah combine2 party ni semua...kurang stress.
Shahlynn
There are many ways to measure whether you're a good wife & mother. I think asalkan you buat your tanggungjawab, memadai lah tu. having a good wife is not just about sex what. Kalau siang malam sanggup standby tapi makanan, kain baju tergendala, bagus ke macam tu?
Did you gals read about the Afghan president who said husbands had the right to starve their wives if they refused sex? Kena backlash habis2an. So sad, dah jadi mcm zaman taleban.
Zu
How does one become a GOOD FULLTIME HOUSEWIFE if she is a GOOD WIFE and A GOOD MOTHER?
Tanya lah your hubby apa dia mean since he knows what it means. Tapi pada I, that phrase langsung takde makna. Pusing2 kat situ jugak
Tapi i agree with what Mamaliz says
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Hope Rizqi had a good time at the party!
Alah, sudah lah, no hard feelings k? Since you dah tau, next time, tak payah combine2 party ni semua...kurang stress.
Shahlynn
There are many ways to measure whether you're a good wife & mother. I think asalkan you buat your tanggungjawab, memadai lah tu. having a good wife is not just about sex what. Kalau siang malam sanggup standby tapi makanan, kain baju tergendala, bagus ke macam tu?
Did you gals read about the Afghan president who said husbands had the right to starve their wives if they refused sex? Kena backlash habis2an. So sad, dah jadi mcm zaman taleban.
Zu
How does one become a GOOD FULLTIME HOUSEWIFE if she is a GOOD WIFE and A GOOD MOTHER?
Tanya lah your hubby apa dia mean since he knows what it means. Tapi pada I, that phrase langsung takde makna. Pusing2 kat situ jugak
Tapi i agree with what Mamaliz says
smalldreams
Active Member
Zu
See lah I tengah baca the thread link. Rabaks. Tak tau mana yang betul. Tapi eh I heran tau how orang boleh meminta-minta kat sini. Entah lah eh, maybe sejauh ni kita tak payah minta2 atau alhamdulillah tak lah sampai ke tahap tu.
Haiz...biar lah, only God will repay his actions. If he's a genuine case, then nothing to worry lor
See lah I tengah baca the thread link. Rabaks. Tak tau mana yang betul. Tapi eh I heran tau how orang boleh meminta-minta kat sini. Entah lah eh, maybe sejauh ni kita tak payah minta2 atau alhamdulillah tak lah sampai ke tahap tu.
Haiz...biar lah, only God will repay his actions. If he's a genuine case, then nothing to worry lor
smalldreams,
it takes both party to make a marriage work.
mana yg kurang, both mesti tegur.
& jgn mintak yg bukan2, if u jolly well noe the other party susah nak adakan.
rumah bersih, pakai jaga, anak2 terurus, makan siap dgn dessert skali....
tapi malam, toooo tired to do other things. jgn cakap sex, but nak diskus laki bini pun dah tak larat....
a good wife? masing2 lah...
it takes both party to make a marriage work.
mana yg kurang, both mesti tegur.
& jgn mintak yg bukan2, if u jolly well noe the other party susah nak adakan.
rumah bersih, pakai jaga, anak2 terurus, makan siap dgn dessert skali....
tapi malam, toooo tired to do other things. jgn cakap sex, but nak diskus laki bini pun dah tak larat....
a good wife? masing2 lah...
<font color="119911">Slynn
so babe u masak 2 main dish & rebus lontong & buat nasi jagung eh? hmm ok gak eh ada variety to choose from..
so u ada any other thing yg senang nak masak tak? lau nak suruh ku masak both cam ur lauk tu tak terbuat ah nak2 rendang woi kang jadi kari plak
sana ujan babe?</font>
so babe u masak 2 main dish & rebus lontong & buat nasi jagung eh? hmm ok gak eh ada variety to choose from..
so u ada any other thing yg senang nak masak tak? lau nak suruh ku masak both cam ur lauk tu tak terbuat ah nak2 rendang woi kang jadi kari plak
sana ujan babe?</font>
a good wife is not about kangkang la...
ehhehe
also about being a good listener, supporter, 'caregiver' for the husband...
ingat drama Rahsia perkahwinan 2 tak?
husband's issue tak habis2 nafkah batin!
wife argued, "asyik2 hubungan intim! kurang ker aper yg saya buat slama nie?"
ehhehe
also about being a good listener, supporter, 'caregiver' for the husband...
ingat drama Rahsia perkahwinan 2 tak?
husband's issue tak habis2 nafkah batin!
wife argued, "asyik2 hubungan intim! kurang ker aper yg saya buat slama nie?"
smalldreams
Active Member
<font color="0077aa">Shahlynn
Ya lor, boil down to compromise. Tapi I think it's a constant challenge for SAHMs. Already given up so much for the family, yet the best will never be good enough. Bersabar aje lah eh....
Nshah
Ko ni cam yer yer je tau what Zu is going through (saw on FB). You're not a housewife to begin with rite
Tapi re: sex, I think memang lah, lelaki live for sex. It's a very important thing for them. Walaupun it's unsaid, I think many marriages break down due to unmet sexual needs.
Just now at lunch, my colleagues organised a birthday party for 5 of us, Aug babies. So surprised! We went there thinking it was a farewell for another colleague but they bought a small cake for each of us. Dapat present lagi! Haha... things like this make me want to stay on here
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Ya lor, boil down to compromise. Tapi I think it's a constant challenge for SAHMs. Already given up so much for the family, yet the best will never be good enough. Bersabar aje lah eh....
Nshah
Ko ni cam yer yer je tau what Zu is going through (saw on FB). You're not a housewife to begin with rite
Tapi re: sex, I think memang lah, lelaki live for sex. It's a very important thing for them. Walaupun it's unsaid, I think many marriages break down due to unmet sexual needs.
Just now at lunch, my colleagues organised a birthday party for 5 of us, Aug babies. So surprised! We went there thinking it was a farewell for another colleague but they bought a small cake for each of us. Dapat present lagi! Haha... things like this make me want to stay on here
<font color="000000">Shahlynn
ko buat aku teringat ape mak aku akan masak on 1st day of raya..
1. Lontong
2. Sambal Tumis Udang
3. Sambal Tumis Sotong
4. Kari Ayam
5. Ayam goreng
6. Rendang daging
7. Sambal goreng pengantin
8. Desserts - Green beans with durian / honeydew sago</font>
ko buat aku teringat ape mak aku akan masak on 1st day of raya..
1. Lontong
2. Sambal Tumis Udang
3. Sambal Tumis Sotong
4. Kari Ayam
5. Ayam goreng
6. Rendang daging
7. Sambal goreng pengantin
8. Desserts - Green beans with durian / honeydew sago</font>
{ Tapi I think it's a constant challenge for SAHMs.}
jgn cakap SAHMs jer...
kita FTWM pun ada same set of problem...
PLUS, time factor is not on our side.
u noe, whenever i turn SAHM for a week,
i btol2 absorb the full challenges.
penat beb! there were times i wished i'm back in the ofis!
and wen husband came back, takkan i nak terus go, "ur turn! i'm tired!"?
bottomline, SAHM or FTWM, it takes 2 to tango.
jgn cakap SAHMs jer...
kita FTWM pun ada same set of problem...
PLUS, time factor is not on our side.
u noe, whenever i turn SAHM for a week,
i btol2 absorb the full challenges.
penat beb! there were times i wished i'm back in the ofis!
and wen husband came back, takkan i nak terus go, "ur turn! i'm tired!"?
bottomline, SAHM or FTWM, it takes 2 to tango.
mamaliz
Active Member
SAHM always have this prob....People always think we are able to take things easy at home...dapat goyang kaki 24/7...can do more than wat we said we have done...expected to do more other than the household things cos we ARE at home the whole day...
my hubby dulu slalu argue like dat tau..
until i ada time tu burst out at him...and asked him to bloody well stay at home n jaga budak budak ni n masak ..nothing else...jus that...wen he thinks abt it,,,jus the jaga budak2 part dia dah cair.....hahahaha...
we caqn jus sit quietly n wait for the kids to start complaining ...fighting...tumpahkan air..make a mess of watever...dah bleh stress...
my hubby dulu slalu argue like dat tau..
until i ada time tu burst out at him...and asked him to bloody well stay at home n jaga budak budak ni n masak ..nothing else...jus that...wen he thinks abt it,,,jus the jaga budak2 part dia dah cair.....hahahaha...
we caqn jus sit quietly n wait for the kids to start complaining ...fighting...tumpahkan air..make a mess of watever...dah bleh stress...
smalldreams
Active Member
<font color="0077aa">Lina
wow, yr menu is so international
Nottygal
It's amazing how our moms can cook all these eh! Bila lah I nak jadi cam mak2 ni... haiz...
Shahlynn
Memang lah there are different challenges for SAHM & FTWM. Tapi I rasa for SAHM, the challenge is even greater, coz they gave up their earning power, yet their contributions to households might be questioned from time to time.
FTWM pun different set of challenges. Unless you have a good support system, there's always the guilt of leaving yr child at home under someone else's care. Cam Susan in Desperate Housewives...one of the examples (tapi dek tu memang one kind...haha)</font>
wow, yr menu is so international
Nottygal
It's amazing how our moms can cook all these eh! Bila lah I nak jadi cam mak2 ni... haiz...
Shahlynn
Memang lah there are different challenges for SAHM & FTWM. Tapi I rasa for SAHM, the challenge is even greater, coz they gave up their earning power, yet their contributions to households might be questioned from time to time.
FTWM pun different set of challenges. Unless you have a good support system, there's always the guilt of leaving yr child at home under someone else's care. Cam Susan in Desperate Housewives...one of the examples (tapi dek tu memang one kind...haha)</font>
<font color="119911">peah
well not fully i noe what shes gg thru bt im facing with e same question now so i can feel her half pressure babe..
furthermore im working n im sure i cant do all soo sempurnaly ok..
mmg tul kata Slynn bottomline whether u r SAHM or FTWM takes 2 to tango.. well if sm hub yg not particular & tak kisah ok ah, bt there sm i noe who are jus too ridiculous smua nak kena ikut cam sunnah nabi, baik lau camtu bini dorang tu tak ya work, duk je pat umah jgn jumpa org smua.. tp bila part dorang lelaki nya tanggungjawab tak plak kita pertikaikan balik... anyway i tink its up to individual lah..
we will b bless to get a gd hub or wife bt if either one sucks, there goes ur marriage.. will jus get worst & reput or worst vanish along e way..</font>
well not fully i noe what shes gg thru bt im facing with e same question now so i can feel her half pressure babe..
furthermore im working n im sure i cant do all soo sempurnaly ok..
mmg tul kata Slynn bottomline whether u r SAHM or FTWM takes 2 to tango.. well if sm hub yg not particular & tak kisah ok ah, bt there sm i noe who are jus too ridiculous smua nak kena ikut cam sunnah nabi, baik lau camtu bini dorang tu tak ya work, duk je pat umah jgn jumpa org smua.. tp bila part dorang lelaki nya tanggungjawab tak plak kita pertikaikan balik... anyway i tink its up to individual lah..
we will b bless to get a gd hub or wife bt if either one sucks, there goes ur marriage.. will jus get worst & reput or worst vanish along e way..</font>
mamaliz
Active Member
dulu masa i FTWM...can say hubby was more relaxed wif me sehh...
balik jerr i can pengsan on the bed..we will clean the hse onli wen off days..either him or me..masak onli wen im off w him...if not he will masak nasi n fry french fries....hehehehe...
but now...since hubby dah paham the stress of a hsewife..he's more lovable....kekekeke...*mentel*
balik jerr i can pengsan on the bed..we will clean the hse onli wen off days..either him or me..masak onli wen im off w him...if not he will masak nasi n fry french fries....hehehehe...
but now...since hubby dah paham the stress of a hsewife..he's more lovable....kekekeke...*mentel*
mamaliz
Active Member
teringat dulu masa hubby kena jadi hsehusband for a mth++...i balik keje ajerr i will him n sarah pengsan on the floor...seems that he really clean the hse n cook...nasi putih makan ngan fires n fried chick wings....lol~...soooo kiut n farney...cos sarah say ayah masak sedapppp
<font color="0000ff">Wah best nya cakap pasal lauk raya.. normally first day raya.. my mom will cook these
pssttt it my mom tau Not MIL.. MIL every yr she just order.. LOL
buat ketupat
rendang daging
ayam masak merah
kuah kacang - lauk wajib utk aku
sambal goreng pengantin
sambal tumis udang
Kuah Lodeh</font>
pssttt it my mom tau Not MIL.. MIL every yr she just order.. LOL
buat ketupat
rendang daging
ayam masak merah
kuah kacang - lauk wajib utk aku
sambal goreng pengantin
sambal tumis udang
Kuah Lodeh</font>
smalldreams,
i masak 'international' sebab tu lauk my sis tak masak...al-maklum...chef in the family is my sis...
i dulu makcik2 nak datang...presure aku...sebab my arwah mak nie tukang masak n they expect her daughters pon ade same traits....i 'ilmu' makan ajerlah yg lebih hihihihi
WIFE...
we can't do EVERYTHING in one day...but each day biar one of the 'items' outstanding.....ade paham? tak paham tak per...
teringat my friend ngadu "nak isteri macam Kadtija tapi peil suami tak macam Nabi"
i masak 'international' sebab tu lauk my sis tak masak...al-maklum...chef in the family is my sis...
i dulu makcik2 nak datang...presure aku...sebab my arwah mak nie tukang masak n they expect her daughters pon ade same traits....i 'ilmu' makan ajerlah yg lebih hihihihi
WIFE...
we can't do EVERYTHING in one day...but each day biar one of the 'items' outstanding.....ade paham? tak paham tak per...
teringat my friend ngadu "nak isteri macam Kadtija tapi peil suami tak macam Nabi"
momma_naqi
Active Member
menu tuk aku first day...
hmmm elek....nil...makan kat rumah mil
hmmm elek....nil...makan kat rumah mil
{ Tapi I think it's a constant challenge for SAHMs.}
jgn cakap SAHMs jer...
kita FTWM pun ada same set of problem...
PLUS, time factor is not on our side.
u noe, whenever i turn SAHM for a week,
i btol2 absorb the full challenges.
penat beb! there were times i wished i'm back in the ofis!
and wen husband came back, takkan i nak terus go, "ur turn! i'm tired!"?
bottomline, SAHM or FTWM, it takes 2 to tango.
jgn cakap SAHMs jer...
kita FTWM pun ada same set of problem...
PLUS, time factor is not on our side.
u noe, whenever i turn SAHM for a week,
i btol2 absorb the full challenges.
penat beb! there were times i wished i'm back in the ofis!
and wen husband came back, takkan i nak terus go, "ur turn! i'm tired!"?
bottomline, SAHM or FTWM, it takes 2 to tango.