ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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eliza_hairi
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nshah
i tanyer coz i pun pakai these m'sian brand cosmetic. Jadi ku tau le sikit2 maner nak beli, tak semestinyer kat Larkin jer.
i tanyer coz i pun pakai these m'sian brand cosmetic. Jadi ku tau le sikit2 maner nak beli, tak semestinyer kat Larkin jer.
<font color="119911">sab
bukan u aje i pun kkdg kai m'sain brand gak coz MIL i mmg beli smua dari sana so watever is gd she will reccmd to her anak & menantu which is me lah hehe.. n she will buy mostly for me to try out dulu w/o SIL tau.. if agus, she will supply me or share dgn dia bt of coz i dont feel gd thus i stop.. cuma skg dia supplykan berbotol pati halia utk me & hub</font>
bukan u aje i pun kkdg kai m'sain brand gak coz MIL i mmg beli smua dari sana so watever is gd she will reccmd to her anak & menantu which is me lah hehe.. n she will buy mostly for me to try out dulu w/o SIL tau.. if agus, she will supply me or share dgn dia bt of coz i dont feel gd thus i stop.. cuma skg dia supplykan berbotol pati halia utk me & hub</font>
smalldreams
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<font color="0077aa">Alooos!
I just got back from lunch too. Free nasi lemak lunch from Adam road
Wati
lunch daun2 lagi ke....
zu
Cams? Hari ni bagus? </font>
I just got back from lunch too. Free nasi lemak lunch from Adam road
Wati
lunch daun2 lagi ke....
zu
Cams? Hari ni bagus? </font>
eliza_hairi
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nshah
Best nyer u ader MIL yg leh share interest
My mum and MIL not so interested in all these things ah...
Best nyer u ader MIL yg leh share interest
My mum and MIL not so interested in all these things ah...
San,
So after married, do you all give her money. I feel sometime is very natural that MIL will expect more from the son. My MIL also like that she always interfere my family issue. And my FIL does not know anything.
I'm sure there are some good point of your MIL. think of her good point... and I think is good that your husband still take care of his mother. Even through is a month issue...maybe you just take it is part of the expense... My husband now monthly give money his mother and father also. On top of that we are paying for the hand phone bill for my husband. In near future, I will ask the maid to go over there to do cleaning.
San, just learn to forgive what your MIL had done..and certain thing just close one eye.
So after married, do you all give her money. I feel sometime is very natural that MIL will expect more from the son. My MIL also like that she always interfere my family issue. And my FIL does not know anything.
I'm sure there are some good point of your MIL. think of her good point... and I think is good that your husband still take care of his mother. Even through is a month issue...maybe you just take it is part of the expense... My husband now monthly give money his mother and father also. On top of that we are paying for the hand phone bill for my husband. In near future, I will ask the maid to go over there to do cleaning.
San, just learn to forgive what your MIL had done..and certain thing just close one eye.
eliza_hairi
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wati
Totaly agree with u! The point always get thru.
kalo complain kat hubby, then expect him to sampaikan kat his mum... hmmm... kesian la laki aku tersepit kat tgh2!!
so ckp sendiri la dpn dier. Dah bebual sarcastic mcm gitu selalu buat muka selamba jer... as if nothing happens..
Totaly agree with u! The point always get thru.
kalo complain kat hubby, then expect him to sampaikan kat his mum... hmmm... kesian la laki aku tersepit kat tgh2!!
so ckp sendiri la dpn dier. Dah bebual sarcastic mcm gitu selalu buat muka selamba jer... as if nothing happens..
<font color="ff6000">Mira,
I wish I have your heart. Really envious.
Hub gave but not me cos I gave my part to my own mom and dad. Buat duit kopi.
Btw, the maid herself tell me dia tak larat nk bekerja dengan MIL when SIL + kids are at home.
I asked her to tell us the truth esp infront of hub cos I dunwan her to overwork which I mmng tk nk my own maid to work 2 hses in e 1st plc. Since she hv said that, I will respect cos my main concern is my family.
You should see how my SIL's behaviour. If I myself cant tahan, what's more to others.</font>
I wish I have your heart. Really envious.
Hub gave but not me cos I gave my part to my own mom and dad. Buat duit kopi.
Btw, the maid herself tell me dia tak larat nk bekerja dengan MIL when SIL + kids are at home.
I asked her to tell us the truth esp infront of hub cos I dunwan her to overwork which I mmng tk nk my own maid to work 2 hses in e 1st plc. Since she hv said that, I will respect cos my main concern is my family.
You should see how my SIL's behaviour. If I myself cant tahan, what's more to others.</font>
smalldreams
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<font color="0077aa">Wati
and coz you dah dapat lesen, jadi diet tolak tepi 5 minit....?? hehee...! Yeah TGIF, so happy. but sad also, coz pikiran tengok kerja berlambak!
San
Doa gal, doa...when nothing else helps, doa might. But I think what Mira & Shahlynn said is true, and I agree with them. No matter what a son is responsible towards his mother. U're lucky to have a good, responsible hubby.
Have you tried to make sure Hubby ketepikan enough $ for our own family expenses first though. For safety net too. The excess is his own choice - he can do whatever he wants with his $. Unlike we, as wives, we can do whatever we want with our $</font>
and coz you dah dapat lesen, jadi diet tolak tepi 5 minit....?? hehee...! Yeah TGIF, so happy. but sad also, coz pikiran tengok kerja berlambak!
San
Doa gal, doa...when nothing else helps, doa might. But I think what Mira & Shahlynn said is true, and I agree with them. No matter what a son is responsible towards his mother. U're lucky to have a good, responsible hubby.
Have you tried to make sure Hubby ketepikan enough $ for our own family expenses first though. For safety net too. The excess is his own choice - he can do whatever he wants with his $. Unlike we, as wives, we can do whatever we want with our $</font>
eliza_hairi
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wati
kata pun complain, mesti pasal benda yg tak best kan...
mesti berat mulut2 hubby kiter nak sampai kan.
or...wait! maybe hubby kiter nie were NOT even listening to us in d first place!!!! coz kiter POT! PET! POT! PET!
kata pun complain, mesti pasal benda yg tak best kan...
mesti berat mulut2 hubby kiter nak sampai kan.
or...wait! maybe hubby kiter nie were NOT even listening to us in d first place!!!! coz kiter POT! PET! POT! PET!
eliza_hairi
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bye mummies, i dah nak balik.
enjoy ur weekend!
<font size="+2"><font color="ff0000">HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY</font></font>
enjoy ur weekend!
<font size="+2"><font color="ff0000">HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY</font></font>
wati
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Sab, for me. My hubby nie malas nk masuk campur tau.. It's between me and the MIL.. Boring tau i kadang2... My hubby will nvr defend me. Dia buat dunno..
Smalldreams.. kira2 mcm gitu ler.. smlm dah pandu2.. mcm syiok.. niari mcm terhappy... kerja byk tapi mcm tak terbuat-buat seh
Smalldreams.. kira2 mcm gitu ler.. smlm dah pandu2.. mcm syiok.. niari mcm terhappy... kerja byk tapi mcm tak terbuat-buat seh
<font color="ff6000">smalldreams,
We hv our financial strategies. So far, alhmdllh. Cuma I tak suka SIL/MIL cocok my husband sumthg like this,"Laki bini bekerja mesti ada savings. Kalau tolak ckit, tak kan tk bole.."
Im sensitive on this part cos tis are for our rainy days.
If possible he want his family to be e happiest 1st and he ever said, ada rezeki lebih..e first person he'll be buying a gift for will be me and kiddos. Unlike tis fw mths, we have so many thgs to settle wic involves huge amount of cash. Tell me, if ILs ada hutang PC etc...will we need to pay too?
I hv my own cash flow to take care of too sis...
Going KL even you hv no $$$ and just bcos KL pple sponsor ur flights doesnt mean u cn put ur sons at our plc so the maid cn tc at e same time while you're alone there. Fair?
I noe, somehow being a DIL is nvr easy too..</font>
We hv our financial strategies. So far, alhmdllh. Cuma I tak suka SIL/MIL cocok my husband sumthg like this,"Laki bini bekerja mesti ada savings. Kalau tolak ckit, tak kan tk bole.."
Im sensitive on this part cos tis are for our rainy days.
If possible he want his family to be e happiest 1st and he ever said, ada rezeki lebih..e first person he'll be buying a gift for will be me and kiddos. Unlike tis fw mths, we have so many thgs to settle wic involves huge amount of cash. Tell me, if ILs ada hutang PC etc...will we need to pay too?
I hv my own cash flow to take care of too sis...
Going KL even you hv no $$$ and just bcos KL pple sponsor ur flights doesnt mean u cn put ur sons at our plc so the maid cn tc at e same time while you're alone there. Fair?
I noe, somehow being a DIL is nvr easy too..</font>
San,
Eveyone can "open" up their heart, is you choose, right? Maybe think of if one day you grow older and you are like your MIL. What will happen? I'm sure you also will want your children do like what your husband done to her mother. From there maybe you will be able to let go bit by bit...you must think positively to let down from your shoulder then you will feel lighter. not only your shoulder and also your heart. Ask yourself deep in the heart, are you really mind what your husband done....you should pround of your husband instead lah....
Eveyone can "open" up their heart, is you choose, right? Maybe think of if one day you grow older and you are like your MIL. What will happen? I'm sure you also will want your children do like what your husband done to her mother. From there maybe you will be able to let go bit by bit...you must think positively to let down from your shoulder then you will feel lighter. not only your shoulder and also your heart. Ask yourself deep in the heart, are you really mind what your husband done....you should pround of your husband instead lah....
smalldreams
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<font color="0077aa">of course, it's never easy being DILs, haha! Just now also my Chinese male colleague said, 1 MIL is enough!
Good that yr hub & yrself got yr own strategies in managing yr financial situation.
For me, terbalik. I can sense that at times my hub is unhappy that I'm still paying for a lot of things for my family. I used to pay for the broadband there, and even after I dah pindah, I still continue to (but I don't mind coz I use the network too). When the PC broke down, I also paid for a new one. My hub wondered why, but I felt that I needed to. My father bawak teksi, my mom housewife (though I know her savings is 10 times or more mine... :S), my bro in NS, my sis sekolah, jadi siapa yang boleh fork out $?
I have cashflow issues too. I give 35% of my nett pay to my family and I know my hub punya kening naik coz he feels that is a significant amount. And my hub is not even working full time yet. I'm thankful my hub doesn't make much noise about me spending on my family.
When I feel that I've overspent, I try to comfort myself by saying, takpe, kalau spend on family, insya-Allah ada rahmatnya. As long as ikhlas, you won't live to regret passing some extra bucks to your own next-of-kin
Just my long 2-cents worth, hope it didn't annoy anyone</font>
Good that yr hub & yrself got yr own strategies in managing yr financial situation.
For me, terbalik. I can sense that at times my hub is unhappy that I'm still paying for a lot of things for my family. I used to pay for the broadband there, and even after I dah pindah, I still continue to (but I don't mind coz I use the network too). When the PC broke down, I also paid for a new one. My hub wondered why, but I felt that I needed to. My father bawak teksi, my mom housewife (though I know her savings is 10 times or more mine... :S), my bro in NS, my sis sekolah, jadi siapa yang boleh fork out $?
I have cashflow issues too. I give 35% of my nett pay to my family and I know my hub punya kening naik coz he feels that is a significant amount. And my hub is not even working full time yet. I'm thankful my hub doesn't make much noise about me spending on my family.
When I feel that I've overspent, I try to comfort myself by saying, takpe, kalau spend on family, insya-Allah ada rahmatnya. As long as ikhlas, you won't live to regret passing some extra bucks to your own next-of-kin
Just my long 2-cents worth, hope it didn't annoy anyone
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wati
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San, you and me sama.. It's like dorang ingat kita nie banyak sgt duit... padahal time kita susah aper yg dorang tahu kan... And yes.. ada a few times when my in-laws nak pinjam duit.. Tapi i nak kena touch my emergency savings tu yg buat mcm berat.. i bleh nangis tau.. i can literally feel the money gone with the wind.
And pernah my MIL gie bilang my hubby makcik yg me and hubby ALWAYS got money. Now $100 that auntie pinjam pun dah burn!
My MIL have the cheek to say, "Eh now that auntie dah senang tau, cos anak dia dah kerja. Eh, makcik tu masih hutang Wati $100 kan ?"
Pandai2 jer nak gie recommend orang..
And pernah my MIL gie bilang my hubby makcik yg me and hubby ALWAYS got money. Now $100 that auntie pinjam pun dah burn!
My MIL have the cheek to say, "Eh now that auntie dah senang tau, cos anak dia dah kerja. Eh, makcik tu masih hutang Wati $100 kan ?"
Pandai2 jer nak gie recommend orang..
{I have cashflow issues too. I give 35% of my nett pay to my family and I know my hub punya kening naik coz he feels that is a significant amount.}
HAHHA... my hub ever mentioned... "nak kasi pun, agak2lah... kita pun amat memerlukan."
but thing is, if i dun give my mom, i can feel my rezeki tersekat2. not just dat, but i feel very guilty!
u noe... i eva mentioned to hubby. if u loaded, i think i'll be the one 'asyik kerjakan harta laki in a good way.' i'm always looking for opportunities to spend on my mom & mil. ahhaha
HAHHA... my hub ever mentioned... "nak kasi pun, agak2lah... kita pun amat memerlukan."
but thing is, if i dun give my mom, i can feel my rezeki tersekat2. not just dat, but i feel very guilty!
u noe... i eva mentioned to hubby. if u loaded, i think i'll be the one 'asyik kerjakan harta laki in a good way.' i'm always looking for opportunities to spend on my mom & mil. ahhaha
San,
wat to do... kena banyak sabar jer lah.
Insya Allah... Allah Maha mengetahui.
now u perit2, nanti u dah tua, berkat ur sacrifices, u senang nanti....
u got 2 sons, remember... They will look up uopn their dad & determine to do the same - that is, never forsake you.
wat to do... kena banyak sabar jer lah.
Insya Allah... Allah Maha mengetahui.
now u perit2, nanti u dah tua, berkat ur sacrifices, u senang nanti....
u got 2 sons, remember... They will look up uopn their dad & determine to do the same - that is, never forsake you.
smalldreams
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<font color="0077aa">Shahlynn
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rezeki.. right my husband believe this... he always said that God is fair...every time we help other, especially own family members...we should not be so calculative....if not our rezeki will also gone...if you don't think too much or expect return when helping...one day the rezeki come back...
He even said treat it that the God is outting a test on you....It really depends on how you want to react.
He even said treat it that the God is outting a test on you....It really depends on how you want to react.
smalldreams
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<font color="0077aa">mummies
kalau say your last period was 1 Apr, then u tak dpt menses at all after that & found yrself pregnant, usually how would we count our pregnancy weeks eh? Say if it's today, then would it be 5 weeks?
Wati
Ey...u noe, kalau hari2 makan maggi pon badan boleh naik taw.... hehee</font>
kalau say your last period was 1 Apr, then u tak dpt menses at all after that & found yrself pregnant, usually how would we count our pregnancy weeks eh? Say if it's today, then would it be 5 weeks?
Wati
Ey...u noe, kalau hari2 makan maggi pon badan boleh naik taw.... hehee</font>
<font color="ff0000">San...sorry no input dear...ever experience b4 and almost....
but now alhamdullilah...ada jugaklah kekadang...but still have to voice out don't pendam sorang2...
kekadang after berdebate with hb, i terpikir jugak betul ke aku nie cakap like dis n dat...lepas tu cepat2 salam....mintak ampun byk2 nya...
Insyaallah san, all this will be over</font>
but now alhamdullilah...ada jugaklah kekadang...but still have to voice out don't pendam sorang2...
kekadang after berdebate with hb, i terpikir jugak betul ke aku nie cakap like dis n dat...lepas tu cepat2 salam....mintak ampun byk2 nya...
Insyaallah san, all this will be over</font>
<font color="ff6000">Dan,
Just feel sad over all that impacted me. Just hate the feeling and I wish I cn crush SIL's face cos she said, she's not working (can go for mthly mani/pedi, heavily smoke, buy doter hp and take cab) so dun ask from her. Can ask from others esp my hub since both of us are working.</font>
Just feel sad over all that impacted me. Just hate the feeling and I wish I cn crush SIL's face cos she said, she's not working (can go for mthly mani/pedi, heavily smoke, buy doter hp and take cab) so dun ask from her. Can ask from others esp my hub since both of us are working.</font>
smalldreams
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<font color="0077aa">Ya lah dan, u so good! I masih belum sampai that stage lagi</font>
<font color="119911">san
sbb tu ah ur SIL can afford coz ada org backing dia.. suap dia duit which is ur MIL & duit tu smua dari ur hub or ur ILs yg lain.. sbb tu ur SIL besar kepala sis.. apa pun takpe sabar & redha je utk dorang insyallah berkatnya u akan dpt in future ok.. </font>
sbb tu ah ur SIL can afford coz ada org backing dia.. suap dia duit which is ur MIL & duit tu smua dari ur hub or ur ILs yg lain.. sbb tu ur SIL besar kepala sis.. apa pun takpe sabar & redha je utk dorang insyallah berkatnya u akan dpt in future ok.. </font>
wati
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Shahlynn.. yes.. Aku selalu keni gitu tu tau..
Typical line said to me :
"Kesian si Wan tu, badan sekeping, bini gemuk. Eh Wati, kau tak kasi laki kau makan eh.."
followed by laughter..
Then typical line i answer will be:
"Dah ALLAH tu nak cipta Wati gemuk mcm gini, aper nak buat. Tak kan nak hina ciptaan DIA ?"
Typical line said to me :
"Kesian si Wan tu, badan sekeping, bini gemuk. Eh Wati, kau tak kasi laki kau makan eh.."
followed by laughter..
Then typical line i answer will be:
"Dah ALLAH tu nak cipta Wati gemuk mcm gini, aper nak buat. Tak kan nak hina ciptaan DIA ?"
wati
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Dan, i pun sama tau.
Segagah-gagah aku nie... i kalau dah berbual dgn hubby and tegur dia, then i will have this bad feeling.. Mcm rasa berdosa tau. Then cepat-cepat pergi to my hubby and mintak ampun. Then peluk dia.. kalau tak tak bleh tutup mata.. Takut tak bangun and tak sempat..seram tau.
Segagah-gagah aku nie... i kalau dah berbual dgn hubby and tegur dia, then i will have this bad feeling.. Mcm rasa berdosa tau. Then cepat-cepat pergi to my hubby and mintak ampun. Then peluk dia.. kalau tak tak bleh tutup mata.. Takut tak bangun and tak sempat..seram tau.
<font color="ff0000">Nshah
pasal report kat Chin Leng memang keja ku..ku yg selalu email dia suruh kasi pendek the archives
Shahlynn
yeah, the feeling lain sak....ehem2..lol
menghitung hari detik, demi detik...ala la la long
haiz...mid july mid july
Tania
Buat bersabar...minta maaf cepat2 dgn si ibu tu</font>
pasal report kat Chin Leng memang keja ku..ku yg selalu email dia suruh kasi pendek the archives
Shahlynn
yeah, the feeling lain sak....ehem2..lol
menghitung hari detik, demi detik...ala la la long
haiz...mid july mid july
Tania
Buat bersabar...minta maaf cepat2 dgn si ibu tu</font>