ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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wati
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nottygal, you kejar dekat dlm hutan ker ?
Ria now is talking abt this guy that was abused by his wife. Bini dia suka gie karaoke. Anak 2 tahun sakit lelah, then hubby dia suruh dia balik bawak anak gi doctor, but then she said she got karaoke appt. Then bila malam dia balik the hubby carrying the sick child, the wife was so angry at him cos dia mcm bising asal balik mlm, bini dia terus tarik rambut laki dia then slam his head against the wall.. isshhh... then never care abt the child..
Kesian eh...
Ria now is talking abt this guy that was abused by his wife. Bini dia suka gie karaoke. Anak 2 tahun sakit lelah, then hubby dia suruh dia balik bawak anak gi doctor, but then she said she got karaoke appt. Then bila malam dia balik the hubby carrying the sick child, the wife was so angry at him cos dia mcm bising asal balik mlm, bini dia terus tarik rambut laki dia then slam his head against the wall.. isshhh... then never care abt the child..
Kesian eh...
Nshah, Liz,
Yup I think the sale only at Parkway. Lagipun for $50 spent will get a $10 voucher, $20 voucher for $80 - but can only use at Parkway branch.
I saw a lot of items including the scrubs on sale too but didnt buy we still have stock at home.
Dorang hangkut berkotak2 macam free gitu ~~
Yup I think the sale only at Parkway. Lagipun for $50 spent will get a $10 voucher, $20 voucher for $80 - but can only use at Parkway branch.
I saw a lot of items including the scrubs on sale too but didnt buy we still have stock at home.
Dorang hangkut berkotak2 macam free gitu ~~
<font color="000000">quote: nottygal, you kejar dekat dlm hutan ker?
u mean jog ehh...blakang ada very big open field for heli landing....i penah nampak monitor lizard nya head came out fm grass..lagi jauh mcm ular..the body quite long. My warehouseman took a pic of a king cobra in our field.
keliling bldg nie je byk pokok2 buah...ada mgr cum hang kebon kat sini...</font>
u mean jog ehh...blakang ada very big open field for heli landing....i penah nampak monitor lizard nya head came out fm grass..lagi jauh mcm ular..the body quite long. My warehouseman took a pic of a king cobra in our field.
keliling bldg nie je byk pokok2 buah...ada mgr cum hang kebon kat sini...</font>
mamaliz
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lina nak buat lawak jer eh...notty...kekekekekeke
cik zai..
dat time also the warehse sale peeps buy berlonggok longgok...like free...i buy many many also not until like dat...cuma beg plastic merah yg besar jer tu...kakakakaka
nottygal...
kalau nampak ular ke lizard ke...senang...tu bukan jogging lagi tu kau lari 2.4....kekekeke....kalau slalu nampak bagus ehh...badan maintain jer
cik zai..
dat time also the warehse sale peeps buy berlonggok longgok...like free...i buy many many also not until like dat...cuma beg plastic merah yg besar jer tu...kakakakaka
nottygal...
kalau nampak ular ke lizard ke...senang...tu bukan jogging lagi tu kau lari 2.4....kekekeke....kalau slalu nampak bagus ehh...badan maintain jer
wati
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hehehe...
Cakap pasal abuse. I'm surprise that it is still happening di kalangan orang melayu kita eh..
I went to NUH last Sunday. Gie tgk my auntie. Then kita gie food court to eat dinner. Then ada malay family duduk belakang meja I tau.
Ada 1 guy abt 30 yrs old (tangan tattoo2), then 2 babies kecik, 1 boy abt 7 yrs old and then 3 ladies which 1 of them is the mother.
This boy was on the chair lah, playing, then bapak dia gie beli makanan. Then suddenly the boy terjatuh tau.. on his back at the same time, bapak dia pun balik to the meja.
I tahu that the boy was in pain tau sebab dia jatuh on his back, but he quickly get up cos he saw the father. Bapak dia terus pekik kat dia and press his head on the table.
Then grab the boy by the neck and drag him to the carpark. Sumer orang terkejut. But yg hairan nya, mak budak nie ketawa-ketawa… like it’s a normal thing for this boy to be beaten up.
Me and my sisters mcm very jijik tau tgk family tu. Then the father came back alone. Can you imagine what he did to the boy ? I dgn my sisters pun carik2 jugak mana budak tu hilang , tapi tak jumpa she.
It’s like the father is so abusive ! I can see fear in the boy’s eyes tau bila dia jatuh. Dia tahan tak nangis she..sebab takut. Semoga ALLAH melindungi budak tu.
Kalau tak tahu jadi good parents, jgn buat anak she.. Aku marah tau dgn orang2 yg suka2 pukul bantai another human being or animals. I dun like…!!!
If I see, straight away I doa for the safety of the kids or animals.
Cakap pasal abuse. I'm surprise that it is still happening di kalangan orang melayu kita eh..
I went to NUH last Sunday. Gie tgk my auntie. Then kita gie food court to eat dinner. Then ada malay family duduk belakang meja I tau.
Ada 1 guy abt 30 yrs old (tangan tattoo2), then 2 babies kecik, 1 boy abt 7 yrs old and then 3 ladies which 1 of them is the mother.
This boy was on the chair lah, playing, then bapak dia gie beli makanan. Then suddenly the boy terjatuh tau.. on his back at the same time, bapak dia pun balik to the meja.
I tahu that the boy was in pain tau sebab dia jatuh on his back, but he quickly get up cos he saw the father. Bapak dia terus pekik kat dia and press his head on the table.
Then grab the boy by the neck and drag him to the carpark. Sumer orang terkejut. But yg hairan nya, mak budak nie ketawa-ketawa… like it’s a normal thing for this boy to be beaten up.
Me and my sisters mcm very jijik tau tgk family tu. Then the father came back alone. Can you imagine what he did to the boy ? I dgn my sisters pun carik2 jugak mana budak tu hilang , tapi tak jumpa she.
It’s like the father is so abusive ! I can see fear in the boy’s eyes tau bila dia jatuh. Dia tahan tak nangis she..sebab takut. Semoga ALLAH melindungi budak tu.
Kalau tak tahu jadi good parents, jgn buat anak she.. Aku marah tau dgn orang2 yg suka2 pukul bantai another human being or animals. I dun like…!!!
If I see, straight away I doa for the safety of the kids or animals.
Wati,
I am not surprised - we have seen so many cases of child abuse right in front of us - but what to do, kalau kita tegurkan tak kan dorang terima.
So I pun selalu doakan semoga budak2 tu selamat daripada segala perbuatan zalim by their own parents.
Memang sedih tengok case2 macam ni, kan?
I am not surprised - we have seen so many cases of child abuse right in front of us - but what to do, kalau kita tegurkan tak kan dorang terima.
So I pun selalu doakan semoga budak2 tu selamat daripada segala perbuatan zalim by their own parents.
Memang sedih tengok case2 macam ni, kan?
Lina,
Kalau jual nobody will buy for sure. Anyway at my daughter's previous workplace, Bodyshop selalu sponsor their programmes and will give lots and lots of their products. All the staff will be get the products too and kita selalu give away but now she has joined another organisation so tak ada lagi free items.
Kalau jual nobody will buy for sure. Anyway at my daughter's previous workplace, Bodyshop selalu sponsor their programmes and will give lots and lots of their products. All the staff will be get the products too and kita selalu give away but now she has joined another organisation so tak ada lagi free items.
mamaliz
Active Member
wati...
dat kinda families wif that attitude banyak i nampak kat amk...pasal tu i nak pindah from here....kekadang see the whole family sit downstairs coffeeshop minum arak wif the babies in the pram n kids sitting wif them....theres no malay shop here tau...they're here for the beer...and wen the kids lapar they buy the chinese mee pok for them...the mee pok is those wif Pork tau.....kesian i tgk budak budak tu the parents macam hayal jerrr....
entah wat the kids do wen mum n dad mabuk....
sarah's skool the p1 n p2 kids ...aiyoh the malay kids mulut semua tak ada lesen....macam macam words kluar...
then dat day i amik sarah got these girls from her school was walking behind us..."Eh...si aishah tu macam s**l...dia ada join mana mana budak tak?" wen i turn ard terperanjat i see the girl like p4 like dat....
they join a group of kids from diff sch...ada dah sec sch....
dat kinda families wif that attitude banyak i nampak kat amk...pasal tu i nak pindah from here....kekadang see the whole family sit downstairs coffeeshop minum arak wif the babies in the pram n kids sitting wif them....theres no malay shop here tau...they're here for the beer...and wen the kids lapar they buy the chinese mee pok for them...the mee pok is those wif Pork tau.....kesian i tgk budak budak tu the parents macam hayal jerrr....
entah wat the kids do wen mum n dad mabuk....
sarah's skool the p1 n p2 kids ...aiyoh the malay kids mulut semua tak ada lesen....macam macam words kluar...
then dat day i amik sarah got these girls from her school was walking behind us..."Eh...si aishah tu macam s**l...dia ada join mana mana budak tak?" wen i turn ard terperanjat i see the girl like p4 like dat....
they join a group of kids from diff sch...ada dah sec sch....
<font color="000000">mommies
smlm i sepak my eldest son very hard, i tried my best to refrain fm beating him anymore...
again, he kept his hmwk fm me....yg best nye, dia forged my signature on his papers...which i cant take it anymore..he is getting fm bad to worse..can anyone pls help!!</font>
smlm i sepak my eldest son very hard, i tried my best to refrain fm beating him anymore...
again, he kept his hmwk fm me....yg best nye, dia forged my signature on his papers...which i cant take it anymore..he is getting fm bad to worse..can anyone pls help!!</font>
Liz,
Its not surprising - even at void decks you can see Malay primary school children in uniform smoking and kissing during school hours. Ini semua kes bohong the parents pegi sekolah tapi melencong ke-tempat lain. Sometimes they even gamble at our void deck pasal our block sunyi.
My hubby kalau nampak mesti dia call police to make report.
Its not surprising - even at void decks you can see Malay primary school children in uniform smoking and kissing during school hours. Ini semua kes bohong the parents pegi sekolah tapi melencong ke-tempat lain. Sometimes they even gamble at our void deck pasal our block sunyi.
My hubby kalau nampak mesti dia call police to make report.
<font color="119911">gal
ish mmg seram kan pat gini coz i did dat too dulu.. tp tu ah.. i also takut in future my kids wld do e same.. bt minta dijauhkan lah.. skg ni yg 3 & 4yrs je dah pandai menjawab & mengakalkan kita.. irfan fought last wk at school & dah tu refuse to say who started it 1st pening seh..</font>
ish mmg seram kan pat gini coz i did dat too dulu.. tp tu ah.. i also takut in future my kids wld do e same.. bt minta dijauhkan lah.. skg ni yg 3 & 4yrs je dah pandai menjawab & mengakalkan kita.. irfan fought last wk at school & dah tu refuse to say who started it 1st pening seh..</font>
Liz,
Hai, tanya Cik Zai? I bukan expert hor......
Nottygal,
First of all I think you must treat him like a friend. Bring him out alone and have a good talk. Explain that you do not wish this to happen again and let him know the consequences and what you will do if it happens again.
Tell him that whatever results he may get does not matter as long as he proves that he has done his best. Just pick a few examples within the family for him to differentiate good and bad.
And tell him that he can always approach you if he needs any help. Ada budak yang if you berkasar they will be worse, try the soft approach.
I doakan semoga your son akan menjadi anak yang soleh, Amin
Hai, tanya Cik Zai? I bukan expert hor......
Nottygal,
First of all I think you must treat him like a friend. Bring him out alone and have a good talk. Explain that you do not wish this to happen again and let him know the consequences and what you will do if it happens again.
Tell him that whatever results he may get does not matter as long as he proves that he has done his best. Just pick a few examples within the family for him to differentiate good and bad.
And tell him that he can always approach you if he needs any help. Ada budak yang if you berkasar they will be worse, try the soft approach.
I doakan semoga your son akan menjadi anak yang soleh, Amin
<font color="000000">Liz...
ayah dia nice towards him..da slow talk pon sama juga..kejap je dia remorseful, brapa hari or next week buat lagi...
the problem with him i notice suka diamkan diri bila ditanya...and likes to be alone, i always ask him to sit and mingle with the others jgn jadi anak dara dlm bilik...</font>
ayah dia nice towards him..da slow talk pon sama juga..kejap je dia remorseful, brapa hari or next week buat lagi...
the problem with him i notice suka diamkan diri bila ditanya...and likes to be alone, i always ask him to sit and mingle with the others jgn jadi anak dara dlm bilik...</font>
mamaliz
Active Member
hehehe...
cik zai...
tak cakap u expert tapi u dah makan garam dulu....so tanya lah yg experience...kita kita ni anak masih small...so do noe wat to do also..sambil sambil nak tau jugak wat to do in these cases mahhh....
nut i agree wif the technique u advise...cos lagi lagi boys kan...nampak jer kasar but come to these problems they actually nak kena slow...dats why i tanya nottygal if the ayah got slow talk wif him...
the more kita kasar the more they undur ke belakang kan?
cik zai...
tak cakap u expert tapi u dah makan garam dulu....so tanya lah yg experience...kita kita ni anak masih small...so do noe wat to do also..sambil sambil nak tau jugak wat to do in these cases mahhh....
nut i agree wif the technique u advise...cos lagi lagi boys kan...nampak jer kasar but come to these problems they actually nak kena slow...dats why i tanya nottygal if the ayah got slow talk wif him...
the more kita kasar the more they undur ke belakang kan?
Hah.. me baru ade sikit time nie..
Nottygal
Whatever it is, never give up k.
Lina cakap tu betol, maybe send him for counselling again
Kids nowadays banayk issues, not simple.
I also think more u berkeras, the more he will do it..
Tadi i had a very long meeting, then rase cam lain macam
alamak my period is here and i tak pakai pad..
ku nak excuse pi toilet but the timing is not rite..
In the end no choice pi toilet cepat cepat.. hah.. just use toilet paper first
then after meeting tengok all kotor.. seb baik i got spare panties at the office.
Nottygal
Whatever it is, never give up k.
Lina cakap tu betol, maybe send him for counselling again
Kids nowadays banayk issues, not simple.
I also think more u berkeras, the more he will do it..
Tadi i had a very long meeting, then rase cam lain macam
alamak my period is here and i tak pakai pad..
ku nak excuse pi toilet but the timing is not rite..
In the end no choice pi toilet cepat cepat.. hah.. just use toilet paper first
then after meeting tengok all kotor.. seb baik i got spare panties at the office.
wati
Active Member
Mamaliz, kesiannya budak2 tu sumer… ALLAH sajer lah yg tolong mereka. Kesian. I think location is also impt for family upbringing.
Tapi mak bapak pun harus mendidik dan mendorong anak2. I think, the most impt thing is pendidikan ugama kita.
For now, I baru gang up dgn another gf I tau. My husband nie tak pandai mengaji. Yg bacaan yg simple2 tu ok lah, tapi pat ayat panjang2 dia tak berapa fasih.
Nasib baik 1 of my gf, her hubby is a young ustaz at Masjid Assyakirin. So I seek her help lah. So her hubby (Ustaz Malik) agreed to teach my hubby and my fren hubby.
So now every Tuesday night, that Ustaz will come to teach at my fren place. Mula2 my hubby mcm tak happy tau, sebab I pandai2 arrange this kind of thing. Aku rasa ada syaitan hasut lah. So I convince him, “Dunia nie dah nak kiamat, and I need help from you. So now you gie belajar sebanyak yg mampu, then dah pandai, you ajar kat I and Maya. Dapat pahala kerana mendorong keluarga”.. then my hubby terdiam tau. I think dia fikir lah tu. The 1st lesson habis jer, my hubby bukan main lagi ajar I pasal agama, pasal ALLAH, pasal nabi.. best she.. He was so interested. Alhamdullilah.
So far, 2009 has been great for me lah. Kalau last year, I byk planning tapi no action. For this year I dah accomplish a few things.. Alhamdullilah.
Nottygal, dun be sad. I know you mcm feel guilty for slapping your son. Tapi ada kebaikannya jugak lah. Tapi you also must try to understand why is your son doing what he does now.
Like forging your signature. Normally I think it’s FEAR. But you must sit and talk to him slowly. Make him believe that you are always there for him. No matter happy or sad. Jadi dia boleh trust you.
But must tell him, kalau dia buat salah, then of course kena marah, tapi kalau benda baik of course dia akan dapat pujian lah.
Budak2 sekarang, memang very smart tau. I tgh worry for MAYA. Tak orang tak kita.. so it’s just a piece of my mind ajer tau.. Nottygal takmo amik hati ok.
Tapi mak bapak pun harus mendidik dan mendorong anak2. I think, the most impt thing is pendidikan ugama kita.
For now, I baru gang up dgn another gf I tau. My husband nie tak pandai mengaji. Yg bacaan yg simple2 tu ok lah, tapi pat ayat panjang2 dia tak berapa fasih.
Nasib baik 1 of my gf, her hubby is a young ustaz at Masjid Assyakirin. So I seek her help lah. So her hubby (Ustaz Malik) agreed to teach my hubby and my fren hubby.
So now every Tuesday night, that Ustaz will come to teach at my fren place. Mula2 my hubby mcm tak happy tau, sebab I pandai2 arrange this kind of thing. Aku rasa ada syaitan hasut lah. So I convince him, “Dunia nie dah nak kiamat, and I need help from you. So now you gie belajar sebanyak yg mampu, then dah pandai, you ajar kat I and Maya. Dapat pahala kerana mendorong keluarga”.. then my hubby terdiam tau. I think dia fikir lah tu. The 1st lesson habis jer, my hubby bukan main lagi ajar I pasal agama, pasal ALLAH, pasal nabi.. best she.. He was so interested. Alhamdullilah.
So far, 2009 has been great for me lah. Kalau last year, I byk planning tapi no action. For this year I dah accomplish a few things.. Alhamdullilah.
Nottygal, dun be sad. I know you mcm feel guilty for slapping your son. Tapi ada kebaikannya jugak lah. Tapi you also must try to understand why is your son doing what he does now.
Like forging your signature. Normally I think it’s FEAR. But you must sit and talk to him slowly. Make him believe that you are always there for him. No matter happy or sad. Jadi dia boleh trust you.
But must tell him, kalau dia buat salah, then of course kena marah, tapi kalau benda baik of course dia akan dapat pujian lah.
Budak2 sekarang, memang very smart tau. I tgh worry for MAYA. Tak orang tak kita.. so it’s just a piece of my mind ajer tau.. Nottygal takmo amik hati ok.
mamaliz
Active Member
nottygal...
he's going through puberty tak? i read sumwhere kan..some boys when they go through puberty they will diamkan diri or pulaukan diri...cos they feel unsure on wat to do...they feel embarrassed...
maybe u ajak dia kluar bowling ke...then slowly ajak bual abt this n that...maybe when he feels comfortable he will try to tell u wats bothering him or wat his problems are..
he's going through puberty tak? i read sumwhere kan..some boys when they go through puberty they will diamkan diri or pulaukan diri...cos they feel unsure on wat to do...they feel embarrassed...
maybe u ajak dia kluar bowling ke...then slowly ajak bual abt this n that...maybe when he feels comfortable he will try to tell u wats bothering him or wat his problems are..
last week, at my cussin wedding...
i & hubby nak makan. si mika suka duduk @ quinny. so fine, since he duduk diam2.
but nooooo... he just have to turun naik a couple of times. and wen naik, he stunt. stroller jatuh. den lagi skali dia buat. dis time, he did his typical 'cina bukit'.. mati2 nak squeeze space yg kecik between tembok & stroller. stroller jatuh AGAIN. hubby pulled him by the collar and warned him. My dad came and rescued him.
2nd incident, kita nak bergambar whole family. carik2 mika, dia takde. padahal a sec ago was next to us.
carik everywhere. so i told my family, go ahead, without us. we searched hi and lo for him. even when to the road, end of blk looking for him. deknie memang suka hilang2!
last2, i jumpa dia hepi2 next to dessert table, cekut watermelon. i screamed, and pulled him. i grabbed him by the shoulder and pull him one corner. pakcik2 at d next table dah tgk i, and went,"dah dah dah"
did i over react? u noe la, darah bleh gemuruh semacam bila anak hilang!!!
are we too much? sometimes i think we are. are we?
i & hubby nak makan. si mika suka duduk @ quinny. so fine, since he duduk diam2.
but nooooo... he just have to turun naik a couple of times. and wen naik, he stunt. stroller jatuh. den lagi skali dia buat. dis time, he did his typical 'cina bukit'.. mati2 nak squeeze space yg kecik between tembok & stroller. stroller jatuh AGAIN. hubby pulled him by the collar and warned him. My dad came and rescued him.
2nd incident, kita nak bergambar whole family. carik2 mika, dia takde. padahal a sec ago was next to us.
carik everywhere. so i told my family, go ahead, without us. we searched hi and lo for him. even when to the road, end of blk looking for him. deknie memang suka hilang2!
last2, i jumpa dia hepi2 next to dessert table, cekut watermelon. i screamed, and pulled him. i grabbed him by the shoulder and pull him one corner. pakcik2 at d next table dah tgk i, and went,"dah dah dah"
did i over react? u noe la, darah bleh gemuruh semacam bila anak hilang!!!
are we too much? sometimes i think we are. are we?