ANY MALAY MUMS HERE?
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momma_naqi
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morning Dan
<font color="0000ff">Quote *oklah so far tak pernah orang kahwin....masak maggie...tu baru happening hihi*
Lina
nanti bila time u nak terima menantu.. u buat lah.. kasi jemputan makan maggie soup, maggie goreng dan semua mcm maggie yg sewaktu dgn nya..!!! hahahaha </font>
Lina
nanti bila time u nak terima menantu.. u buat lah.. kasi jemputan makan maggie soup, maggie goreng dan semua mcm maggie yg sewaktu dgn nya..!!! hahahaha </font>
Last time i got a fren/coliq malay, buat wedding besar besaran kat hotel
But sayang ye she only invited ALL the chinese collegues some of the malay staff walaupun cloe she tak invite,
reason, org melayu ang pow sikit, so tak balik modal invite kat hotel...
terrible hor.... kalau i, i tak boleh face the other malay collegues lepas tu...
But sayang ye she only invited ALL the chinese collegues some of the malay staff walaupun cloe she tak invite,
reason, org melayu ang pow sikit, so tak balik modal invite kat hotel...
terrible hor.... kalau i, i tak boleh face the other malay collegues lepas tu...
mamaliz
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naqi...
maybe dia budget...anyway mine wasnt elaborate either...open hse jugak...hehehehe (segan)
tapi ada nasi briyani n all lahhh...
after dat pengantin cuci periuk blanga`
shahlynn..
hubby i oven pon i nak kena tunjuk how to use ok!! hahahaha....microwave kat umah ni i ajar how to use...part goreng goreng baru dia pass...tu pon i worry cos he never hold the handle sehhh...min tenyeh jer sodek tu...kalau lah tumpah minyak...ishhhh....
lina..
direct sehh.....kakakaka..have sex a fast remedy...but i agree!
i cakap ngan hubby...next time sarah kahwin we sponsor macdonald sudah~
maybe dia budget...anyway mine wasnt elaborate either...open hse jugak...hehehehe (segan)
tapi ada nasi briyani n all lahhh...
after dat pengantin cuci periuk blanga`
shahlynn..
hubby i oven pon i nak kena tunjuk how to use ok!! hahahaha....microwave kat umah ni i ajar how to use...part goreng goreng baru dia pass...tu pon i worry cos he never hold the handle sehhh...min tenyeh jer sodek tu...kalau lah tumpah minyak...ishhhh....
lina..
direct sehh.....kakakaka..have sex a fast remedy...but i agree!
i cakap ngan hubby...next time sarah kahwin we sponsor macdonald sudah~
momma_naqi
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lynn...yup kelam kabut..
Nora...hah sit down lah...
Then ada cake cutting ceremony...n me being 1 gundi tanya...where's the cake...coz mati2 ku ingatkan tier cake...skali...hmmmm hampeh.....benawan solo nya cake....yg kluar
Nora...hah sit down lah...
Then ada cake cutting ceremony...n me being 1 gundi tanya...where's the cake...coz mati2 ku ingatkan tier cake...skali...hmmmm hampeh.....benawan solo nya cake....yg kluar
nora,
apa seh ur fren!!?
actually kan... regardless of whether u buat @ club/hotel/void deck, it's a matter of who u invite.
my sis just got married a mth ago...
she invited her colleagues, including the surgeons, HOD, all..
And of course ah, dapat ang pow KAW KAW! walaupun buat @ void deck.
apa seh ur fren!!?
actually kan... regardless of whether u buat @ club/hotel/void deck, it's a matter of who u invite.
my sis just got married a mth ago...
she invited her colleagues, including the surgeons, HOD, all..
And of course ah, dapat ang pow KAW KAW! walaupun buat @ void deck.
momma_naqi
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cik nab...i guess so....
Cik nab
my fren tu buat muke sardin jer
bile kakak kakak kat ofis tau yg even the newest person yg baru join the company pun was invited, dorang pun dah boleh guess the reason
tapi memang her habit la, dia buat open house pun tak jemput the kakak kakak at office
my hb cakap he suspects her hb tak suke being associated with malays... i kenal banyak org cam tu cik nab
my fren tu buat muke sardin jer
bile kakak kakak kat ofis tau yg even the newest person yg baru join the company pun was invited, dorang pun dah boleh guess the reason
tapi memang her habit la, dia buat open house pun tak jemput the kakak kakak at office
my hb cakap he suspects her hb tak suke being associated with malays... i kenal banyak org cam tu cik nab
<font color="ff6000">Morning Lovelies...
I had 2 Dunkin' Donuts + hot milo for bfaz today.
Crite hangat banget!
Ok, let me ask now...
Do u guys noe hw much ur hub gv his parents/in laws or just pretty dun care as long smua mencukupi?
Pardon me to ask this if it relates to anyone...Do any hubs doesnt give any $$$ to parents/in laws too?</font>
I had 2 Dunkin' Donuts + hot milo for bfaz today.
Crite hangat banget!
Ok, let me ask now...
Do u guys noe hw much ur hub gv his parents/in laws or just pretty dun care as long smua mencukupi?
Pardon me to ask this if it relates to anyone...Do any hubs doesnt give any $$$ to parents/in laws too?</font>
"Do u guys noe hw much ur hub gv his parents/in laws or just pretty dun care as long smua mencukupi?
Pardon me to ask this if it relates to anyone...Do any hubs doesnt give any $$$ to parents/in laws too?"
like Wati... i nie pon financial controller...my mom tak der lagi...so cuma 3 orang ajer kite kasi tiap2 bulan....
every month...i list ALL the things need to be paid...then i combine my income n hub's...bagi same rate...i fixed the amt of how much each parents get ...so kalau nak kasi lebih it will be based on our pocket money....
Pardon me to ask this if it relates to anyone...Do any hubs doesnt give any $$$ to parents/in laws too?"
like Wati... i nie pon financial controller...my mom tak der lagi...so cuma 3 orang ajer kite kasi tiap2 bulan....
every month...i list ALL the things need to be paid...then i combine my income n hub's...bagi same rate...i fixed the amt of how much each parents get ...so kalau nak kasi lebih it will be based on our pocket money....
momma_naqi
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nora,
kasi no bw tu..sms I
kasi no bw tu..sms I
mamaliz
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san...
for my mum, masa i werk i kasi...takleh miss pasal she tuntut! ishhh...in fact masa i single she sanggup tuggun sampai pagi buta for me to come back from work n get the moolahsss....
now i onli give when she sesak cos only my hubby werk...and she still have my kakak n abg to depend on
my in laws tak kasi pasal my hubby says they never jaga him...they pass him to his grandma wen he was a baby so no reason why he shud give them any except for the grandma...he sayang nenek dia macam mak sendiri...both his parents pon dah ada new family so no need lahh
for my mum, masa i werk i kasi...takleh miss pasal she tuntut! ishhh...in fact masa i single she sanggup tuggun sampai pagi buta for me to come back from work n get the moolahsss....
now i onli give when she sesak cos only my hubby werk...and she still have my kakak n abg to depend on
my in laws tak kasi pasal my hubby says they never jaga him...they pass him to his grandma wen he was a baby so no reason why he shud give them any except for the grandma...he sayang nenek dia macam mak sendiri...both his parents pon dah ada new family so no need lahh
<font color="ff6000">Lina / Shahlynn,
Thank u for ur feedback.
Say, my mom's allowance I gave more due to our sons taking care by her & us mostly stayed there from MON-FRI but gv MIL lesser wic she dun xpct it to be noeing I/We gave more to the other party. Alt weeks she'll ask for some $$$ and it's nt $10-$50 but hundreds. Like "borrow" $$$ to pay maid's levy etc but the $$ wun be coming on time and it'll be con-current the following months too...Quite a number of issue "dihalalkan" but can't be always e same old reason right?
She have doter and other son to depned bt it's e lame old ans. "Kakak kau bukan kasi. Mintak adalah...adik kau..entahlah..slalu ckp sempit."
Abis, hub and I selalu senang ker?
Need opinions.
Mamaliz,
Kesian nya ur hub...I can feel his plight.</font>
Thank u for ur feedback.
Say, my mom's allowance I gave more due to our sons taking care by her & us mostly stayed there from MON-FRI but gv MIL lesser wic she dun xpct it to be noeing I/We gave more to the other party. Alt weeks she'll ask for some $$$ and it's nt $10-$50 but hundreds. Like "borrow" $$$ to pay maid's levy etc but the $$ wun be coming on time and it'll be con-current the following months too...Quite a number of issue "dihalalkan" but can't be always e same old reason right?
She have doter and other son to depned bt it's e lame old ans. "Kakak kau bukan kasi. Mintak adalah...adik kau..entahlah..slalu ckp sempit."
Abis, hub and I selalu senang ker?
Need opinions.
Mamaliz,
Kesian nya ur hub...I can feel his plight.</font>
<font color="119911">morning smua
pepagi je dah kena baca long page dah..
nari sarapan roti kiap dgn cheese omelette home made hehe
wati
bestnya gaji ur hub kasi u smua then u settlekan.. haiz beruntung.. till now hub still rahsia with me how much he brings back altho i know his basic pay is only $1.3K bt with e allowance he will brg back more tp tak pernah dikongsi.. so till now also i dont declare my true gaji to him also..</font>
pepagi je dah kena baca long page dah..
nari sarapan roti kiap dgn cheese omelette home made hehe
wati
bestnya gaji ur hub kasi u smua then u settlekan.. haiz beruntung.. till now hub still rahsia with me how much he brings back altho i know his basic pay is only $1.3K bt with e allowance he will brg back more tp tak pernah dikongsi.. so till now also i dont declare my true gaji to him also..</font>
<font color="119911">lina
nope my hub nvr gives his parents.. cuma he will like treat them to holiday & gd food wen he ada rezeki lebih.. pernah me bersuara tp he expect me to contribute trus i ckp takpelah eh.. i sendiri tak cukup & i didnt get any from u, takkan expect me to give them</font>
nope my hub nvr gives his parents.. cuma he will like treat them to holiday & gd food wen he ada rezeki lebih.. pernah me bersuara tp he expect me to contribute trus i ckp takpelah eh.. i sendiri tak cukup & i didnt get any from u, takkan expect me to give them</font>
momma_naqi
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nora da rcv
<font color="0000ff">Hi nshahi
ohhh both u and hb so secretive abt ur pay..!!
i tink it best to neo how much our hb bring home and via verse.. tis way we can plan and control our financially..
u all tgk tak Kpak BingBing last wk.. they talk abt monies dlm rumahtangga!!</font>
ohhh both u and hb so secretive abt ur pay..!!
i tink it best to neo how much our hb bring home and via verse.. tis way we can plan and control our financially..
u all tgk tak Kpak BingBing last wk.. they talk abt monies dlm rumahtangga!!</font>
mamaliz
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san...
money issues eh slalu ada probs....my prob is my own mum...wen she said no money its hard to believe her....kalau duit peluh i , i can close my eyes tau...to keep peace tapi kalau my hubnya i have to kira lahhh...
last time hub kasi my mum cos she said no food to eat...skali see her buy shampoo n shower foam...1litre bottles...then buy keropok jepon lahh....buy baju...pening..
then another time she ask for money, i sengaja ask hub kasi from his own hand so she knows its his...she tak take fromn his hand tau..she just nod her head towards the table n say put there...aiyoh!
i segan w my own hubby pasal my family sehh...mak tak abis abis mintak duit...then always lie abt her finance
then kakak n abg both dah single n working but always instruct me to give money to my mum saying they dont have money....???? bukannya any of them give money for their kids....joli tu ada lah!
money issues eh slalu ada probs....my prob is my own mum...wen she said no money its hard to believe her....kalau duit peluh i , i can close my eyes tau...to keep peace tapi kalau my hubnya i have to kira lahhh...
last time hub kasi my mum cos she said no food to eat...skali see her buy shampoo n shower foam...1litre bottles...then buy keropok jepon lahh....buy baju...pening..
then another time she ask for money, i sengaja ask hub kasi from his own hand so she knows its his...she tak take fromn his hand tau..she just nod her head towards the table n say put there...aiyoh!
i segan w my own hubby pasal my family sehh...mak tak abis abis mintak duit...then always lie abt her finance
then kakak n abg both dah single n working but always instruct me to give money to my mum saying they dont have money....???? bukannya any of them give money for their kids....joli tu ada lah!
<font color="119911">lynn
entah.. dulu kita pernah declare then ada sekali entah wat happen ah e mum sugg not to declare to each other so from then ah we never declare.. bt we did declare wenever we hv increase pay ah bt i never declare full amt ah.. selalu declare $300 lesser so that he will noe yg i do hv shortage mthly.. bukan me tak nak tlg bt dat $300 selalu buat me tolak for my own savgs & kkdg kasi my mum lebih & also for my own shoppings.. as i dont get any duit from him sbb tu wen i dah kering ill ask from him</font>
entah.. dulu kita pernah declare then ada sekali entah wat happen ah e mum sugg not to declare to each other so from then ah we never declare.. bt we did declare wenever we hv increase pay ah bt i never declare full amt ah.. selalu declare $300 lesser so that he will noe yg i do hv shortage mthly.. bukan me tak nak tlg bt dat $300 selalu buat me tolak for my own savgs & kkdg kasi my mum lebih & also for my own shoppings.. as i dont get any duit from him sbb tu wen i dah kering ill ask from him</font>
lynn tak sempat nak tengok...
san...the big 'No' has to come from ur hub...coz dia yg kasi kan...so kalau dia cont kasi...this thing will drag n drag coz each time ur mil will mintak kan...kalau ur hub buat cam ginie tak impact u n anak2 financially...oklah...but still the bad habit fr the other side need to be kicked...
let's say ur hub kasi $200 every mth...then maybe jgn kasi ....sebab ape...nanti ur mil call kan..mintak $....then kasi sikit2....sampailah that $200 used up for that mth budget hihiih
san...the big 'No' has to come from ur hub...coz dia yg kasi kan...so kalau dia cont kasi...this thing will drag n drag coz each time ur mil will mintak kan...kalau ur hub buat cam ginie tak impact u n anak2 financially...oklah...but still the bad habit fr the other side need to be kicked...
let's say ur hub kasi $200 every mth...then maybe jgn kasi ....sebab ape...nanti ur mil call kan..mintak $....then kasi sikit2....sampailah that $200 used up for that mth budget hihiih
Me and hb never combine our monies. Until now no joint account.
I never tell him how much i make, altho my hb nie kalau dapat surat promotion ker, increment/bonus ke, will bring home and open the letter together with me
But whn i was in the Big 4 firm i was making more money than my hb. Not now la, bile i join this local firm i took a huge paycut
Imagine, after working here for 6 yrs baru my current pay match my pay that i was getting in the Big 4 when i left.
I dun ask how mush he gives his parents. But I tak sebaik si nottygal.. never crossed my mind to give His parents..
I just give my mom and my grandma
I never tell him how much i make, altho my hb nie kalau dapat surat promotion ker, increment/bonus ke, will bring home and open the letter together with me
But whn i was in the Big 4 firm i was making more money than my hb. Not now la, bile i join this local firm i took a huge paycut
Imagine, after working here for 6 yrs baru my current pay match my pay that i was getting in the Big 4 when i left.
I dun ask how mush he gives his parents. But I tak sebaik si nottygal.. never crossed my mind to give His parents..
I just give my mom and my grandma
<font color="ff6000">Nottygal,
I dun reali asked but it's been ongoing and I hv to be in e picture to noe wat actually's happening. Kasi pon mcm "tak cukup" utk MIL. Camne tu sey. Every month mcm gini, I rather resign fr my work cos I hve to work to "help" their needs and not our needs.
Like now, our new financial terms dah lain. He'll have 10-20% of paycut soon. I'll tc of groceries, SP bills, Cable/home fon and mom's allowance wile he tc of kids necesssities, bike, car and ins etc...Noeing the limits, of cos kita anak beranak pon nk ada savings monthly juga which to me is a must no matter how tighten our stomach is. Utk hari hujan...bukan utk apa.
Bt I cant accept when MIL/SIL shoot a judgement, "Eh. korang laki bini bekerja takkan tk cukup? Mesti ada saving apa...Takkan family tgh susah pon tk bole tolong?"
It's like $%^&!!!</font>
I dun reali asked but it's been ongoing and I hv to be in e picture to noe wat actually's happening. Kasi pon mcm "tak cukup" utk MIL. Camne tu sey. Every month mcm gini, I rather resign fr my work cos I hve to work to "help" their needs and not our needs.
Like now, our new financial terms dah lain. He'll have 10-20% of paycut soon. I'll tc of groceries, SP bills, Cable/home fon and mom's allowance wile he tc of kids necesssities, bike, car and ins etc...Noeing the limits, of cos kita anak beranak pon nk ada savings monthly juga which to me is a must no matter how tighten our stomach is. Utk hari hujan...bukan utk apa.
Bt I cant accept when MIL/SIL shoot a judgement, "Eh. korang laki bini bekerja takkan tk cukup? Mesti ada saving apa...Takkan family tgh susah pon tk bole tolong?"
It's like $%^&!!!</font>
<font color="ff0000">nshah...
same2...i didn't get any fr hb....
coz he pay almost all bills n one time marketing/groceries every mth including paying hse which he bought for his famili in JB...but no cash. To my mom he also give.
I only pay for half of the car instalment, SCV, marketing(take over after stock yg hb bought dah habis), Raiyan insurance & maid</font>
same2...i didn't get any fr hb....
coz he pay almost all bills n one time marketing/groceries every mth including paying hse which he bought for his famili in JB...but no cash. To my mom he also give.
I only pay for half of the car instalment, SCV, marketing(take over after stock yg hb bought dah habis), Raiyan insurance & maid</font>
<font color="0000ff">both me and hb pun nvr combine our monies.. saving acc sendiri2..!!
he give his parent.. i give my parent..
berapa he give and i give.. and berapa dia bawa balik and i bawa balik (gaji and bonus).. we declare to each other.. and on top of dat, he still have to give me allowance.. no secret!!
cos this way, kita tahu kedudukan financially masing2.. and work out siapa bayar tis or dat! </font>
he give his parent.. i give my parent..
berapa he give and i give.. and berapa dia bawa balik and i bawa balik (gaji and bonus).. we declare to each other.. and on top of dat, he still have to give me allowance.. no secret!!
cos this way, kita tahu kedudukan financially masing2.. and work out siapa bayar tis or dat! </font>
"cos this way, kita tahu kedudukan financially masing2.. and work out siapa bayar tis or dat! "
betul betul betul...tak der dakwa dawi....
we combined the income but of course kena ade acct berlainan...
n i ade SECRET savings on top of a personal acct. that my hub dun know...its from my own pocket money...lets say that day i save $1....so i masuk pat my secret savings....
betul betul betul...tak der dakwa dawi....
we combined the income but of course kena ade acct berlainan...
n i ade SECRET savings on top of a personal acct. that my hub dun know...its from my own pocket money...lets say that day i save $1....so i masuk pat my secret savings....
<font color="000000">Nora
baik...no matter what i did, i am anak hantu!
entah ehh...ape pon i lalui, i still love her no matter how angry she made me at times...marah sekejap je...i wld think tanpa dia, i pon tak dpt jumpa suami i, dari situ i lembut hati..
i would normally yg ask my hub da kasi Ibu (MIL) duit lom? Psl my hub ni nak kena tekan button type...</font>
baik...no matter what i did, i am anak hantu!
entah ehh...ape pon i lalui, i still love her no matter how angry she made me at times...marah sekejap je...i wld think tanpa dia, i pon tak dpt jumpa suami i, dari situ i lembut hati..
i would normally yg ask my hub da kasi Ibu (MIL) duit lom? Psl my hub ni nak kena tekan button type...</font>