Anybody who has maids who owed them money and wanted to leave the house before contract ends and wanted to go to another maid agency? I need advise on this. I got a transfer maid from Indonesia after my twins are born and this is the first time I got a maid.
We got all our terms signed before she came over and she agreed on everything. No handphone, no long hair, no talking to stranger, no off day, wash hair and bath everyday with shampoo and soap etc etc etc.
When she first came over, she couldn't understand much English and hence, I got my MIL to speak to her in Malay. They were communicating very well and are in good terms. My MIL even taught her how to cook and brought her for her hair cut. Then there was once, she came back without cutting her fringe.
1 week after she came over, I realised that she has an odour and got my MIL to ask her to shampoo her hair everyday and bath with soap. They were conversing in Malay, which I totally don't understand and later did I realise that my MIL actually ask her to pour the whole bottle of shampoo on her hair then, since I say she stinks! My MIL blunted it out herself when we had an argument and said that she confessed that has body odour. MIL also bought her a bottle of powder to cover up her odour. What kinda MIL will teach a maid to disrespect her employer?!
I always thought that my maid has always been a good help to me and I always tell people how diligent she is. Until one fine day, when her father called her agency, asking her to call him... (She only wrote a letter back home from the day she came, which she did not receive any reply letter.)
I lent her my phone to call and according to her, her father said that her husband has another woman and he wants to divorce her to marry that woman. She was unhappy about it, but she still manage to work quite well. She has been asking to use my phone for about 3 times since then.
Thatafter, she told my MIL that she want to buy a phone. (My MIL actually told my maid to tell her everything and she will tell my husband and my husband will tell me. Anyway, my MIL and I have "tear face" and I am divorcing my husband soon.) Without consulting me, my MIL gave her her old phone and SIM card. From then on, she has been like on the line for hours! She keep getting my husband to help her buy top up card, keep asking my mum if she can go out to buy top up card. I asked my husband to get his mum to take back his phone, but he says no need. He will take it back. When he try to take it back, my maid says that my MIL give her the phone. She has the right to keep it. And then, my husband pass the baton back to me again. I am always the bad guy and everybody else the good guy here.
One day, my husband suggest that why not let her sign a line, then no need to keep buying card. I disagreed initially, but thought that since I got an extra sim card and it will be cheaper for her to use it instead of a top up card, then why not? So I passed her my sim card. Guess what? On the first month of using it, her phone bill cost $700++. Total 3,000 over minutes of calls, 700 over sms sent locally and internationally! We all got a shock out of our lives! I deducted 1 month of her pay for it, ie, $380. That month, in order to still be able to remit money home, she pleaded for time off and according to her, she sold her camera at $200 and borrowed $100 from her friend. Went out from 1230pm to 7pm! I checked her phone the next day and saw sms, in English, with another guy, like "I love you, why you treat me like that, later Jonny tell my mam I die etc etc etc..." I didn't question her on it though, but I have my doubts on everything she says from then onwards.
The next month, her hp bill is $400+++, another 3,000 over min of calls and 600 over sms. When I want to deduct her pay, she pleaded that her MIL needs money to be discharged from hospital, and I will deduct her pay in May, Jun and Jul instead, and hence, I give her her salary to remit. All these while when she start to have her phone, she will always be sobbing now and then, or sing songs now and then. Very emotional! She will tell me stories about her family need money to build house, her husband took someone's money and ran off etc.
She is contemplating whether to leave in Jun or Dec (when she will end her contract). According to her, it is because her husband says she cannot keep money here and ask her to go back.
Last week, I brought her for her hair cut after a long time. She is unhappy that she needs to cut her hair and she also refuse to cut her fringe. She says, "Please lah Mdm, I work until July only. After I return mdm all money, I will go. June lah. I get my sister to send me money." I said ok. She wasn't like that the last time when I brought her for her hair cut. And now, she says she cannot stand staying in my house.
Now that she is leaving, she said she will leave on 10th June when she receive her money. She said she do not want to go back to her previous agency and will want to go to another agency and ask me to sign paper for her to go. Anybody any idea what is the document about? I say, I will check out the procedure then let her know. Then, she called up my MIL and tell her that if I don't let her go to another agency, she will not return me my money, which total to about $1,000.
Anybody has experience like this to share? Every time my MIL come over to my house, my maid will start to have lotsa attitude towards me. To her, my MIL is like her trump card, and my MIL actually violated all the rules that we had set out for her, resulting in all these from happening too! She will disrespect me sometimes and talk nicely to me sometimes. I still keep her here and don't question her or tell her off on the account that she is still doing a good job with the housework and my kids. I think that I have been too nice to her to agree to everything she says.
Can anybody give me advise on what should I do with her now? What is the implication of sending her to another agency and what if she don't return me my money?
Thanks so much and thanks for reading this long story.
We got all our terms signed before she came over and she agreed on everything. No handphone, no long hair, no talking to stranger, no off day, wash hair and bath everyday with shampoo and soap etc etc etc.
When she first came over, she couldn't understand much English and hence, I got my MIL to speak to her in Malay. They were communicating very well and are in good terms. My MIL even taught her how to cook and brought her for her hair cut. Then there was once, she came back without cutting her fringe.
1 week after she came over, I realised that she has an odour and got my MIL to ask her to shampoo her hair everyday and bath with soap. They were conversing in Malay, which I totally don't understand and later did I realise that my MIL actually ask her to pour the whole bottle of shampoo on her hair then, since I say she stinks! My MIL blunted it out herself when we had an argument and said that she confessed that has body odour. MIL also bought her a bottle of powder to cover up her odour. What kinda MIL will teach a maid to disrespect her employer?!
I always thought that my maid has always been a good help to me and I always tell people how diligent she is. Until one fine day, when her father called her agency, asking her to call him... (She only wrote a letter back home from the day she came, which she did not receive any reply letter.)
I lent her my phone to call and according to her, her father said that her husband has another woman and he wants to divorce her to marry that woman. She was unhappy about it, but she still manage to work quite well. She has been asking to use my phone for about 3 times since then.
Thatafter, she told my MIL that she want to buy a phone. (My MIL actually told my maid to tell her everything and she will tell my husband and my husband will tell me. Anyway, my MIL and I have "tear face" and I am divorcing my husband soon.) Without consulting me, my MIL gave her her old phone and SIM card. From then on, she has been like on the line for hours! She keep getting my husband to help her buy top up card, keep asking my mum if she can go out to buy top up card. I asked my husband to get his mum to take back his phone, but he says no need. He will take it back. When he try to take it back, my maid says that my MIL give her the phone. She has the right to keep it. And then, my husband pass the baton back to me again. I am always the bad guy and everybody else the good guy here.
One day, my husband suggest that why not let her sign a line, then no need to keep buying card. I disagreed initially, but thought that since I got an extra sim card and it will be cheaper for her to use it instead of a top up card, then why not? So I passed her my sim card. Guess what? On the first month of using it, her phone bill cost $700++. Total 3,000 over minutes of calls, 700 over sms sent locally and internationally! We all got a shock out of our lives! I deducted 1 month of her pay for it, ie, $380. That month, in order to still be able to remit money home, she pleaded for time off and according to her, she sold her camera at $200 and borrowed $100 from her friend. Went out from 1230pm to 7pm! I checked her phone the next day and saw sms, in English, with another guy, like "I love you, why you treat me like that, later Jonny tell my mam I die etc etc etc..." I didn't question her on it though, but I have my doubts on everything she says from then onwards.
The next month, her hp bill is $400+++, another 3,000 over min of calls and 600 over sms. When I want to deduct her pay, she pleaded that her MIL needs money to be discharged from hospital, and I will deduct her pay in May, Jun and Jul instead, and hence, I give her her salary to remit. All these while when she start to have her phone, she will always be sobbing now and then, or sing songs now and then. Very emotional! She will tell me stories about her family need money to build house, her husband took someone's money and ran off etc.
She is contemplating whether to leave in Jun or Dec (when she will end her contract). According to her, it is because her husband says she cannot keep money here and ask her to go back.
Last week, I brought her for her hair cut after a long time. She is unhappy that she needs to cut her hair and she also refuse to cut her fringe. She says, "Please lah Mdm, I work until July only. After I return mdm all money, I will go. June lah. I get my sister to send me money." I said ok. She wasn't like that the last time when I brought her for her hair cut. And now, she says she cannot stand staying in my house.
Now that she is leaving, she said she will leave on 10th June when she receive her money. She said she do not want to go back to her previous agency and will want to go to another agency and ask me to sign paper for her to go. Anybody any idea what is the document about? I say, I will check out the procedure then let her know. Then, she called up my MIL and tell her that if I don't let her go to another agency, she will not return me my money, which total to about $1,000.
Anybody has experience like this to share? Every time my MIL come over to my house, my maid will start to have lotsa attitude towards me. To her, my MIL is like her trump card, and my MIL actually violated all the rules that we had set out for her, resulting in all these from happening too! She will disrespect me sometimes and talk nicely to me sometimes. I still keep her here and don't question her or tell her off on the account that she is still doing a good job with the housework and my kids. I think that I have been too nice to her to agree to everything she says.
Can anybody give me advise on what should I do with her now? What is the implication of sending her to another agency and what if she don't return me my money?
Thanks so much and thanks for reading this long story.