A quarrel over scallop

[Linwong]

Its really a lousy day. I was in bright spirits earlier on preparing dinner for me and "him". I named it "him" cos i hate to call it in "h" terms if anyone can guess wat it means. I stirfried brocolli with garlic and carrots and then made a soup dish in eggs with ginger and scallop. I wanted to add some scallops to make the soup dish aromatic no doubt he did tell me before he didnt take scallop. I jus added in five small pcs and it wasnt going to taste like scallop soup right as i stirfried ginger with sesamee oil and also added light soy sauce into the soup. He took a sip of the soup and said i had added scallop again. I told him it was only a few pcs and he said he didnt take scallops and that it would taste different with wat i had made previously. I kept quiet and he asked something about the











ginger and i jus replied back. Then, he made a remark about my unhappy expression and from there the

 

[Linwong]

bicker starts. Small problem indeed but why escalates into something big? I do not mind cooking for the family as this is the job of a housewife but why cant jus he appreciate? I can see husband taking pics of what their wives have prepared for their meal and giving words of appreciation. I know i cant compare as people have ways of expressing their appreciation for their spouses but couldnt he have made the comments in a more coyful manner? He doesnt take fish, fruits, and vege only some.........and when cooking soup, doesnt take to pork ribs but wants sliced meat put into the soup. Very funny and weird eating habits.......i really cant stand it.......i know working out is hard but being a housewife is also tedious only different is the flexibility in time. Not to mention looking after a two year plus toddler.......

 

[Linwong]

Cooking is by no means an easy feat. Got to prepare ingredients, cut, chop, stirfry, wash, mop the floor, clean the stovetop, serve dinner, wash dishes can imagine the hours wasted on cleaning and washing. A home cooked meal is always the best as i am sick of eating takeaways but after having a hard day, wat comes into the ear are jus very unpleasant words which makes your spirits low. I really feel idiotic but i am proud cos i finished everything on my dinner plate......at least i myself can appreciate my own cooking efforts.

 

[Skiasia]

hi linwong
I think you are doing a good job to fulfill ur duties as a wife and mother by taking good care of " him" and ur kid well
if he does not appreciate it,then next time dun bother to cook for him.
just cook for urself and kid .
yes.cooking is not an easy task,wash cook mop floor cleaning takes longer than completing the meal in 30 min.
washing takes at least 45 min-1 hr.it is never an easy task.

 

[zigggy]

To be fair, the smell of scallop is very strong, even if you put one or two pieces.

For people who like it, they won't think much of it. But for people who doesn't like it, the dish will be a major turnoff. For me, I do not take onions. If my MIL fry onions and use the same work and utensils to cooks other dishes, I'll be able to detect the taste of onions and I'll also not eat the food because is too pungent. Others who take onions aren't able to detect the onions taste at all.