No lah, do away with kits and temp charting difficult to tell when fertile rite? But then again, when I had #1, I only relied on observing my CM, no kits or temp charting. I'm not diligent enough to do charting and I guess I was pretty lucky last time! I hope it will be the same this time round!
My gynae's advice is to just BD every alternate day, not just during fertile period..like that can ensure that egg and spearm won't miss each other =)
In terms of relaxing, basically try not to stress yourself..be it due to work, family or the desire to have a baby. When I was TTC #1 during a stressful period at work, I had no luck. Once work stress disappeared, #1 was conceived =)