tien,
Yalor, I guess she just wan to carry and feed baby. cos last time when I fully latch, baby almost stay in my room whole day, hardly carry her out.when I start to bottle feed 1-2 times a day, she so happy. But understand lar, her first waited long grandchild.but she dunno tat her words *drink not ful issit* will create unhappiness and stress to mummy. Last time when she always comment about let baby drink fresh, dun store milk. I nearly got post-natal blue until I tell her off say I DUN WAN TO HEAR THE COMMENT AGAIN. Then I cry in the pantry, I dunno if she know I cry. after that she din say anything abt my EBM.
Angeline,
yalor..MIL just find excuses..
Sherill,
after i told my MIL to wash and my hubby went to tell her again. I saw her wash more properly yesterday. Will check secretly and do necessary next time. I also dun wish to argue with her more since she is more stubborn, and always tell me *last time, last time*. today told me to sterilize bottle one time enuf, say since we got many bottles. I told her I will do tat only after baby at least grow bigger with stronger immuse system. She say *LAST TIME* only boil one time, she even say ppl now do tat, i told her tat ppl now used proper sterilizer and sterilized every used. She kept telling me tat we got many bottle, can sterilize one time and use the whole day, I count for her tat we need 8 bottles for baby a day. 3 hours interval, 24 hours a day. then she say still got the small one (Medela freestyle bottle), i told her I need to pump my milk, and I got 2 breasts, if sterilized once a day, I need 16 bottles a day. Guess she dun get my calculation and again say last time is like tat. wan to faint already. I ask her to *look forward*, dun always *look backward*. We need to improve..I admit I'm quite rude at time.
Yesternite my MIL finally tasted the pain. I let my baby sleep in baby room, my MIL sleep with her. She wake up for milk at 130am and fall asleep fast after fed, MIL went to change her diaper at 2plus say bcos baby make noise so she tot dirty. I warn her many times tat if plan to change, change b4 feed, cannot change after feed cos khloe sure wake up (I guaranteed). She challenge my warning and khloe refused to sleep. I hear her voice so wake up to check, 2plus, 3plus, 4plus still dun wan to sleep. at 4plus, my MIL say - cannot, must feed her milk, otherwise she refused to sleep. So I tot MIL asked me to feed her so i carry her and latch then I heard the bottle sound and found out tat my MIL already heat up the EBM and you know wat. she go and heat up 3oz of milk (khloe drink 3oz every 3 hours). 4lus is only 2 hours interval, khloe sure cant finish the milk. I was so upset, she dunno tat every 3hours drink 3oz, if just wan to feed baby to sleep, should prepare LESS!!! end up khloe drink only 1.5oz and guess wat, khloe still refused to sleep. When I went and peep, MIL already gave up and sleep, left khloe in her cot alone. so poor thing. So i carry her to my room with the milk (within 1 hour still can drink. I try to feed her, talk to her and she continue to drink, pat her to sleep at 5plus. When someone is tired and sleepy, really can be quite boh chap. If khloe dun wan to sleep during day time, guarantee my MIL will carry her. When I ask why must carry her, she will tell me baby make noise. SO BIG DIFFERENT!
Oh ya, you may wan to offer pacifier to baby when she dun wan to sleep. I realised sometime baby treat my nipple as something to satisfied herself to sleep. I started *doggy* feeding style a while ago cos backache and tired. khloe can *mum* my nipple without sucking, when I removed it, she asked for it like very hungry which is not true. So I gave her pacifier, she will reject then I put into her mouth again and again then she will *suck* and fall asleep.When she fall asleep, she will let go the pacifier.
I once beat my baby and feel so heartpain and regret. ppl always say baby can feel/sense our mood. I guess is true. since then, I try to be extra patient even when she is cranky. I will say *angry at you, dun like you, hate you*, but my mood wasn't tat mood, and she still happily look at me with her big eyes. Sometime I will pretend scold her and ask, who naughty, she SMILE AT ME!!! heart melted. Now I can look at her sleeping face, never feel boring cos she got lotsa emotion, smile, laugh, cranky, wiser mouth, unhappy mouth..etc
Jia you sherill!! Ur hubby coming back soon?
Hoshi,
My baby also got discharge after the cord drop out. Hers is blood, doctor say it's okay and ask me to put the powder tat PD prescrib. her naval fully dry after 3-4 days. Yours a bit too long, you might wan to call the PD and check.
Whisp,
I also will feel uneasy when my MIL carry baby too much. I'm woried next time my baby *stick* more to grandma instead of me. Can understand your feeling. Dunno how to comfort you cos we are the same..haha
Baby sleep with grandma for 3-4 days already, I missed my baby so much (although is just next door). I told hubby tat tonite must bring baby back to our room.hehe
Charleen,
Yeah agree!! the lying position aka doggy position is really good. cos when baby is sucking, we can sleep!!! I started tat a while ago cos baby was super cranky one nite and refused to sleep, my wound is hurting me like hell cos kept carry baby and she keep moving and kicking. End up I carry her to my bed and try the doggy way(daphne mentioned b4 tat she used this method). Khloe satisfied and mummy can sleep. I also dunno she suck till wat time cos I already fall asleep like a pig.
hopefully,
I tot dang gui will reduce the BM? Tien can verify??
