penguin - think ve to cool down abit.. most grandparents (be it maternal or paternal) loves their grandchildren (esp their 1st), n they love to carry them to show their affection. do u expect them to just stare at your baby? moreover, whether carry or not, most babies will cry bcos of insecurity into this new world outside of mummy's peaceful womb. Don't compare to early 2-3weeks of life, bcos during those times they are mostly sleeping, still not very wary of their surroundings. Carry is not as bad as rocking, some ppl like to carry and sway left-right to make baby sleep. Do u use beanie pillow on baby or do u let baby sleep on the side or tummy? I find these helps. bouncer or sarong also v good bcos baby will feel cuddled and tend to sleep longer. My inlaws loves to rock baby when they carry, i told them try not to or at least not too often, if habitual, i will b v bz at nite n said i will knock on their doors to ask them to rock baby to sleep. my 1st boy was spoilt by CL, always carry him at every cry, we end up using sarong to make him sleep after CL left!
btw, my 2nd boy same birthday as urs! =)