nature,
i think for newborn, better not to have bolster or pillow, in case of accident. many mummies just use nappy cloth as the head pillow..until they are bigger , say a few mths later, then give them bolsters.
bakaholic,
im also as pantang as u.. i rem the week b4 i was hospitalised, my mum ask me want to attend my cousin wedding or not..then i just commented 'hmm, can go or not, duno will pantang or not leh'..then few days later, kena contractions and admitted..probably not related lar, but just play safe.. so now my mum stop me from commenting or going to events..say very taboo..so i just give ang pao.