xihui, you had MS throughout the entire pregnancy?? It wasnt as bad for my boy but this time is really bad, most likely because my body was not in very good condition in the first place. I puked until my husband told me to go for termination. Im no longer puking now but the cost of the drug worries me, about $850 for 2 weeks' supply IF i take it twice a day. But its cheaper than being warded. I'll be able to sell my jurong flat in a few months' time, i think moving out n getting a place of our own will be easier on everyone....
reenren, thank you, this bb is unplanned but since i AM considering to have #2, its a blessing thou alot of times, i feel guilty towards my boy. He was in infantcare since 8 months old, i have no doubt he will b able to adapt to fullday childcare. Its the starting phase thats difficult n i just feel hurt that my parents find my boy a hassle. Getting a maid is all about luck. If your mum is the picky sort, you might nv b able
to get the right maid in this lifetime. I have friends who ended up sending 1 to childcare 1 to nanny or both to nanny with their maid tagging along or quit to be SAHM with maid. Because the mum or mil just cannot be happy with anything my friends try to provide. Will you continue to try get a new maid?
CC, same sentiments...i do feel envious when i see other parents being able to go out for dinners, meet up with friends or even have the option to stay back for work. Weekends i see them doing the same thing...most likely they leave their kids with the maids or parents-in-law. When i was hospitalised, my husband slept over at his mum's place with our boy as he cannot handle our boy alone. But i have to admit without my boy around, i had the chance to rest in peace. My husband hated it when i wasnt around and kept smsing to ask when i can b discharged from hospital. It added to my guilt and made me feel very inadequate as a mother. My gynae tells me i have to let go and accept help until im well again. The aim is for me to regain the weight n strength that i've lost. But family members expect me to be up and about the moment i stop puking. I get comments on how i've become a lazy mum who knows how to have kids but dont want to take care of them. I have problems carrying my 12kg+ boy for long with my growing tummy too. I try to encourage him to walk but he will cling desperately as if i will run away so fetching him to and from childcare takes me much effort as i have to carry him n his heavy schbag and the nearest LRT is a good 10 mins' walk. No problem at all for me in the past but now i cant manage without someone helping me to carry his bag but my dad finds it such a bother, saying im on hospitalisation leave now, whole day do nothing at home, now cannot even fetch my boy on my own and my boy's surname is not even the same as his. So i wanted to cry when Serendipity actually offered help. I'll listen to you n try to be positive. I still have a long way to go with my boy and you are right to say its only right we sacrifice cos we ARE the parents afterall.
serendipity, how did u know that Cambridge used to ne Cedan? Jude's form teacher is very nice but i dont like the one who receives him every morning. She just stares at jude when he wails n dont initiate to take over so that i can leave as my presence will encourage jude to wail even more. Very touched when you offered help to bathe and feed my boy! Its ironic....when his own grandparents are reluctant to. Would love to meet up with dyl and you when i get stronger soon, perhaps at rivervale mall! Kudos to your mum for having to cook, clean and care for dyl with 2 dogs! Very tough leh...for now i have no new arrangement coming up except that i might purchase a resale flat instead of waiting for BTO when i can sell my flat coming Nov. But husband not keen as he felt there will be too many changes at one go. I just hope in the months to come, he doesnt have to travel for work else im really on my own.
MT, im already on a 36 hour work week instead of 42 hour when my boy went infantcare last year. I m due to convert to 42 hr work week from year 2012 onwards as i thought my dad can help me fetch my boy to cc as he did say he's willing to. But now that he has expressed his preference not to be involved, i might have to continue with my 36hour per week arrangement. Pay, bonus, leave all will be prorated but i dont have a choice esp with #2 coming up n going infantcare in time to come. I pray for strength everyday.
joelle, wow congrats! How far along are u? Hope so far you are feeling well and not sick. But will still be very very tired. I've not cooked for my boy since July. Just opening the fridge in my kitchen sends me dry heaving. Do share how you been trying to cope....
winnie, thank you...i believe God meant this bb as a gift and not to break my spirit. It has been tough on my husband who never had to lift a finger with our boy. Suddenly, he had to fetch, bathe, feed, entertain, soothe, pack his bag, wash n dry his clothes, not easy....he was very resentful at one point about having to do everything on his own but he also knew he had no choice. I was so sick at one point that i didnt bathe for 2 days. I needed his help to go to the bathroom. It was very trying on him. Add on the medical cost n he was ready to surrender. I feel bad for burdening him but i must take the med....if i cant function then my boy how?
jules, it is difficult to depend on my husband due to his jobscope. He travels quite often and is on standby 24/7. Im usually on my own. He was very frustrated when i had to stay in hospital as he cannot cope with our boy n he had loads of work waiting for him. Now that we are staying with my parents, he would be watching tv while our boy creates havoc n my dad would be very unhappy. Some nights he will go out and meet friends for overnight mahjong n return in the morning falling asleep on the sofa while our boy throws tantrum. My dad will feel very stressed and tired. That is also y he is very unhappy about my pregnancy as he feels my husband only does the bare minimum and does not take on more so no point have another one. I did consider moving back to jurong but ultimately we will buy a flat at sengkang or punggol because my husband will never be relocated to another area n also because we prefer our boy to attend the same centre throughout. Headache everytime i think about the confinement but i will wait for my amnio result first then see how....its tough getting a suitable cc. I am still looking as #1 and #2 must attend the same centre and my boy's current centre doesnt offer infantcare.
little twin stars, yes....they are very unpredictable but my parents do not understand. Keep asking me if he is sick, y like this, y so difficult, y so pai2 si4, then show me black face in the mornings. They are used to sleeping at 8pm every night but with my boy of cause no such thing.
wish, thanks for the info, a couple of hundreds more i dont mind paying....kudos to you for going through amnio twice! Im not afraid of the procedure but hate the idea of having to wait.
! Nice to catchup, hope we manage another soon.
