(2009/09) September 2009 MTBs

<font color="0077aa">bbq98</font>
ur PILs dun call and pop by to "spot chk" on u both ar? really scary...
hang a bell/ chime at the grille gate or door or smthing to make a noise since they got keys and wont ring the doorbell... or lock the chain on the door inside when u r both home, it a safety measure against "bulgary" too. so if they open the door, the chain stops them from opening fully..
 


girly,
Yes yes i agree with you hands up!!! i want my freedom back!! now i dont even dare sit in the living room to watch tv lor.. later my mil complain i keep watching tv nv do housework.. even when i wash clothes, i do it when she's out working.. just dont feel comfy with her eyes "staring" at me.. haha. So i'm in the room most of the time in front of the pc.
 
been out the whole and now reading back the posts.. this thread is moving too fast lah...

bellybutton,
mine pops out when i enter 2nd trim leh and nv pop back in.. so sometimes when i wear clothes it's protruding, tot it looks very ugly and i keep getting teased by my colleagues!! sigh...
 
*shelled*

ya lor...when u said ur in-laws commented tat they can help u babysit Joshua if u happened to be going into labour and need to be admitted at night or middle of the night, I was thinking if it's necessary meh??? U cldn't be leaving Joshua alone at home and left for the hospital before ur in-laws arrived right??? Sure fr one end to the other end of singapore cldn't haf take more than half hr oso lor...when the needs arrived then passed them keys oso nt late mah...

for us, me and hub 1 set of keys and 1 set spare hanging somewhere around the hse. So if any1 need to babysit for us or 'guard' hse for us, can use tat set of spare keys...

Heehee anyway bohbian liao lor...bt ur in-laws real smart for sure
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Princessxiaomei,

Yours is in- law problem. Mine is MY OWN MOTHER.

Sometimes I'm really envious of mother's who are really attentive to their daughter when they are expecting.

Here's my story to share.

I really hate my mom ( Not that I'm unfilial ) But I've been through a hell lot of crap in my growing up years being the only daughter in between 2 brothers and whenever she gets cranky, she hits me, Grabs my hair and bangs it on the wall, takes a chair and throws it at me, can just punch me in public outside my school. I know it sounds scary and no mother would do that to her child, But this is what I've been through all the way till I was 15, I stayed away from home in a gf's place because I was living in paranoia that I would get anger or frustration vented on me when she gets cranky ( She does not hit my brothers ) And No, I wasn't a very naughty girl, She would hit me when I came home like 15 mins late? I suck in Chinese real bad, and when I get 0 for the spelling, she made me kneel outside the house for 6 whole hours till I couldn't stand up on my own. When I've hit 18 I've tried to be nice and except my mother as she is even when she gets cranky.

Finally after I met DH she started to be nice ( I THOUGHT ) But then she started being materialistic and "Traditional" Don't know if it's called traditional or is she trying to make my life a living hell.

She forced my dog out of the house to live in my in-laws place just because "I Am Married Out" and staying with them till my flat is ready. She says
I cannot bring my clothes home to wash. And I don't expect my MIL to wash my clothes for me because she is the only woman apart from me in the house and she washes her own clothes by hand. So... I have to bring my clothes to the DRYCLEANERS and spend more money...

That isn't all that I am going through, Throughout my whole pregnancy, she has NEVER EVER made a single tonic or soup for ME to even nurture my health. Like wow? When I suggested going back for confinement so she and my family can see me more, guess what she told me dad? She wanted me to PAY HER for the month that I was staying there! My own MOTHER, wants her DAUGHTER to PAY HER for looking after ME and her FIRST GRANDCHILD!

This is the shit I have to take. From my OWN mother.

( Heaves a sigh after letting steam off chest )
 
Yes, when we are at home, we will internally lock the door. However, sometimes when I am on leave and sleep in, I don't want to wake up just to chain the door after my hubby leaves the house. At times like this, it's quite scary lor. I will worry that they come, walk into the room and see me sleeping in my pj. Even if I internally chain the door, when they are just outside at the door, I still have to let them in lor. Sian.
 
*bbq98*
Make your lock SPOIL!!!! then you can change lock!!!!! hahahaahahaaa.... when desperate, you will think of all ways! hahahaa....

*milkyway*
Yah.. it's always thanks to those 3gu6po who add fire to the everyting... sigh! WHY ah.. why so hard to live with in laws de???? sigh... we are also human beings right... why they like that de... sigh!

i'm always in the room! I only step out if i need to go toilet to pee shit shower. i even bring my food into the room to eat!

I also never have much things done leh.. my EDD almost the same as yours.... :) last week my check up i put on abt 8kg liao... baby weighing 1.1kg.. but i believed within these few days he did gain more weight cos i could feel much heavier lately!!!!!

*girlygirly*
good lah. every now and then ppl will start to bang knock and try open my door... or want us to open the door... at times i never wear bra to sleep cos very uncomfortable.... i cannot sleep in peace cos anytime those above will appear! totally no privacy! and i feel so uneasy...
 
*milky*
my gal at 30wks 1.5kg oso
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my bellybutton protruding too...my gals n hub always like to use their finger to poke at it, of course gently la...my gal say beri nice to touch, hahaha...
 
*pamelia*
I really feel so sad for you. How about your in laws? Do they treat you good? Now you staying with who?? Sometimes i really wonder how come people will 'ill treat' the DIL or own child.... it's really a sad thing... and at times i really feel so sorry for myself. For others who treat us like that, they felt it's like making us independent... but i will feel at one point is, but the other point is like asking me to take my head and bang the wall. Many times i feel life is really meaningless. I never want to mention anything about how in laws treat me to my own family cos i don't want any conflicts among them... i just want both families to be nice to each other and since they won't be seeing one another that often, it's really better to let my family feel that my in laws really treat me good good... look after me well... and just let me be the one who suffer then.. afterall it's going to be few more months to go..... you must really try to endure too... now we're already in 3rd trimester, we must be more happy and positive..... after confinement then blow whatever we can to the max. Even my confinement plan not confirmed... but most likely i am doing my own confinement,.... with my mum helping me to cook but dont know who to bring the food over.... everything is not confirmed cos the people i lived with DO NOT CARE!
 
woh~ sounds very similar to me wor... I also nv step out of my room unless i really need to.. I also like to do things like laundry, cooking etc when my MIL is not at home..

but whether i move out or not, my MIL will still be with us.. no choice.. she only has 2 children. Her eldest daug married out le.. currently stayin same blk lvl as us.. next is my hubby liao..

having said that, i still wana move out to a bigger place n so by then i will also have a say in how the hall n kitchen be run. Now, i cannot say anything cos flat under hubby n his mum's name.. hub told me to leave the hall n kitchen to his mum cos i kept complaining i clean n clean but the house always back to sq 1.. now i still learning to close 1 eye when im outta my room lo..
 
*pamelia*

erhmm...tat is really bad... tot my mom never prepare tonics for me oredi bad enuff...

anyway though my mom doesn't do tat to me, my life EVEN BEFORE I GT MARRIED wasn't any better, why??? coz my dad did tat to me...physical and verbal abuses, very chor lor one...erhmmm, can u imagine ur dad telling u tat u are getting married coz u luv being 'F**K*????? Disgusting isn't it????

WELL all in the past oredi!!!!!!! Nt looking back at all, all the unhappiness. Juz looking forward to a better 2moro....Having a unhappy childhood in fact served as a reminder to me tat i'll never let these happened to my children... I'll definitely be one mother who wld make tonics for my gals when they are going into puberty and when they are going to become mothers themselves...as long as i am around...
 
*girlygirly*
That's why i tell myself i must protect myself... so that i can protect and care for my hb and children.... so i cannot die! that's what i kept telling myself!

WOah, my baby is doing a lot of movements now... :) kicking my ripcage and pressing on my bladder....

*ling*
i think most of us stay in the room all the time! :) hahahaahhaahaa... you're same like me... but my mil will always be at home... until now i also squating down to hand wash most of my clothes... :)

i hungry wanna cook also IMPOSSIBLE for sure.... (1)stove a little spoil (2)once i cook, place surely dirty by a little, and fil sure KPKB!
 
<font color="ff6000">milkyway</font>
You all stop scaring me leh! My in-laws not as jialat as that lor. They want keys also cos sometimes they babysit Joshua when i go for antenatal massage, or go do other things. Then they will bring Joshua out to walk walk (cos they drive lorry) and then bring him home for bedtime at 10pm. Then we can stay out late without worrying they cannot bring Joshua home to sleep. They like to bring Joshua to great-grandmother's place to play mah.

Heng my in-laws stay in a big big HOUSE lor. They will never want to move into my sad tiny 3rm flat. Siao meh? Downgrade leh. So in that aspect I am also quite safe. Plus, my MIL doesn't want to live with us, cos she was the one who chase us out of the house and make us buy flat.

<font color="ff6000">girlygirly</font>
Actually if the need arise, we WILL leave Joshua alone at home to sleep. Then PILs can arrive at whatever time as long as before 8am for his morning milk. Joshua is a very good sleeper and can put himself back to sleep even if he wake up from nightmare. Tried and tested liao.
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*princess*
ya like wat my grandma always tell me, xian ku hou tian...all the happening mould us into a better and stronger individual...
 
Anyway tdy I had my gynae appt. She said BB is turned down liao. The hard part I'm feeling on the left side is his spine. The poking/prodding/painful kicks at the top of my tummy or slightly to the right are his naughty little legs.

Gynae said I wun be popping so soon, but somehow I still dun dare to believe her. I think I'll only rest easy AFTER I complete my reno &amp; finish setting up the room &amp; washing all the clothes haha.
 
Oh she said I put on 2.6kg in the past 4 weeks. But she said my previous 4 weeks only put on 1.x kg. I reminded her that I had to fast with no food no water for the GD test. So she said, ok lah, got excuse haha. Can average the weight gain over 8 weeks.


To date, put on 11kg liao. Since I've not been controlling my diet at all, &amp; Babylet is at 1.9kg (medium weight), so she said nvm lah, just be careful. She said if I give birth at week 37/38, he'll be ard <3.5kg, but if i only pop at week 40, he'll be >3.5kg liao haha.
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<font color="ff6000">girlygirly</font>
He's very indepedent and "big boy" in many ways. Just that he just don't want to talk!!! ARGGHHHH! It drives me nuts that he rather go "ah ah ah eh eh eh" than to talk properly. But then again... I guess I can't expect my kids to be perfect lah. He's already a good boy, so I guess I have to tahan his baby talking until he is ready to talk properly. *REN*
 
shelled

Cannot be so demanding lah. Josh is a gd boy, he'll talk sooner or later. M<aybe he's the strong, silent type hehe.
 
pamelia: huggies! good that you are letting those out
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look forward to your bb! You are going to start a real family together with your hubby :D

Desitin cream... i is want!! hahaha got the checklist from Mothercare and realised i have quite a number of things undone/ yet to buy.

Wooo i see a cabinet craze going on.. got cabinets already. now main thing is COT-hunting! hehehe

Anyone of you got er.. the what receiving blanket? have no idea what's that and the difference between this swaddling blankie i saw in the store as well.. haha..

Got so many things i wanna buy from bbmall!! XD
 
Speaking of cabinets/plastic drawers.. dun think I'll be buying any after all.

HB wants to recycle some of the cabinets/drawers from our hacked wardrobe. So there wun be any more space for extra drawers! Hiaz,, shang nao jin..
 
<font color="ff6000">Jul</font>
Today I was quite packed leh. Checkup in the morning, then came home to wait for jenifur to come pickup her stuff, then evening i had to meet another mom @ Taka to pass her BBmall stuff. Didn't get round to doing it. I promise you tmr i go, ok? Then i sms you.
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I am not demanding. I am just pekchek with him ah ah ah eh eh eh. Then he expect me to read his mind like that. Which i can 90% of the time, but i purposely don't want to give him what he want. Then end up he just resort to baby signing. *puke blood &amp; faints* DIE DIE JUST DUNWAN TO TALK!

You should tell your gynae, most of your weight gain went to your nehneh.
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oh btw, my princess been moving actively while i was on the train... never before leh XD oh and i still get seats offer without fail hehehe

itsy: you STILL AT 25weeks ah? -_-" your gynae very cute eh... think i just hit 28weeks yesterday (thurs) heheee
 
*jul*
i am having poking/protuding/painful kicks at the top of my tummy (below my breast area) most of the time during the night. These are made by baby's LEGS? Awwww.... so painful leh... think most of our babies head down liao le??? exciting hur....

*girlygirly*
Indeed i am getting more and more independent and strong... but at times i do really need a little help when i am not able to do things by myself like now. SIGH!

*gina*
i think this recieving blanklet and swaddling thingy is for the same purpose... i think lah.. haha
 
shelled

Keke okie, sms me when u check it out then
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Oh yeah, u mentioned the last time that he will talk more to his papa but with u, he will wait for u to know what he wants right? U said something abt he will come to you, &amp; u will ask him whether he wants water w/o him needing to say anything? Maybe u can act blur more often, so he'll be forced to speak up haha.

Huh! 11kg went to neh neh? Possible meh? But seriously, now that I look at them, I wonder how to manage to face the woprld with my head upright with the punies I had then hahaha.
 
princess

Did ur gynae say ur BB head down liao? Mine is lor. Darned painful leh.

Esp yest I was trying to have dinner, &amp; he kicked soooo hard that I cudn';t even eat. I had to stop &amp; lean back &amp; wait for him to finish kicking. The little terror!

My gynae said boys usu > active &amp; will kick harder. Chiam lah, I hope he doesn't get any stronger in the next 8 weeks, or I might roll on the flr in pain leh.
 
*jul*
Last sat my gynae said my baby's head is down le... then i asked him will he turn the other way around again, he said unlikely cos first baby... usually unlikely.... and every night especially, my upper part sure very suan that kind...

i already wanna roll on the bed and cry liao.. cos quite painful but i try to tolerate and bear with the pain...
 
princess

Actually I dun understand why BBs dun feel giddy or seasick being upside down for a few weeks. They wun nao3 chong1 xie3 meh? hahaha

Sometimes when mine is pressing at the wrong spot, the pelvic area also very suan suan painful. Worse, is suddenly he press on my bladder! Aiyoh..
 
*jul*
Hahaha.. yah loh. Funny right!!!

You know some strollers can turn the handle the other way round, so that when we push, we can see baby..... i always have the thought that babies will feel giddy cos we push forward but they sleep/lie the opposite way.. but someone told me, THEY WON'T FEEL GIDDY DIZZY! Is it really true??? LOL!

Most of the time, the upper tummy (below breast area) very suan.. and i have to press underneath my breasts to relieve a little of the pain! And sometimes i have those tingling sensation at the bottom... dont know what's that either... and at times, he press on my bladder... making me zoom to the toilet with little or no pee! >.< RASCAL!
 
<font color="ff6000">Jul</font>
I act blur lor, then he yell at me. So I yell back at him. Then he cry.
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I tell him: "If you yell at me, I will yell at you. It's not nice, is it?" (Yes I know, I is evil mommy.) But seriously, I think too late for me to act blur liao. Whenever he is in good mood, I will prompt him to say words lor. So far he manage to say diaper, bear, car, eat, hi, bye, come, go, and some other single syllable words. Strangely, he refuses to say "milk". He'd rather baby sign "milk" to us.
 
princess

Maybe they really dun feel giddy lor. Imagine they are turning upsied down inside, then when we move ard they also bounce ard for 9 mths. Guess they're used to it? haha

I have tingling sensation at the top of the tummy instead. Been like that for the past few days.

shelled

Hehe strange.. why doesn't he say "milk"?
 
<font color="ff6000">Jul</font>
I dunno. Cos he's weird??

I have a sore sensation on my lower right side, just above my hips. Cos his head is there.
 
*jul*
For me, i go opposite direction ah, confirm giddy until vomit. Baby is so much stronger than me! Hahahahaa... got once i went to bintan, i puke all the way when i board the ship.. those 2 kids sitting in front of me never puke loh! LOUSY leh! Hahahaa....

I think it's really baby's legs doing all work which makes me feel so achinggggg....

so uncomfortable.. i go lie on the bed le... :)
 
Just back from the salon. ( Stupid cashier total daily sales screwed up on me causing the delay )

Princessxiaomei,

I am staying with my in-laws and they treat me well. I don't wish to expect anymore from them. I am just disgusted with the way my mother treats me, Money issue being mentioned to friends can already be a very bad thing, yet from your own mother! I have tried to look ahead in life and be happy with my precious on the way, but what she has done to me ( She claims out of PROTECTION and LOVE "My Ar*e" ) has left a permanent scar in my mind and heart. Furthermore she has kinda made my dad's life a living hell.. ( Complicated story ) And I love my dad alot. Seeing her give him attitude problem just pisses me off. ( Sometimes I really feel like ending her life >.<)

Girly,

My mother was verbally abusive too... When I came home slightly late.. You know what she said to me? She raised her voice as I stepped into the house and said that my " Ch** B** " itchy issit? And pointed at hers. I mean like what was wrong with being home slightly late from school? Can't a better word be used? Must it be that reason? I was only in lower secondary at that time.

Gina,

Thanks love... I am trying to be happy and am blessed with a DH to be there for me whenever I am feeling murderous.

I am not a problem child by the way. I love my family and I will do anything for them. I just hate my mum and the way she treated me caused me to be rebellious against her. Being the only daughter in my family in between 2 brothers I tend to get violent but nomatter how much I hate her and would like to punch her face in, I wold punch the wall and hurt my hand instead. =3

Whoever has seen me will be shocked to see a lady like me can get so violent and physical. XD

Think most mummies have gone to bed... I will take a shower and have my dinner. >.< Will drop in later or tomorrow morning when I get to the salon.

Good night mommies who have gone to bed and those turning in for the night/morning. <3
 
<font color="0000ff">princess></font> ahhh. okokie... hahaha... :p
where u staying huh????

<font color="0000ff">jenifur></font> Mmmm..but why would nipple crack huh??? if its latched on properly...shouldnt crack rite????
u got use ur BM to apply ard ur areola and nipple???

<font color="0000ff">shelled></font> hahaha.. i also wanna be slim slim after delivery!!!!!!! hahahahha...
I been eating ALOT of ice cream.... last week i eat fri, sat, sun..till i so scared.. hahahaa...
and now the more i think my girl is big..the more worried i become.....
hope i didnt have GD....
next week visit must ensure my urine strip is clean...... haha...

<font color="0000ff">Pamelia></font> wah............... have been hard on u.. but its all over.. u have a loving Hb now..
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Cheer!!
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Nitez all too..
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wow so much interactions last nite huh!

Pamelia
its hard to think why ur mom would do that to you, esp u being the only gal in the family, i thought the other way would happen. cos my gal is currently the only gal out of so many boys and she can have everything she wants.

*hugs hugs* to you ok. to be physically abusive is bad enuf but verbal abuses double it up. i feel so hurt reading the words she used on u. u must have had an unhappy childhood. anyway, u have a good husb now and a lil bundle of joy to look forward to. dun look back anymore. there is a happy future ahead of u
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Jennifur
oh such big tube ah, then nvm. no worries. i will just get the medela one. thanks!

Rach
the initial few weeks can be quite painful to bf lah actually. i also tried putting the bm but doesnt work much, esp when ur nipple crack till the point it bleeds! although mine never bleed before, cracked nipples are bad enuf! and for me, only the nipple cream will help cos it also moisturise ur nipple, u feel better. u can wait and see if urs will crack first then buy lor. for me, its only intial few weeks
 
Thanks for all the info about Desitin and Lasinoh breast cream.
JENNIFUR,
Can I have a tube of the Lasinoh breast cream please? THanks. Let me know when i should transfer the $$ to you. Might not be checking email that often on weekends as I'm normally not at home.

PLAT,
Thanks for info but ermm, JP is pretty far for me, am looking for somewhere near bukit panjang/batok/bukit timah area...:p

MOMOTEH,
I normally go see Dr Wong after work on weekdays at night...less waiting time, can reigster, then go for dinner, then come back for the checkup. I used to go on sat and it was crazy!
My last visit was 30 wks so next visit 32 weeks
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It's Sat! Yippee!

Unfortunately it'll be another bz weekend what with antenatal class, buying study furniture from Ikea, getting fittings for the contractor to install..

Can't wait for reno to start &amp; end. THEN I can get on with being prepared for BB.
 
YAY!!!!!!! Weekend is here! :D Meaning more time to shop around :x although pay is still not here
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Speaking of washing bb clothes beforehand, something's been nagging me. I am wondering if the leftover detergent from the previous wash (adult clothes) will have residue on the bb clothes even if i use the bb clothes detergent? Sorry ah i paranoid de.. haha
 
Wow Pamelia, kudos to your courage! But with your happy family now, its going to be a new and good start!!

Guess most of us who stay with pil will have lotsa to complain. I got lotsa also... sigh... now also waiting for house but kena delay so sianz... but I have made my stand. I will go back to my mum's place for confinement. Luckily for me hubby is always on my side hahahaha but he gonna suffer cos need to travel to and fro, so we must all REN till the day we get freedom from in laws and get our own place!!

And I totally agree that we shld not give in laws or to be fair even our parents keys cos its our privacy wad... I dun want to return home to see someone already inside my house lor...

when i asked my hubby to read the thread about giving keys to in laws or parents, he asked me then in the even we get locked out how? haha i told him i would rather call a locksmith!!

Its weekend so let's enjoy mamas!!
 
<font color="ff6000">Rach</font>
Then don't eat so much ice cream?? I only get influenced to eat alot alot when out with mommies... Especially Jul_04... She makes me want to eat nonstop, and I dunno why.
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<font color="ff6000">mama to 6Js / Re: Nipple cracking during BF</font>
Wah ok, now I know why people say I am very lucky. You're so seasoned at it already still get sore in the first few weeks... Granted, I did crack/bleed during the first 2 days while I was still in hospital, but that was due to incorrect latching on. I also had some "blood blisters" as the nurses and Mrs Wong called it. Got a small tube of Lansinoh from the shop @ TMC and it's really good protection lor. Mrs Wong say its better if Joshua DON'T break the blisters and end up drinking blood. Once I healed up from the cracks/bleeding, I actually didn't get anymore cracking. My very small tube of Lansinoh never even use half, that's why I find the 2 oz tube is probably too much for me. Now I feel very very blessed lor... Must aim to BF at least 1 year this time round, provided Keegan don't self-wean like Joshua!
 
yes, with correct latching plus a patient baby, u can avoid gettg cracked nipples!
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prob is my babies r all the impatient type. heng only first 2-3 weeks max if not can die!
 
anyone interested in the cord blood banking? they have a seminar going on 22nd august @ gleneagles hospital :D which includes other talks as well.. hehe its free admission with goodie bag :D

http://www.stemcord.com/seminar.html

Got mummies want join me? Interested to go but will be going alone coz my hub got to work T_T

oh and who was the other mummy who wanted to go the ANMUM breastfeeding forum? HAHAHA i want go lehhhhhhhh.....
 


<font color="0000ff">mama6></font> huh...
cannot wait till then... coz jenifur doing the spree now...
hahaha..okie.. i shall just buy a tube first la...already transferred to her anyway....
less hassle.. hahaha.. :p

<font color="0000ff">paige></font> you should transfer the money to jenifur ASAP la....she already said those who want to transfer to her le...
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<font color="0000ff">Gina></font> can give me ur contact??? think i emailed u.. but u didnt reply...thanks..

<font color="0000ff">Shelled></font> hahahahha.. u always go out with Jul meh?? hahahahahhaa....
I waS just thinking that since ur bbmall loot are almost given out liaoz.. or issit not???
we might as well have our final gathering when the donuts arrive...
and we can give out all together.....
And then maybe on that day i can get a car... if need be....and i'll go fetch u to take all the loot as well..
hahaha... :p
 
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