Sorry to rant here but think i will go crazy if i keep it to myself.
Very emo just now. Empress mentioned about the maid employment thing again, like who's going to the market, cook, teach the maid etc. She was the one who wanted to get a transfer maid (with experience). Then ask how much are we going to contribute (she say we are a family of 3, not fair if she have to share half of the maid and expenditure). Then contribute to maid le think she will still ask for monthly contribution (i give her $300/mth, hub $250/mth for rent. She use to say the rent is for washing his clothes and HER DAUGHTER for SLEEPING with him when we haven got married. hHAahaHAa. He still give $250 after we get married. She always niam we never do this n that, then i say we do le also same, coz she will only niam when we never do. Also say we treat her like maid. Think we every month give $ very liao bu qi ah? I know elderly tend to nag but she just don't understand what we are facing.) Anyway, she asked a relative of ours to keep a look-out for transfer maid, then i ask her to call (for the past few weeks) the relative first then when we know how much maid will cost us before we can do the "actually" planning. No maid plan for what. Then she go on and on before she made the call today. Plus she go on saying about what my hub(then bf) mentioned during a big fight we had when he flared up. Then i had to say her back, the things she said were even nastier that day, do i have to remember for life? Only remember the negative stuff we do or say, i say she only make herself xin ku and other ppl's life difficult. She has been repeating those sentences whenever she not happy, saying we will not be grateful to her if she help us take care of bb. Some times the food she cook i only eat a bit, like last night. Later got maid cook i also don't eat. She say til like i don't appreciate what she cook. I was like HUH? I am like that during this time mah, not because i choosy or what.. I hungry i eat, i don't starve myself, i eat small meals. I never eat or eat a little doesn't mean i don't appreciate. I was already in tears as i talk to her.
My only concern is housework and bb during n after my maternity leave. Empress not even sure if she going to continue to teach next year. She keep harping on that my hub can sleep earlier n wake up earlier help go market, cook before he goes work in the morning.
This few weeks also ask me go check out hdb flats. Get one. I where got the $? My hub not PR yet meaning he don't have the cpf. Maid already a problem now still want me get a flat. But empress did mentioned about helping out in duno what that concerned $. Wasn't in the mood to listen.
Then i went back to room. I already upset still come in meddle with the video cam wire, say our dog will sleep on it etc. Explained my dog will not sleep on the video cam n wires le, told her not to pull the wire liao. Thinking it was the video cam's plug, she say "never use switch off mah", and went to switch it off. There goes my laptop. I just screamed and cried. I was the one who taught her to switch off electrical appliance switch when not in use, and she think i would waste electricity like that. Then i beg her to leave the room..
Super stressed out with work, $ and other stuffs le. She still want to nag about the past, not helping can? I know she is a bit upset that we 2(my sis n i) can't be as good as other kids who are grads, earn lots of $, bringing their parents out to dine @ nice places and pay for their holiday trips, marry rich guy etc. She got nothing to boast a lot about us to her friends or even relatives. That we are still depending on her for help. I really try to give her what i can. If i have the money, i would employ a maid to help her and even buy a house just for her. (She say raising us cost her duno how many condos)