*delfine*
yes daddy and sisters luv bb v much...everyday eldest gal without fail when back fr sch in the evening, she will say to me: come let me see tummy..(and then she will stroke my tummy)...
hub actually scolded me again yestersday, saying that bb is so korlian and say: do u know that Dr cldn't find bb's bladder?? it's only found at last...and u only care if bb is boy or girl...
well...i really didn't know abt that...for a moment i feel so guilty...
*mama to 6Js*
if one has 10sons, pple will think u are lucky and lihai. on the other hand, with daughters, even i walked passed the coffeeshop, i've ever heard comments in despising tone: all also girls...
as the saying goes: ren2yan2ke3wei4, the impact of others comments and gossiping can be great and hurting...
I luvs my daughters...bt bcoz of them i have to bear many hurtful remarks/comments/treatments also...when i was pregnant with DD2, i was invited by a friend to her son's full month celebration, there my friend's mom asked abt the gender of DD2, when i replied: girl. she remarked: arh...ko si za bor arh? (what? girl again). when i was pregnant with DD3, sil's mil saw that i was pregnant, immediately comment smilingly: wah pregnant...hopefully a boy... blah blah blah...when i replied: girl. her face suddenly become awkward and stop yaking...and many many pple also asked me if if i feel disappointed that #2 and #3 is girl...actually many many stories juz that i cldn't tell it all...i also don't know how i manage to survive through all these comments fr these stupid pple all these yrs...i think it's the support fr hub bah...
*sheryn*
yours the 1st bt mine 4th le...yes i try to think of the good things of having daughters also, daughters more guai, more tiexin, in future no mil-dil relationships prob (sori to all mommies with son if i haf offended u with this remark)...bt if it's really so gd and fantastic, wldn't need to 'console' ownself liao right? irony isn't it...bt thks i know u meant well...
*flower*
ya that's what many think lor, 10 out of 10 pple thought we are trying to 'poh' a son...bt i didn't want this pregnancy in the beginning...we are keeping coz both me and hub are against abortion....and i don't have any pressure fr hub or mil to have boy also...more like pressure fr the surrounding pple with their nasty remarks. even stranger whom i juz know and started a casual chat with will asked/tell me to 'poh' for a son after learning that i already hav 3 daughters...of course i don't care a damn bt will still feel annoying and disturbing...even when i said 3 is enough no matter is son or daughter and i am already not young...they can still reply, no la u still young, can have another one...
I am feeling very puzzled also...no pressure fr mil to bear her a grandson and hub assured me yestersday after seeing that im so 'upset' that even i bored him 10 daughters, he will luv me the same. it doesn't matter and are not bother abt what others say...BUT why am i still feeling so unhappy...why am i always bothered by what other pple say...
PS: sori for being lohsoh, think this is the longest msg i've ever post...