ahnetsan, can understand your feelings and concerns. I also feel that way whenever my MIL handles my boi. There are times I feel like taking him away from her arms. Just last Sunday, she came and played this toy she bought from China with him. It's those traditional chinese rattle with the dangling beads swinging from side to side to hit the centre drum. She always feels offended when she plays with Dylan in my presence so when she comes visiting, so I will go busy with housework or take a shower n stuff. ( when I do this to give her space, she will come n check on what I am doing! Really crazy n I dunno what to do with her oredi.) Apparently, i think that rattle might have scared dylan as he was taken aback. BESIDES THAT IS A DANGEROUS TOY FOR A BABY!!! the swinging beads can hit their eyes when their motor skills are not so developed at this stage to control the toy.
Anyway, Dylan got scared n I wasn't aware n after they left, he refused to sleep, cried non-stop cos he was tired n wanted me to sleep with him for the first time. He has been trained to be left in the cot to fall asleep on his own and I never slept with him at all. I ended up placing him next to me and he held my hands tight before falling asleep. Even then, he kept opening his eyes to check that I am ard. By nite time, he was so exhausted that he just slept thru. But the same thing repeat again the yesterday when I was on leave with him. He wld just hold my hands for his nap time. I hope he is better today at the nanny's. Heart very pain to see him like that, grabbing my hands so tightly and so afraid to let it go. Felt guilty for not protecting him as well.
However, try not to let this issue come between u n hubby. I am sure J will not want his parents to quarrel. I always kept that in mind n not quarrel with my hb over IL's issues as much as possible.
I've already bought quite a few from FP so too late
