Kash,
No lah. I'm not superwoman. Just wanna share that nothing is impossible if a person is determine and strong enough to make the best out of a perceived 'lousy' situation.
Haiz... nowadays some people become parents for the wrong reasons - eg: peer pressure, family pressure, biological clock ticking, etc. Then once they get preggie, got all sorts of hormonal changes, got MS, get moody, they start to blame the poor child.
Then when the child is born, these people still expect to live their same life as before baby came along. Still want to go out as and when they like, happy happy wanna go holiday, still wanna pamper themselves with luxury items.
But suddenly, they realised the time, $$$, all goes to baby and they start to get frustrated and resent the child. Then the stress of looking after baby sets in. Envy starts to grow when they see others 'enjoying' their so-called freedom. Frustrations mounts at being 'stuck' in the situation. Again... they start to blame the poor child for all their perceived 'sufferings'.
But truth be told, the parents should only blame themselves. Blame the parents for not being ready in the first place. Blame the parents for acting childish, for being irresponsible, for being selfish.
I always feel if a person is not ready to get preggie, then take all necessary pre-cautions. Then again, no method is full proof. If you still wanna hv 'fun', then be prepared for the possible evetuality of 'baby'. Dun push the blame to the child. Dun push the blame to others.