(2008/10) Oct 2008
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vanilla_pod_2
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thanks Mousebb.
jellypurin
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morn mommies
hope ur weekend had been good. mine's not so. rebby is down w diarrhea and fever again. dunno what happened... din seemed like a food poisoning issue... she was v fussy and din wanna drink her milk... this morn, i woke up at 4am to discover that she was hvg fever... thot she wld like sm milk since she din drink from 7pm till 4am, instead, she cried and cried... took her downstairs to watch tv n feed her w water n panadol... now, my head is very heavy
hope ur weekend had been good. mine's not so. rebby is down w diarrhea and fever again. dunno what happened... din seemed like a food poisoning issue... she was v fussy and din wanna drink her milk... this morn, i woke up at 4am to discover that she was hvg fever... thot she wld like sm milk since she din drink from 7pm till 4am, instead, she cried and cried... took her downstairs to watch tv n feed her w water n panadol... now, my head is very heavy
pediped vs shoo shoo
I think I still like shoo2's really soft soles. But there're quite difficult to put on, being so soft and all. I haven't tried shoo2's rubber soles so can't compare.
Pediped's sole is harder but they're a dream to put on. They claimed their shoes are like bare feet but the soles being hard leather, how is it like bare feet?
Jo's ok with both though.
I think I still like shoo2's really soft soles. But there're quite difficult to put on, being so soft and all. I haven't tried shoo2's rubber soles so can't compare.
Pediped's sole is harder but they're a dream to put on. They claimed their shoes are like bare feet but the soles being hard leather, how is it like bare feet?
Jo's ok with both though.
jellypurin
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karen/jjmom
i suspect her teeth is sprouting... probably many at one go, including her pre-molars... she's been biting her nuby cup teat these days... her appetite also drop....
re; pediped vx shooshooes
i like them both, but too bad shooshoes almost wldnt fit rebby already...
i suspect her teeth is sprouting... probably many at one go, including her pre-molars... she's been biting her nuby cup teat these days... her appetite also drop....
re; pediped vx shooshooes
i like them both, but too bad shooshoes almost wldnt fit rebby already...
matsu
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<font color="119911">jelly,
Nat's pd told us tat if it's due to teething, fever shdn't be running too high. So if rebby's fever is on the high side, think u better have her check, juz to b on a safe side.
Did rebby has her rotavirus jab? juz worry abt stomach flu...touch wood thou =P
anyway u don't b too hard on yourself yah, don't b shy to ask for any help tat u can get *hugz*</font>
Nat's pd told us tat if it's due to teething, fever shdn't be running too high. So if rebby's fever is on the high side, think u better have her check, juz to b on a safe side.
Did rebby has her rotavirus jab? juz worry abt stomach flu...touch wood thou =P
anyway u don't b too hard on yourself yah, don't b shy to ask for any help tat u can get *hugz*</font>
jellypurin
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morn mommies
jjmom
her fever highest recorded is 38.8... will hv my parents bring her to pd... she will wake up in the middle of the nite n scream and scream!
now, my tunr... my sinus visiting me cos lack of slp
and i realised that sometimes, husbands are so useless..
jjmom
her fever highest recorded is 38.8... will hv my parents bring her to pd... she will wake up in the middle of the nite n scream and scream!
now, my tunr... my sinus visiting me cos lack of slp
and i realised that sometimes, husbands are so useless..
pig_pig
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<font color="aa00aa">Jelly
Hope rebby recover soon.
Sounds like rebby is going thru teething process but then my kids' PD mentioned before if the fever is associated with teething, it shouldnt go until 38 degrees. It could be virus infection in this case. Maybe good to bring rebby to see a PD soon if she is still having diarrhea and fever.</font>
Hope rebby recover soon.
Sounds like rebby is going thru teething process but then my kids' PD mentioned before if the fever is associated with teething, it shouldnt go until 38 degrees. It could be virus infection in this case. Maybe good to bring rebby to see a PD soon if she is still having diarrhea and fever.</font>
pig_pig
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<font color="aa00aa">Trace
Is Arielle feeling better? Haha! Arielle zhen ai mei! My gal behaves in the same way too. Each time when I open up a parcel with her new clothes or shoes, she would immediately pull her romper and want me to change into her new clothes for her. That day when I just received her new hk crocs shoes, she immediately made a lot of noise and want me to put on her new shoes. But the kiasu mummy has bought a size bigger for her so she couldnt walk in her big shoes and she threw tantrums for that!</font>
Is Arielle feeling better? Haha! Arielle zhen ai mei! My gal behaves in the same way too. Each time when I open up a parcel with her new clothes or shoes, she would immediately pull her romper and want me to change into her new clothes for her. That day when I just received her new hk crocs shoes, she immediately made a lot of noise and want me to put on her new shoes. But the kiasu mummy has bought a size bigger for her so she couldnt walk in her big shoes and she threw tantrums for that!</font>
jellypurin
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karen
it's good Jo allows u to feel her gums. rebby would be shutting her mouth tight! i cant feel a thing.
mousebb
ya, parents bringing her to PD today. me also v tired n sian... angry w my hubby as well...
it's good Jo allows u to feel her gums. rebby would be shutting her mouth tight! i cant feel a thing.
mousebb
ya, parents bringing her to PD today. me also v tired n sian... angry w my hubby as well...
jellypurin
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bluey
said what i need to say many times liao... he still dun get it... what made me v angry was on sunday morn, i told him to clean rebby up since she poop... he does not know how to do it properly (until now!!!) and i told him u hv 6 more months to practice... he said, nah, i will ask the maid (whom i had yet to hire)... i said dun behave like ur BIL, k... who dun look after the kids and just does his own things... then he told me... then dun have anymore children lor!
said what i need to say many times liao... he still dun get it... what made me v angry was on sunday morn, i told him to clean rebby up since she poop... he does not know how to do it properly (until now!!!) and i told him u hv 6 more months to practice... he said, nah, i will ask the maid (whom i had yet to hire)... i said dun behave like ur BIL, k... who dun look after the kids and just does his own things... then he told me... then dun have anymore children lor!
bigflamingo
Member
morning everyone!
jellypurin
New Member
bluey
ya... he is like that... he will do what he feels like doing... and that i why i hv nothing to speak to him recently, because i had enough! he helps in certain ways that he thinks he can help... if he does not want to do, then no one can force him.
ya... he is like that... he will do what he feels like doing... and that i why i hv nothing to speak to him recently, because i had enough! he helps in certain ways that he thinks he can help... if he does not want to do, then no one can force him.
bigflamingo
Member
Buffy,
I have PMed you my order. thanks! No worries if you have to cancel the ss order due to low demand. I am also online shopping for bamboo material short-sleeved pajamas. Heard bamboo is even cooler than cotton. wonder if its true
I have PMed you my order. thanks! No worries if you have to cancel the ss order due to low demand. I am also online shopping for bamboo material short-sleeved pajamas. Heard bamboo is even cooler than cotton. wonder if its true
<font color="0077aa">Jelly: dun get so upset ok? Esp now that u are also tired and not feeling well. Hmmm... As for Hubbies, not sure how many hands on hubbies u ladies know / lucky enough to have but the feedback that I get from most of my colleagues and friends are they are not as hands on as us. Most of the time, will just play. And some of their "play" time is actually in front of the TV with the bub. But I personally find that a poor excuse. 
Having said that, I am sorry to hear that esp you must be tired too with #2 in the oven. Is there anyone who can help? When is yr maid coming? Or what about getting a PT maid for household chores and then u can spend a bit of time resting / tending to rebby instead of doing everything on your own?</font>
Having said that, I am sorry to hear that esp you must be tired too with #2 in the oven. Is there anyone who can help? When is yr maid coming? Or what about getting a PT maid for household chores and then u can spend a bit of time resting / tending to rebby instead of doing everything on your own?</font>
jellypurin
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bigflamingo
if u r ordering anything organic and bamboo, can u let me know? am quite interested to get some slip ons for #2...
if u r ordering anything organic and bamboo, can u let me know? am quite interested to get some slip ons for #2...
jellypurin
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buffy
we actually agreed that we will hire 2nd helper in apr... i mean i know he is trying his best, but it is really poor excuse indeed... like since rebby was sick since last wed, he continued to play basketball yesterday w/o even asking do u need me to stay home to help you out since i am pregnant and my mom is bz spring cleaning... he went ahead anyways regardless of how i was feeling... he needs his "me" time more than i need mine... so what can i say?
we actually agreed that we will hire 2nd helper in apr... i mean i know he is trying his best, but it is really poor excuse indeed... like since rebby was sick since last wed, he continued to play basketball yesterday w/o even asking do u need me to stay home to help you out since i am pregnant and my mom is bz spring cleaning... he went ahead anyways regardless of how i was feeling... he needs his "me" time more than i need mine... so what can i say?
vanilla_pod_2
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hi jelly - hope reb gets better. I think there is some virus going on.. yup if fever above 38 better see doc. that day my son recovered from a throat virus...
re hb - ignore is the best.. good thing u have ur parents for help. maybe that is why he so hands off cos u have help for reb. dun worry when 2nd one comes along, make him take care of Reb while u take care of 2nd one.. that is the arrangement my fren has. So when he meets my hb for coffee, his 1st one tags along...he can meet my hb at night after 1st one sleeps.
re hb - ignore is the best.. good thing u have ur parents for help. maybe that is why he so hands off cos u have help for reb. dun worry when 2nd one comes along, make him take care of Reb while u take care of 2nd one.. that is the arrangement my fren has. So when he meets my hb for coffee, his 1st one tags along...he can meet my hb at night after 1st one sleeps.
jellypurin
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vanilla
ya, my hubby said he will look after #1, but these few months... afetr seeing what is happening, am not sure. i am contemplating of hiring my helper earlier so that i can cope with #2 when he is on the way, otherwise, i am so beaten up... i seemed to be the only person parenting my ger and looking after her other than my parents... and my parents are not like young so i hv to think for them...
this morning, reb woke up screaming and screaming. my mom came down to help me out for an hour before i whisk her off to bed after she fell aslp. that one hour, i felt so depressed... i almost burst out crying, just thinking how far can i go and i am so early into my pregnancy...
ya, my hubby said he will look after #1, but these few months... afetr seeing what is happening, am not sure. i am contemplating of hiring my helper earlier so that i can cope with #2 when he is on the way, otherwise, i am so beaten up... i seemed to be the only person parenting my ger and looking after her other than my parents... and my parents are not like young so i hv to think for them...
this morning, reb woke up screaming and screaming. my mom came down to help me out for an hour before i whisk her off to bed after she fell aslp. that one hour, i felt so depressed... i almost burst out crying, just thinking how far can i go and i am so early into my pregnancy...
thebusybee
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Jelly, you must have felt so alone and helpless. Maybe let your hubs know how you really feel, no need to be subtle. He will probably step up when he knows how u really feel.
Buffy, thanks again for coordinating the spree.
Buffy, thanks again for coordinating the spree.
bigflamingo
Member
Hi Jelly!
I made my order two days ago for 4 sets of short-sleeved organic bamboo PJs from the US. If I find them good, I will order again,and will be happy to include you in, but it won't be till like a month later leh.
If you can't wait till then, here's the website...
http://www.limeblossomnaturals.com/
I made my order two days ago for 4 sets of short-sleeved organic bamboo PJs from the US. If I find them good, I will order again,and will be happy to include you in, but it won't be till like a month later leh.
If you can't wait till then, here's the website...
vanilla_pod_2
Active Member
hi jelly - men is like that... they need their "me" time more than women..i used to be v pissed off but then again i benefit cos son is closer to me..
he will learn..just tell him to be more sensitive..sometimes they take things for granted
he will learn..just tell him to be more sensitive..sometimes they take things for granted
jellypurin
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busybee
i tried... it's a phase as well... been thru it when i was pregnant w rebby. i just hv 2 remain strong despite all these challanges i am facing...
i tried... it's a phase as well... been thru it when i was pregnant w rebby. i just hv 2 remain strong despite all these challanges i am facing...
jellypurin
New Member
bigflamingo
i can wait... i hv 6mths b4 i can pop... keke
vanilla
ya, my ger is closer to me as well... am not complaining just that with work n home, am just not handling things v well... but i will take a step at a time...
i can wait... i hv 6mths b4 i can pop... keke
vanilla
ya, my ger is closer to me as well... am not complaining just that with work n home, am just not handling things v well... but i will take a step at a time...
vanilla_pod_2
Active Member
Hi jelly.. sometimes hb need to learn. when i was staying w my mil, my hb likes to ask her to help while he does his stuff.. but now we staying alone, he knows he has to help out. so when they are caught in the situation, they will learn though it will be the hard way. Now ur hb still dilly dally cos ur parents are still w u to help u out. If he is alone w u and ur 2nd one is here, he will pull his socks and help out.
I think ur tiredness and hormones too are making u more weepy.. dont wory too much k cos I knwo ur hb will be ur right and left hand man once ur 2nd one is here.
I think ur tiredness and hormones too are making u more weepy.. dont wory too much k cos I knwo ur hb will be ur right and left hand man once ur 2nd one is here.
vanilla_pod_2
Active Member
hi jelly - i understand tt u not complaining.. just want to get it off ur system sometimes.. hee hee that is one of the main aim of this forum. only as mummies we understand each other
jellypurin
New Member
vanilla
ya lor... MEN!
mousebb
we jiayou together... it's tough... that is why the song always goes "shi shang zhi you ma ma hao"!
ya lor... MEN!
mousebb
we jiayou together... it's tough... that is why the song always goes "shi shang zhi you ma ma hao"!
bigflamingo
Member
Jelly,
Haiz..men and their "me time"
Dump baby on him for a day and go shopping! He will appreciate you after babysitting..
Cool! The clothes look very on the website. remind me about the bamboo clothes in a mth if i forget!
Haiz..men and their "me time"
Dump baby on him for a day and go shopping! He will appreciate you after babysitting..
Cool! The clothes look very on the website. remind me about the bamboo clothes in a mth if i forget!
bigflamingo
Member
oops..i meant the clothes look very comfy...
Jelly,
Oh dear, i understand ur feel, but dun be "disheartened" first. Give ur HB more time, am sure he will change eventually, maybe he still din sense the "urgency" in helping you out, coz he may think #2 wont come out so fast, he can still slack. Guys always like that de.
Share with you my case. My HB used to be very hands-on during first few month into parenthood, coz we both are new, no experience, he has to help out especially we have no helper at all. But after few months of practice, when I become more "experienced" and his project started, he seldom take care of my son's "needs" but still play with him and help out when he is free or upon my request. He is still a good father I would say, but due to the work commitments, there is nothing much he can do. So naturally, Isaac is closer to me and refuse daddy sometime.
Things change after I started my new job recently. Before this, we normally send Isaac to nanny’s place ard 8am on weekdays before off for work at 9am. But for my new job, I need to report work at 8am in some days, meaning that I have to leave for office by 7am in the morning. So there is 1hr period that we need to have some “special arrangement” before sending Isaac to nanny. The only arrangement we can do is let daddy take care of his son lo. Now, problems arise, instead of “playing” and help me out, HB will be the only caregiver for Isaac during that 1hr period of time. It sounds short, but to my HB, it is quite challenging to handle his son alone for 1hr. The hardest part is he needs to get himself ready for work, at the same time attend to his son’s needs e.g, changing diaper or feeding him before sending him to nanny at 8am. HB also worried he may have difficulty to go toilet w/o anyone there to keep an eyes on his precious. Anyway, we went thru this transition period, and you may amazed how “good” ur HB can be, like my case.
What my HB do now is, he will wake up together with me ard 6am, we have Bfast together and he get himself ready (go toilet, change etc) before 7am. After sending me off, he will just do his things while waiting for his son to wake up. He has no problem changing and feeding Isaac after few trials. Initially he still worried he cant change him well (especially after he poo) coz Isaac will twist and turn sometimes when changing diaper. Haha….HB ever told me in order not to mess things up, he will bring Isaac with soiled diaper to nanny’s place, let nanny changes him! *diaoz* But u see, they will still find their way out eventually. Last wed another new experience for daddy and son. My nanny was on leave to attend her grandma’s funeral. I cant take leave and we almost activated my MIL from JB. Guess what, HB asked me to give him a chance to try out. Initially I was very uncomfy with the idea, as HB needs to take care of his son for WHOLE DAY! Am glad we tried out, HB did a great job! Besides bathing and changing, he fed his son well, brought him out to playground and managed to make him nap twice, 2hrs each. Am so proud of him! The only “drawback” is he din feed Isaac porridge coz HB dunno how to cook, he fed him yoghurt only. *faintz* Heng my nanny very nice, she cooked the porridge for Isaac after back from funeral.
Jelly, talk to ur HB again and let him try. You will surprise how much they can perform in “critical time”. I also cant stop worried when we first tried out, u dunno how much I spent in my phone bills, haha….i called very very frequently to check on both of them. Am very happy to share that now both daddy and son getting closer coz they have chance/forced to bond! Am sure ur HB can do well or even better than mine. Jiayou! Sorry for the long post.
Oh dear, i understand ur feel, but dun be "disheartened" first. Give ur HB more time, am sure he will change eventually, maybe he still din sense the "urgency" in helping you out, coz he may think #2 wont come out so fast, he can still slack. Guys always like that de.
Share with you my case. My HB used to be very hands-on during first few month into parenthood, coz we both are new, no experience, he has to help out especially we have no helper at all. But after few months of practice, when I become more "experienced" and his project started, he seldom take care of my son's "needs" but still play with him and help out when he is free or upon my request. He is still a good father I would say, but due to the work commitments, there is nothing much he can do. So naturally, Isaac is closer to me and refuse daddy sometime.
Things change after I started my new job recently. Before this, we normally send Isaac to nanny’s place ard 8am on weekdays before off for work at 9am. But for my new job, I need to report work at 8am in some days, meaning that I have to leave for office by 7am in the morning. So there is 1hr period that we need to have some “special arrangement” before sending Isaac to nanny. The only arrangement we can do is let daddy take care of his son lo. Now, problems arise, instead of “playing” and help me out, HB will be the only caregiver for Isaac during that 1hr period of time. It sounds short, but to my HB, it is quite challenging to handle his son alone for 1hr. The hardest part is he needs to get himself ready for work, at the same time attend to his son’s needs e.g, changing diaper or feeding him before sending him to nanny at 8am. HB also worried he may have difficulty to go toilet w/o anyone there to keep an eyes on his precious. Anyway, we went thru this transition period, and you may amazed how “good” ur HB can be, like my case.
What my HB do now is, he will wake up together with me ard 6am, we have Bfast together and he get himself ready (go toilet, change etc) before 7am. After sending me off, he will just do his things while waiting for his son to wake up. He has no problem changing and feeding Isaac after few trials. Initially he still worried he cant change him well (especially after he poo) coz Isaac will twist and turn sometimes when changing diaper. Haha….HB ever told me in order not to mess things up, he will bring Isaac with soiled diaper to nanny’s place, let nanny changes him! *diaoz* But u see, they will still find their way out eventually. Last wed another new experience for daddy and son. My nanny was on leave to attend her grandma’s funeral. I cant take leave and we almost activated my MIL from JB. Guess what, HB asked me to give him a chance to try out. Initially I was very uncomfy with the idea, as HB needs to take care of his son for WHOLE DAY! Am glad we tried out, HB did a great job! Besides bathing and changing, he fed his son well, brought him out to playground and managed to make him nap twice, 2hrs each. Am so proud of him! The only “drawback” is he din feed Isaac porridge coz HB dunno how to cook, he fed him yoghurt only. *faintz* Heng my nanny very nice, she cooked the porridge for Isaac after back from funeral.
Jelly, talk to ur HB again and let him try. You will surprise how much they can perform in “critical time”. I also cant stop worried when we first tried out, u dunno how much I spent in my phone bills, haha….i called very very frequently to check on both of them. Am very happy to share that now both daddy and son getting closer coz they have chance/forced to bond! Am sure ur HB can do well or even better than mine. Jiayou! Sorry for the long post.
vanilla_pod_2
Active Member
hi bigflamingo - the only worry is a phone call asking u to come home asap...
haha my fren has 15 missed calls when she is into her first course during the weddining dinner.. her hb said she needs to come home to make her son sleep!
haha my fren has 15 missed calls when she is into her first course during the weddining dinner.. her hb said she needs to come home to make her son sleep!
matsu
Active Member
<font color="119911">jelly,
i also find tat most mothers r far more self-sacrificing than most father & i also agree tat they seems to need more 'me' time all the time %(&%*%!!! but having said tat, there r times tat i wonder if fathers r 'given' enough chances to 'prove' themselves.
Like vanilla said, mayb your hubby thought u have enough help at home so he is more lax on helping out with rebby.
& if he is 'suddenly needed' to help out when rebby is sick & more fussy, he may not b able to cope so he stressed & talk 'rubbish' =P
better to assign him some simple chore during normal days & slowly increase *evil smile* then when 'E' day comes, he will then b more confident in what he can help.
my man is the same too, i need to tell him what he can do to help out, how to do the job, a zillon times later, he will then start his auto mode w/o me asking de (-_-)''
Voice out your displeasure abt him gng out w/o asking if u need help, him not waking to help out when rebby cry. Mayb he thought u & your mom can cope & he is of no help anyway so behaved like tat? Have to tell him, don't assume he knows how u feel, tat's what my hubby told me. Guess tat men
Anyway u don't get too upset over this lah, take care of yourself & didi, more impt *hugz*</font>
i also find tat most mothers r far more self-sacrificing than most father & i also agree tat they seems to need more 'me' time all the time %(&%*%!!! but having said tat, there r times tat i wonder if fathers r 'given' enough chances to 'prove' themselves.
Like vanilla said, mayb your hubby thought u have enough help at home so he is more lax on helping out with rebby.
& if he is 'suddenly needed' to help out when rebby is sick & more fussy, he may not b able to cope so he stressed & talk 'rubbish' =P
better to assign him some simple chore during normal days & slowly increase *evil smile* then when 'E' day comes, he will then b more confident in what he can help.
my man is the same too, i need to tell him what he can do to help out, how to do the job, a zillon times later, he will then start his auto mode w/o me asking de (-_-)''
Voice out your displeasure abt him gng out w/o asking if u need help, him not waking to help out when rebby cry. Mayb he thought u & your mom can cope & he is of no help anyway so behaved like tat? Have to tell him, don't assume he knows how u feel, tat's what my hubby told me. Guess tat men
Anyway u don't get too upset over this lah, take care of yourself & didi, more impt *hugz*</font>
whitepaper
Active Member
jelly
hugz hugz..........
hugz hugz..........
whitepaper
Active Member
phtanus... i fully agree with your post
reminds me of the book "How to keep baby alive before your wife comes back"
reminds me of the book "How to keep baby alive before your wife comes back"
bigflamingo
Member
Vanilla...
ooops...mobile phone no battery.... (evil smile)
ooops...mobile phone no battery.... (evil smile)
jellypurin
New Member
phtanus
ur hubby is able to respond and adpat to the change needed and that is really good... on one hand, i spoke to my hubby abt it already... if there is an overused word at my work place that i can use, it would be due diligence. said what i could but i think it is his nature he is not the nurturing father figure, no doubt i think he is trying... still, when i look at myself, i am working harder at the office, i faced more pressure than him bcos my customers are demanding and i am still handling my bb at night most of the time... think that is wearing me down...just the frequent lack of rest and all that is probably driving me off course too...
ur hubby is able to respond and adpat to the change needed and that is really good... on one hand, i spoke to my hubby abt it already... if there is an overused word at my work place that i can use, it would be due diligence. said what i could but i think it is his nature he is not the nurturing father figure, no doubt i think he is trying... still, when i look at myself, i am working harder at the office, i faced more pressure than him bcos my customers are demanding and i am still handling my bb at night most of the time... think that is wearing me down...just the frequent lack of rest and all that is probably driving me off course too...