Re: Legal Issue.
Ladies,
I understand that it has come to an ugly situation but do allow me to say my piece, my views and the kind of support as what I got.
First and foremost, it is already very upsetting that Erica caught chicken pox from my nephew despite of my attempts and precaution by keeping her away and crawling around the house with dettol wipes try to wipe anything that my nephew came in contact with. It is very very tiring to be honest that apart from taking care of Erica, I had to deal with the house reno, and yet going around the house after my nephew's contact with anything, and to bring erica out everyday n return late so as to keep her safe. I admit that I am too tired and I overlook the fact that as Erica had minimum contact with my nephew, it should be safe to bring her out for any gatherings. And when I brought her to the Hi tea that time, the day before that, my nephew had already been granted the clearance to go back to school on that day. So on my part I assumed that the whole episode is over and since I didn't detect any pox on Erica, she is safe. Never did I expect her to catch it last Sat. To date, my husband can even tell me that even that her chicken pox, it might not be from my nephew itself but she probably caught it outside because we had been going out everyday. Which is why even I curse and swear at my nephew and his parents for causing it to Erica, he told me that it is just Erica's immunity not strong and since it happened, we just try to take it very positively rather than all the blamings which lead me to no where. I managed to cool down and think it over and try to agree that what he said made sense although I am still very unhappy about it.
When I came to the forum, I do agree that I am in the wrong but what saddens me most is that the usual group of people I hang out with most, rather than trying to be understanding, the response I got was here and there trying to quote from my postings simply to make things worse than it already it. I understand that everyone of us is very protective of our babies which is why everyone is so angry. I kept trying to apologise and explained but it just didn't stop. My emotions range from upset, to anger, to frustrations, to want to bo chup, and simply not knowing what everyone wants anymore becos I feel that we had been very childish to behave this way although we are worried about our own babies.
When I called for a stop and try to stay away, the problem didn't stop there but on Wednesday, my april thread friend msg me that she read about the dispute already when I said it's ok lah. But on thursday, my gf who was aware of the whole situation and had been following what is going silently, saw that someone had created an account by the name of babylover111 and posted in AMK thread simply to spread about this dispute. Which is why my gf spoke to her bf and her bf believed that someone simply didn't want to let things rest and came into the forum to access the situation. Not to mention our personal blogs in which he discovered that CHoc had been cyberstalking me.
We had a msn conference and he suggested me to post the unofficial legal explaination to choc and let her know that the way she is trying to make life difficult to me, the 3 standings could be used against her because for point 1, she had already knew that I am very stressed up these period of time and while she is posting in april thread to invite readers, it is an action that in the eyes of the law that she is trying to gain support to deal with me.
For point 2 as defamation, the actions of point 1 and point 3 stand against her because she posted in her own blog that she saw me posting in other threads and said that she wanted to expose me. And for point 3 as cyberbulling, the definations of cyberbulling includes cyberstalking in attempts to cause phychologicial disturbance to by defaming me. Further saying that I tried to act like an Angel in her blog, den in the forum said I tried to gain pity which wasn't true. I had been grumbling about my house reno, tiredness for the longest time and it is just finding an outlet for frustrations.
He told me that by posting that, he hopes that Choc will realized that she is carrying things out of the May thread already and the damage had been done because of the statistic of her blog entries had increased and comments were made against the issue.
None of us wants to pursue things this far and he mentioned to me that of cos if I choose to pursue, he stand to gain because he have an extra suit to boost his portfolio, plus he will earn money if I win the suit although he is willing to do it FOC for me. But he said that speaking as a friend to me rather than an advisor, he is also in the same favor as me simply hoping that things will come to a stop after posting that.
Alice, Doris,
I believe that we hang out together before and if u guys do know me as a personal friend, I am always someone who tries to "ren" through things if I can. Not only to friends but towards own family as if from our own personal conversations. I may grumble and complain about stuff like my pils, hubby, parents sometimes, but end of the day, I always said that haiz, nvm lah, over liao, let me cool down first and eventually I always let things go. This is the reason why I am very much sadden when choc, jo and doris were there copying my postings and rebuking on it leaving it no end. And it further saddens me when Choc tried to post it in April thread to invite more readers. This action to me is totally irrelevant because I feel that she is blowing things up not even when Raphael has caught any pox yet. I understand that she is angry because I mocked at her over her command of English language and I am willing to apologise for that because I am very pissed off at that moment and it was a spiteful sentence.
Honestly, I hope that Choc have a good time over at her getaway and when she returns, her anger had simmer down and we'll really put everything to rest liao. It is really psychological damaging to everyone because everyone comes into the forum to chat, share and kill time and it's very unhappy when we turn this place into a battle ground.
Doris,
I know it is causing a negative image on myself especially having to resort to legal actions and trust me on this, it is the last resort liao as I felt that it is very unfair to me that even after I called to stop many times and apologise, but she went out trying to stir up more trouble by posting in other threads to invite readers citing that I am an irresponsible mother.
Likewise, as what my best friend's bf had mentioned, it takes 2 hands to clap, 2 mouths to quarrel and 2 weapons to fight. This dispute, initially I was the only one at fault but after I tried to explain myself, all the citing of sentences had put choc, jo, and you at fault already because initially all of you wanted to display your happiness but ended up it serves more like a fault finding already. No anger ok? This was told to me from an outsider's point of view.
Alice,
Thanks for standing at a neutral point of view although Rachel and you were present at the gathering. Really appreciate that~
If possible, I seriously rather we sort this out ourselves rather than in this forum becos we ended up implicating other forumers to this unhappiness. U let me know again bah.
Cheri, Buttercup,
Yup, I'll try to stay away and hope that time will heal everything and soother the situation. This way, I can move house in a peaceful mind also. But meanwhile, I ask for a fair way of retreat such so that this period of time while I stay away, no one is out there trying to harden the situation. Fair?
Von,
Trust me man, I almost thought I was in heaven when I opened my eyes after the c-section. Cos of the bright lights shining right into my eyes. Muahaha... But the incision pain shoke me back to reality that I merely went through labour nia. Wah, so shoik ah, only 4 hrs?
It's mainly my fault lah, who ask me to act hero and said I dun want Epidural cos I see alot of mummies can do it without Epi and I tell myself, if ppl can do it, so can I. But after 7 hrs, I surrender liao cos the midwives told me if I continue not to take Epi, I cannot rest and by the time the baby supposed to be out, I got no more strength to push liao. So bo bian I took Epi loh. But heng I took ah, becos e next 12 hrs Erica still nv come out. Imagine if I 19 hrs of pain, I can die liao...
I was talking in my gynae's thread thinking tt I'm probably the most hystical patient he met liao. Then they told me no wor, someone actually kicked him when he told the patient he's gonna cut her up. LOL... Den my hubby said, he charge so ex, kanna kicked also nothing one lah, cos money inside pocket liao. True hor, gynae earns gd money wor...
Erica ok lah. Thank God... Gimme one more baby, I opt for c-sec liao. Dun wanna "bai shou zui" liao. Keke...
