hi emily, i undertand ur concern, cos' i got no one to take care too, i leave my boy with my maid with almost no supervision at all, cos' my maid can only go visit at most once a week, some weeks if she's tied up or tired after work, she don't go. I hope you get a good maid, get someone who has kids are better, though she will miss her kids initially, it will only get better as time goes by. I find maid with kids can take care and understand babies better. Most impt, have close communication with your maid. Yesterday i asked her if she feels fustrated when Sam cries and cranky whole day, she said, "nolah mum, it's normal. I have my own kids too and i know it's like that." I told her it's impt for me to know how she feels, if she can't take it, then we must know how to resolve the situation. So far Sam likes my maid and can hear him giggle away when she bath/wipe or change him. If can, choose a maid who can accept no off day, cos' once you let them go out, they will 'chut' alot of patterns liao. Compensate in other ways, ie. celebrate b'day for maid and buy her gift on her b'day. My maid requested to go out with her cousin/auntie in singapore, i told her no and reason with her why. 1stly she has no $$, still receiving $20/mth allowance and she uses her $$ to buy phone card(we decided to let her use her hp to communicate with her family) and toiletries and some clothes. She still owe me $58 as i paid for her first to buy some tees and bras. Then she is not familiar with Singapore and it's our responsibility to take care of her well being. We told her next year then see how, will review if can let her go out on her b'day. I told her also there is a terrorist at large, she don't want to be caught by him right?! *hee* *hee*
I will pray that you will get a good maid to assist you.
