Hi all,
Its been quite a while I had came to this this thread. I have lots to read now.. hee
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The pink dress is very pretty leh.. Where is this Spring shop located? Can I go see see also? hee..
I also cracking head wat to wear for a wedding dinner next Saturday..
Btw, to all mummies here, now is the period that all of us will be in for a detail scan sooner or later.. and it also meant the sex of the baby will be announced to u..
I would like to share with you a story of mine.. Its not meant to scare any of u but hope that after reading my story, U will be more open to whether isit a boy or a girl given to u..
This 19week old baby I am carrying now is my second baby..
My hubby and I got married last year Jan and found that I am pregnant in Feb.. We were extremely happy.. I was hopeful and really wish to have a baby girl at that time.. my hubby was neutral..
Everything went fine until my detailed scan scheduled on 24th May.. The radiologist told me that my baby is a boy.. I was abit disappointed with that.. After that, the radiologist hand to us a report and jus told us that the doctor will explain the report to us.. Being a nurse, I opened the report and peek and noticed that the heart, brain and Gastrointestinal portion was left empty.. while the other areas like limbs, growth was indicated as normal..
I hand the report to my doctor and she immediately send me for a fetal anomaly scan by a consultant specialise in fetal abnormalities. As the doc did the scan, he revealed to us that my baby has a cyst in the brain, two major holes in the heart and the intestines are outside the body.. All these hit us hard. I broke down immediately. The disappointment of the gender is no longer on my mind..
The next moment for us is decision of what to do next. Doctor suggest us to go for an amniocentesis test to find out the actual cause of the defects, but I rejected it on the spot, thinking that I wan to keep the baby so no point doin it. The doc then explain to us it will be good for us to do it so that even if we wan to keep the baby, they will know how to manage the baby's problem when born.
my hubby and I only have one direction in mind.. that is to keep the baby as long as we can.. We know its goin to be difficult.. thinking of the finance, the care, the baby's pain aspects.. we still wan to keep the baby..the next day morning, I ask my hubby to accompany me for the amniocentesis test..
The wait for the result was agonizing..The doc told us there are only 3 possible results..1. Down syndrome where baby can survive.. 2. Edward Syndrome.. 3. Patau syndrome where in both cases babies never get to survive, he will die in the womb or shortly after birth..
Many of our family members, relatives and friends strongly urged us to abort our baby even though we made it clear we were keeping him. They felt that we were being brash without considering the consequences of keeping the baby, such as the huge financial, physical and mental burden. The pressure was intense. We guess it did not matter to them that every parent who goes through an abortion will be haunted by the guilt of killing their own child. We were extremely disappointed we didn't get the support we hoped for.
We named our boy Joshua,, which means God saves.. During this period, we prayed every single day that a miracle will happen.. or at least give us a down syndrome baby.. Dun let our baby die..
About two weeks later, the nurse from the fetal anomaly called me on my hp and told me the result is out early. Our baby had edward syndrome.. which means he will not survive at all.. he will leave us very soon.. but we dunno when..
After this, we only focus on talking to our baby while he is in my womb, my hubby will read bible story and sing to him every night. Joshua sometimes will still kick me strongly.. He last kick me on my birthday on 5th July when the doc did a doppler check, he kicked off the doppler probe and even the doc says WOW! what a strong kick!
After that, there is no more kick, we went to see doc a few times but doc say he still has a heartbeat..
On 3rd Aug, we went for a normal check up and doc says.. no more heartbeat and nature has taken its course.. our baby has left..
On 5th Aug, Joshua was borned with an induced labour..
Thats the end of my story.. This is a very painful yet beautiful experience for us..
My hubby and I went thru a chromosome test but doc say both of us are normal.. the first baby has problem should be jus mere unlucky..
To us, we learned alot from it.. Now that we r having our second child, gender to us is not an issue to us anymore.. whats improtant is our baby has a heartbeat or not.. and whether everything is fine or not..
I hope this story does not scare anyone.. I jus hope all of us will treasure what we have even more dearly into our heart
