(2006/07) JULY 2006 MTB

Thanks huh.. thanks for ur wellwishes.

Peach - Yah can tell venice and kristen enjoy the class, they are all smiling
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Hong - BJG now only got branch at Bukit Batok.
 


Peachsorbet,
she just resigned; and she only take care half day and she have her life on Saturday for MJ.

Ya agreed with u our Bills very EX. Thanks to the selfish SIL. 1 piece of towel also throw into machine. And she is SAHMS , she simply dump her 1 yr old boy to play alone and play game with her 5 yr old son or read "YELLOW" story book. Then she will complain got alot of housework to do.. mop floor etc MY FOOT !! She just mop open area and her own room . ( nt clean at all) Then complain got to help us ( Parent and my HB ) to take the clothes down from Bamboo pole if nt she cannot wash clothes. TV can ON from the moment she wakes up till she go to bed.

FYI, my bill can shot up to $400 a month. My mother pay for housing instalment and utilities. I wanted to work and study hard so that can earn more $$ to support a bit but they don't seem to understand.

Before BB born, I work almost every weekend for HPB roadshow earning only $8 per hour. Study at my HB shop after work, sometime too tired just doze off at his shop. Hiaz..
 
pm, zlia
happy belated birthday!

sandy
just an advice, if you keep harping and dwelling on the negative side of having your baby, it will just get worse. Instead, try to see how you can work things out. It's just a passing phase, things will get much better when our babies get older. Imagine, some couples cannot even have a baby no matter how hard they try. We should really love and pamper our precious darlings. As for parents helping to look after our kids, well, they are really not obligated to. maybe u can explain to ur hubby why it is necessary to put ur baby in infant care.
 
Sandy,
u are a hardworking ger. Ur hard work will pay off. Dun do silly thing, u must live to see ur success.

If ur parents dun appreciate it then be it. They may realise it later.

Peach.. ops.

Zlia, Happy belated bday.

PM,
Pasir ris branch buy BJG program. I just called the Bukit Batok branch. Look like very hard to get the Pasir Ris. I think i give it a miss.. BB is too far for us.
 
Hi Zita, Thanks for sharing the pictures. I must bring camera next time. Keep forgetting to bring..

I love the Kindermusik also. It's on my list but not too sure if I wan to enrol baby now or wait till he's bigger. .. I could sing to him at home for the moment.. ha ha.. Looking forward to other trial.
 
Sandy,
yep, you are a very diligent lady. I believe your hardwork will pay off ... Meanwhile, try not to be too hard on yourself and don't do anything to hurt yourself. Have to spare a thought for your little one. Things will definitely turn for the better ... jia you .. we will lend you our ears/eyes
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MTDT,
Yes, I think so too....probably will consider when Kaylyn can walk..cos really too tiring for us parents..majiam acrobatics manz...too bad Kaylyn was sleepy during the class..she's so 'stone'..no reaction from her at all..so dunno if she's interested or not...but the moment we reached McDonalds, she energetic again..hiaz..

Can see Lala's gal & venice enjoys the class a lot hor..keep laughing.

Wat's the next age category? Mayb we can organise another trial class next time.

Hong,
Zita is our professional forum photographer leh..her pix always turn out very nice!

PM,
Happy belated Birthday!! Y did u tell us yesterday? We could have celebrate wif u wif a cake...heehee..

Dear Sandy,
Oh dear! I agree wif the rest of the mummy. If u r too stress out coping wif work, studies & bb, y not defer ur studies? We r only human beings...& there's only so much we can take. Probably when ur boy is older, u can resume ur studies?
Being a mummy is never easy. Am sure all the mummies in the forum agree to tat. However, since we give life to our little baby, we have to assume the responsibilities, with help or not...I also dun have help from parents or inlaws...my hb travels frequently, but I try to cope...I've not gone for haircuts for ages,not to mention facial (which is non-existance). But looking back, I'm proud of my achievements.
I can anticipate tat u'll have more probs when u move out alone..cos other than work, studies & bb. U still have take care of the hsework, clean, cook, iron clothings etc..etc...& it's nvr ending!! At least for now, ur mum cleans the hse?
I advise u to see a doc for ur depression. I had it once during my confinement, and it's really a bad feeling cos really hard to control our emotions. And we might do something bad to our love ones...
 
Sandy
I personally agreed with Hong that u need professional advice.
I believe everyone have stress, including myself! Everything depends on how u can cope with your stress instead of commiting sucide, running away yr probs wont help u at all. For our parents, they are not obligated to take care of our kids for us. Our parents at this age, they should be enjoying their lives as their children have all grown up! It's not wrong of your mum to go for MJ sessions or whatsoever, she deserved it!
There's no point putting blame on who & who. If you think there's a prob, shouldnt u be sitting down having a clear mind then doing those foolish things?
Having a bb is the world happiest thing in life, coaching them to be a useful person. When things happen, u shouldnt be putting the blame on having your bb but to SOLVE THE PROB!

Just my 2cents worth of advice!
 
Sandy,
I do feel sad when there are things tat I wanna do & places tat I wanna go, but I can't. Somemore, seeing my sis having a good life cos my mum helping to care for her children 24/7. Makes me feel life is really unfair...but no choice lor...They r not obligated to help me...cos I'm the mother, not them. Since I have no help, I've got to make do wif watever I have & cope. I've learnt to b more independent & bring bb out alone...It's surprising wat we can do when we'r forced to do it. And I feel it's makes us all a better person, isn't it?
 
Happy birthday zlia & PM..should tell us at least we can sing song for u mah...no wonder PM extremely pretty yesterday...!

Hong..i using Sony Cyber shot..but is 5yrs ago model..hahaha

KM ya loh i will not consider till she can walk..hahaha! but i prefer Gymboree leh at least got activity..

Peach...Tumble Tots at 8 April 07..u wanna go?
 
Zita, yr pics all tur out very nice de.. can send them to me? I think we all very enthu in taking pics when we hv blogs.. Hahaha.. too bad my hb wasnt there 2 take pics for me even thou i brought camera along. Zita - I know, other days me like aunty,... hahaha

YB - Paiseh lah.. celebrate sing bdday song in Mac.Hahaha...
 
thanks fruitee, YB, Zita n Yenny.

Peach - I really admire the teacher, she's very jin ze, coz despite her big tummy she still make very big movements. I abit scare of following her, just in case I really have.
 
Fruitee & YB,
at least what happen yesterday let me experience myself what my friend who aborted her BB unwilling and i think got depression and tried to commit sucide.

YB,
how do u get over depression? I don't think got time to even seek professional help. I know i already have depression even during pregnancy, cos nt supported by my own mother (when she 1st knew i pregnant) then HB nt helping in planning for customary and got to scope with his bloody mother last min changes. I some how manage to suppress and get over it, but it became worst when BB born. HB choose his business over company me in hospital just for morning only. Reluctant to compromise on helping to take care till the "abuse" incident happen.

I think my HB nt sensitive to my signal i am giving him. I talk to him that i need time for myself too, I don't want to waste time now . If I defer my study, it is hard for me to get to study mood. It took me 2 years before i get back to study mood that time when I choose to work for a year so that I can earn enough to go poly.
 
zita - my old camera Sony also can produce v clear n nice pics!

now this panaosonic cam... so disappointing!!

I wan to use back my old cam! :p
 
PM,
No lah..u look good on normal days..yesterday, u more pretty lor...no wonder I keep thinking u look so diff yesterday.
Okie lah, celebrate b'day in McDonalds..hee..hee..at least we got bbs wif us mah, then won't b so paisey.

Sandy,
When I had depression last time, my hb took over the responsibilities of caring for Kaylyn after work..during the day, I learn to take things very easy. Even when b cries, I also bochap. I guess as long as bb drinks milk & sleep, I'm already doing my duty as a mother then...slowly,I got used to the idea of having additional responsibilies & sacrificing personal freedom.
It doesn't take a lot of time to c a doc..in fact, just go to any GP & tell them ur symptoms. They'll give u some anti-depression pills to help u. Pls do tat before u think of committing suicide again..Worst, u may do something bad to ur bb or love ones.
 
YB,
haha almost there. Just that I am controlling and suppressing. Yesterday, is really lose control if u heard the tone my father said over the phone. I think u will furious too. Cos in the first place, it is they who offer to help take of BB . If they think it is getting late etc they can call and ask when I am returning home etc instead of using "quarell because of me" as excuse.

My mother is also the one who always complain about my dressing and look. she will say "Aiyo wear like Auntie and look at your hair etc etc"

Hear already also BOILING inside...
 
HAPPY BELATED BDAY, PM!!!! aiyo...u didnt tell me ur birthday...then i give u one big birthday kiss..me??? or u prefer ian's...hahahaha....
 
Sandy,
if u know ur parents pattern is like that then dun pick up any calls when u having ur R&R.

Or why not u take leave and do all these. Of course dun tell ur parents that u are taking leave to relax.

Some pple have gd fmily background. Some dun. I can tell u i dun have a gd father to start with but we want to live to prove we can live better than him.

So dun give up.. this is just a passing phase. A better life is when u persist and press on.

If u were to jump yesterday, u wun get to hear all the gd advise mummies give u here.

U know wat... My hubby always ask me who do i love 1st. I told him, i love myself the most. If i do not know how to love myself, i wun know how to love others.

Zita,
Canon... ok will consider this brand.
 
PM no lah..u are veri pretty, juz that yesterday extremely pretty lah! I then aunty old liao

hong...is SONY cybeshot : )

Lucida & PM sure will sent to your : )
 
MTDT - I think there's only one BJG on this sat, and another one TT in april. JG doesnt seem to be confirmed, no dates yet.

Dsii - Ermmmm, I think I prfer IAN boy one! Hahaha.

I always believe ppl with difficult background and yet still want to help themselves will excel. I know studying alone is not easy, let alone so many roles together. SAndy, hang in there, u will reap yr rewards soon
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Zita - Jus kidding. I know my looks.. hahaha..esp Hubby likes to call me RuHua.

MTDT - Do u experience blur images even thou ure not taking a shaking object and not shaking yr hands too....especially so after u have not use the camerea for sometime. Mine will,and its suppose to have the anti shake ftn.
 
Hi Sandy,

I agree with YB that our bb is our responsibilities..think on the +ve side, there are couples who are keen on having kids but cannot, or those who are still borned...dun u think u r more lucky than them??I went thru your phases before, I was pregnant with my eldest girl when i was doing my final year part time degree, worst still hubby doing a part-time degree as well..so i got to take care of myself thru-out cos both of us were so busy with work, study & not forgetting taking care of our own household..it was very stressful for me (I tahan & gave birth 2 days after my final paper). After birth, I have to take care of my bb most of the time cos my hubby still need to fullfill his final year..anyway, everything managed to past with some stresses..sandy, take it +ve, thing will turn out to be good & u will be a v proud mother after the hardship is over.
 
PM - so far if the object is steady, my pics usu will be ok. but this camera Totally FAILED for bb pics!

I want to dig out my old sony cam to use liao.

not sure if the new sony cams are good or not hor...
 
Sandy,
I am facing similiar situation like yours. I would say I have no freedom at all. Though SAHM, really got no time for myself, like facial and etc. HB returns work late daily, around 10pm. To ask him for help, I will think twice. Because he would choose to sit in front of the TV. When bb crys, he will just ask me why bb is crying.....

As for my own parents and MIL, they had already told me that they need their own freedom too. They don't want to tie down in taking care of grandchild/children.

Stay strong, your bb will be very proud of you.
 
Aivilo,
Can understand why your HB will choose to sit infront of TV just like what my HB did. Just open Labtop even though he is looking at computer screen for the whole day. REASON : Tired and it real body and mentally tired. ( I used to be like that)

At least your both parent tell u before hand, at least u are prepared to take care yourself. Mine is mouth say ok take care but unwilling. But they really do a good job in taking care of my BB..
 
Sandy, u must learn to love urself n bb b4 others... i oso have suicide experience... but that time was b4 bb born... now we js have to sacrifice alot... u must think **TOUCHWOOD** even if ure successful in ur suicide "what happen to ur bb? how will his life gg to be??" stay strong n we'll be there for u... we too have no time for movies, facial, haircut, etc... employ a maid or hire a bb sitter might be the choice u wanna consider...

yest class was quite interesting but wonder does our bb really njoy?? they seems to be more interested in the items passed to them n put inside their mouth...
 
Sandy. Don't be stressed. The toughest time will be over pretty soon. Find a friend to talk to, you will feel much better. Don't blame your hb, focus on his love for you. Can understand the level of stress you are in, but pls.... don't think of commit suicide, it won't solve the problems at all, right? :)

By the way, you stay around Bishan area?
 
Count on the blessings you have! Instead of focusing on the negative things. Thank God that you and your family are healthy. Thank God that you have enough to support your family.
 
eeyore, heehee.. yah. my girl likes to put the bell-instrument in her mouth. i have a very vivid image of seeing little ian doing that too. wahahhaa..

what makes me very excited about the class is how interested kristen was with the singing teacher. it's like, so many babies there n alot of new things visually.. so for my girl, cos of her hearing impairment, she should be more visually aware n looking at everything around her rite?.. new environment... but she really listen to the teacher n kept staring at her. i think it stimulates her hearing alot!

Sandy, suffer first enjoy later! hehe.. pia for ur studies now.. n juz close ur one eye, or both eyes even and PIA!!!!!! once ur exam over.. u'd be more free n can get better paying job.. then u can breathe more easily too! u can do it one! at least ur parents can take good care of benji.. i dun even trust my PIL to take care of Kristen, I'd rather go home n take care of her myself than to go out n constantly worry if she's ok. hahaa :p
 
Peach,
Your girl hearing problem can be heal one right ?

I learnt to carry Benjamin take bus to my HB's shop but hor very tiring one to carry him for long..lol
 

Sandy,
The doctor said not to have any hopes. With the hearing aid, she can hear. How well, we're not too sure cos she's too young to tell us, only can guess from the way her head turns. I really hope it will heal of cos, but if it doesn't, there's always the hearing aids
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