(2006/07) JULY 2006 MTB

me and MIL stay far apart..me at pasir ris...she at bt panjang..somemore..she cant walk..but every sunday must go back to visit her...so she will nag at times loh..
 


paranoid
lock the door lah...and hor...how come whole family stay together ur hubby pay everythign??? then how come ur BIL's gf stay there oso u all, pay??? funny leh...ur hb sure will pass keys to ur MIL one...i tell u...during office hrs..ur hb at work..u lock the door from inside...hehehe..so got keys oso no use...hahaha...very bad hor...
 
Jazzy,
I never check the bag again. I was looking when he pack...nothing is out :D

Gebbera & paranoidmummy,
first time i heard heartburn caused by baby with lots of hair....sure or not...so strange
 
lollypop, coz there are 6 of us in the house. my MIL doesnt cook... but there's a dog in the house. Many bird + 1 parrot and also got 4 big fish tanks.. and aircon is on every night.. so maybe that explains why bah...
 
paranoid,
we never give our keys to PIL. No privacy. Anyway, we also never keep their house keys after moving out. So no dispute.
 
PM, when we moved she kept telling us "oh, there's a bus that comes direct..." but we r staying very far away, she's in katong n we r in amk... luckily she always need chaffeur to come otherwise... she'll like everytime dropping by too...
 
hahaha..me hor opposite...nobody wanna come to our hse..cos my IN LAWS...MIL...SIL...BIL...all stay in west...to them pasir ris too far liao..wahahaha
 
Dsiitan, I tried to lock the door once then she ask me why i lock, she say aiyah no need to lock one lah -____-

Not too sure too, coz that time I new member mah, so he say might as well he pay as part of the "jia yong" to the family. Last time he use to just give them cash. but i think the amt we are paying for the bills is more than giving them cash. I think my BIL got give extra $50 to my MIL for jia yong coz of his GF...
 
PM, since u have ur own house why dun u js moved out... if she wants the key js give her excuse that u have duplicate extras...
 
paranoid
ya loh..lollypop is rite...all using y must ur hubby pay everything..siao...maybe hor..u stay on ur own..only 100+ for pub...the rest u can go shopping ah...
 
paranoid
ur MIL said no need..but u can just give excuses loh..just tell her u r changing...then u are wearing sleepwear..no gd...aiyo..ur room rite?? u hv ur rights to lock the door...u lock a few times then she used to it liao...

next time lock ur wooden dooor from inside...when u stay on ur own..so she can hv the keys she wants...
 
Tell u guys something... which makes me wana pull my hair...

Recently she kept hinting abt my new house.. in this manner:

Coz she's looking afetr my SIL's boy, but she doesnt allow him to crawl in the living rm coz of the dod, she worry that the dog's hair will trigger his asthma. So she kept saying to the boy that when my house is here then he can enjoy all he wants, coz he can crawl here and there all over my house! I kept very very quiet... coz really i dont wan her to come over that often and "intrude" my privacy as such.

I also dunno who bo hua, coz she doesnt cook at home mah, that means she will bao my 3 meals (when hubby at work) then she will ta bao or we go out to eat.. so she's like paying for all the food I eat loh...
 
wa,
u jialat! The way she is hinting, means most likely she'll bring your SIL's kid over to your house and stay there til dinner time, oops!
 
lollypop
hehehe...not purposely one leh..just coincidence..hahaha..but hubby always wanted to move to west area..but now market no gd..so he said wait and see..my MIL cant walk..so..for me still ok..she wont come and go as she wish..then my SIL..all quite nice loh..so ok lah...in fact at tiems i think if stay near them oso not bad..if i need babysitter..i can just ask anyone of them to help..hahah
 
eeyore, the house is not renovated yet.. and got to wait coz now got BB they insist we dont start the reno.. eben thou i dont go and see also cannot. After BB out, its the 7th lunar mth.. got 2 somemore.. so it will be at least sept or oct before we moove in.

I've already told hubby that we shldnt give her keys coz if like that I wil be very unhappy.. luckily he understands not we never talk abt it anymore, its my MIL who is always hinting it.. but we just act blur abt that.
 
lollypop, yah i think so.. and i think she will use "buying food for me" or "helping me to look after BB while i do housework" as an excuse to come over...
 
paranoid
i not teaching u to be mean leh..but hor...u need to voice out to ur hb..no doubt he always side with his mum..but hor..u need to let him know u hv the right to voice what u want and what u think...i tell u ah..man hor..all very jialat one..if u keep quiet for once..they will take things for granted..dun be too submissive..we have our rights too!!!
 
paranoid
show her u can make it on ur own...if u diam diam..then u are the one lugi leh..wat if one day she said her hse too crowded liao...then wanna stay at ur place since so near just few blks away..then u how???? u wont know one...
 
My hubby feels that its ok for his mum to come over to help me look after even thou i tell him i can cope on my own. ... his reasons are coz he's out at work and cannot help me, so MIL can help.. and he worried that I got depression so having another person around he more fang xin.

Deep down in my heart, i was thinking maybe its MIL who will make my depression worse...?
 
hi mummies,

what does it mean when baby's head is engaged? my gynae has been telling me baby is low and head engaged for the past 3 weeks.
anyone can enlighten me?
 
paranoid,
i agree with dsiitan. But talk nicely with hb. Let him know your concerns and where u stand. So no arguements later on. Husband & wife must thrash things out, dun keep everything inside and then later unhappy and quarrel. No good. Also, take this chance to get him on your side, hee
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u tell him with ur mum ard..maybe u will depression...serious one somemore...tell him u wanna try to handle alone 1st..if really u cant make it..then u ask for her help...like that better...then last time our parents gave birth so many kids...how?? oso learnt to take care wat...
 
Dsiitan, i understand yr chu fa dian..coming over to stay is quite not very possible coz my hubby wont want de. but how to i tell her if she says (and not hint) that she wants the keys??? or how to reject her in future if she's dropping by like EVERYDAY!
 
decimal point, head engaged means BB's head is down liao and wont turn around, which means he's ready for birth.... so most likely can natural birth..
 
paranoid
ya loh..not shout shout at him lah...find a time..u 2 sit down and talk it out..nicely...fidn a solution together...not let him decide what he wants to do..u 2 decide..cos the hse belongs to u both...and u 2 must compromise..if not more serious problems will arise from small probs...then no gd liao..make him understand how u feel...men hor..like wooden blocks...if u dun tell him...he wont know one....
 
Okay lets see tonight if its a good time to talk abt this... anyway.. it might not happen that she come everyday since we haven move... but chances are 1% loh.. sicarly she ask me to go over to her house everyday instead...

*faintz*
 
paranoidmummy,
Maybe i'm fair that's why you say the tummy nice...hehehe.. looks like Fruitee didn't get the chance to see the photos before she popped. :D
 
paranoid,
maybe u tell your hb u dun want to give her the keys and let him handle his own mother. just act blur and dun get involve. i think its better, else later relationship sour, worst.
 
paranoid
hmm...just ask ur hubby to tell his mum nicely..let u handle ur bb alone..cos after marriage u all stay together liao for so long..so now u really wants to hv ur own time with bb...let u try on ur own 1st..if u really cant cope without her help..then u all will let her know...if u dun try..u wont know wat
 
paranoid mummy,

i think i have same feelings as you with regards to mil. My husband thinks I think too much, but I always worry my baby will be close to her than to me because she will help to look after the baby when I go back to work. She stays nearby, I sometimes imagine that she will come very early and stay the whole day, leaving me no private time with the baby.
 
decimal
u dun worry too much...for my older boy..i was a weekend mum...my SIL stays in teban gardens..and she helped me look after him for abt 1 yr...i only got to see my son on fri nite and sunday nite my SIL will bring him home...but hor...everytime he sees me he still very attached to me..i think thats the bond between mum and kid...then sunday nite he will cry when they brouht him home..so i had to hide so that he wont see me..if not jialat...my SIL always said...mum is afterall a mum...no matter how long never see each other..but still so close...hehehe
 
Poppy, i not tan.. but somehow, my tummy is very dark and the belly button also.. like few thousand years not washed like that....

Lollypop, keys settled liao. I talked to him abt that already and he also agree...

Decimal Pt, precisely how i felt. My SIL (who stays just one floor above her) felt as if my MIL is snatching the BB away during her ML, coz my MIL she claims will always carry BB down and not let her have time to bond with BB....
 
paranoid,
really ah? but i think wat dsiitan said makes sense. the kid will sure bond with the mother irregardless of wat happens. so dun worry so much. anyway, how many kids can she take care at one time. dun bother so much 1st lah.
 
paranoid,
I think I can get heart attack if anyone other than my hubby just open the door and come into my house. Imagine if you are in your undies only, so embarassing.
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Tell your hubby that it's not so convenient... and that you rather your MIL call and you gladly open the door!
 
Actually hor... U guys will eventually appreciate ur MIL in times to come..
For me, PIL both passed away long time ago liao.. then I have to rely on maid to look after my DS and DD. Mum's health not good, cannot really help...

How I wish my MIL still around..
 
i also try to think mum is mum,but the bond must be built strong first.my neighbour's son is being cared for by her maid, so the boy is close to the maid, listens to her. the maid is a good maid, will teach him and scold him when he is naughty. when my neighbour comes home, i can tell the boy is delighted. he is also better behaved when his mum is at home, he whines less etc. but i think must first build a strong bond with the child so that he knows i am the mummy.
so i tell husband after confinement ask his mother dun come everyday, i will learn to look after the baby. anyway we go to pil's house everyday for dinner. don't know if it will work!
 
paranoid/decimal
dun worry abt bb too attached to ur MIL...u carry him/her in ur tummy for 9mths leh...can smell ur ba-wu liao...will attach to u no matter wat...dun think so much...
 
stephanie, i agree with u in a way, bcos between maid and mil, mil is a better choice. maybe i am first time mother, very anxious to be a good one, so everything also want to hands on, that's why I am so protective.
 


dsiitan, i guess u must b feeling very heart pain when ur boy cry... a lot of ppl tell me to leave my bb after my ML at my mum's plc during weekdays cos i gotta work.. n my work plc is at bt merah n i staying at jurong west.. gotta travel here n there everyday.. but daytime sure will bring to my mum plc for her to help me take care... i feel that me and hubby will confirm ser bu de if leave at my mum plc during weekdays ...so now can only wait till bb pop out liao then c how it goes lor..
 
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