Hi Serena,
Sorry for my remarks. I don't feel that going off on a holiday without the kids is bad ... in fact, on the contractory, I really wish I can do that. I bf Ben till he's 2 plus, and now still bf K and for this simple reason, I'm home each night. hubby and I don't even sneak out at night for supper. we've only done it one time when I was sick and he had to bring me to clinic to see doc and thereafter we sat in the coffee shop a while more. I do think that one should not live the life just for your kids, but it's really difficult for me as I've noone to depend on. Imagine that my MIL has not step into my house for goodness knows how long, and well she feels that since I've got a helper, she need not bother much to offer caregiving help. But anyway, she got her hands full, n btw, once when I did seek help when I was working Part-time n nanny could not help to care for a few days, it turned into a nightmare coz that's probably one of the trigger points which cause MIL to quarrel badly with her daughter, and till today, the daughter's still not on talking terms with us ... huh, so would I dare to seek help so that I can go off? And well, my own mum's just enjoying her own carefree life to ask if I do need help, and she's definitely not capable to do it even if I asked. So, Serena, I don't think one's being lousy for doing what u did, really. I think it's great to have good support and able to have a good balance actually. For me, I do have that in mind, when the boys are older.
.ky.