Hmmm, B doesn't ask such questions about kissing and if it's got anything to do with having a baby. I guess there are alot of kissing going on every where here. We see mommies kissing their babies, daddies kissing mommies, daddies kiss their children, children kissing their parents etc. Quite a healthy normal family image I would say.
But there was once when we "accidentally" let him watch "what women want" and it got a bit funny with bedroom scene. We had to quickly switch it off even though it was in German. Coz the word SEX is a universal one! Good thing he didn't repeat it anywhere else after that.
Now that you mentioned about funny things, during our recent trip to Amsterdam, my dh wanted to take a short cut back to the car park, while I was telling him it's ok to take a longer way lest we cut into the redlight district. well, no. It's more important for him to make it back so he didn't have to have to pay the start of another hour, which was 4 Euro. In the end, lo and behold, guess where we were. My son was amused by the fact that "shop windows" were dressed with scantily clad women, and he thought it was funny comparing with the animated Christmas shop windows he saw in NYC.
Anyway, in his innocenct mind, he didn't suspect anything. And we told him the poor women were locked up there by bad guys to do window display. That's what came to my mind in that instant.
Oh boy, yes, you are right about asking those questions. Our children do grow up fast. But one good thing about B is that he recently told my mom, only grandma, mommy and his wife can kiss him. Girls can't just kiss him. SOmehow he's got a pretty healthy definition of a kiss. It must be from someone special and important to him.
I think we need to emphasise again and again that it must be a grown up man and a woman, a mr and a mrs to have a baby. and emphasize that taking care of a baby needs great responsibilities. And if he wants to be have one in real life, he needs to learn now to take care of himself first, then find a woman who is willing to be his wife, and they need to get a job, get married, earn enough money to start a family etc Only then can they have a baby so that the baby will feel safe in a home with the love of mommy and daddy and secured with a physical roof... etc...
Good grief... I really dread answering those questions. But I think we have to try to make it as honest an answer to them as we can. no use avoiding it.
Good thing with B now is that he plays with boys more than he does with girls. And he's really not into pretend play of starting a family with anyone. But we can't emphasise enough that his sister IS NOT and WILL NOT be his wife. Another good thing is that dh has sisters. And they are definitely NOT his wife. So I think he does know that his wife is a special woman he needs to find.
But the act of consummation is shown pretty subtly in the book. In the museum here, lovemaking scenes are shown to all children. And then the pregnancy stages right to the birth of a child through the birth canal! Yep, vivid images to young children I must say.
Yes, regular TV will definitely contaminate our kids' mind. So gotta start teaching them the truth now. Never too early to start.
