Qwerty1111
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Hi all. I would like to seek all your opinion on this and what should be my next step.
We have a child who is 4 years old and currently my wife is pregnant with another one.
I noticed that her attitude towards me changed since the start of this year. We have a lot of discussions/argument and there's always no resolution.
we had sex one time during the mid of this year and she got pregnant after that.
Ever since this year, she had been saying she's very busy at work and will leave hm early for work and always come back late. Sometimes at 9-10.
I tried talking to her abt this and she said she's really busy at work and I trust her.
Recently, I noticed that her action towards her boss seems suspicious during a dinner. (I know her boss and we had dinner together). But I didn't think too much as I trusted her a lot.
But today, I accidentally(I never check her msg as I trusted her a lot) saw her boss msg to her asking how is she.
I got a little suspicious again as why is her boss msging her during weekend asking her how is she.
I checked her phone msg while she bath and noticed that her boss has been sending her to and fro work almost everyday. And they are calling each other dear and even said I love u. I'm not sure how long has the relationship been on going and what is the status of their relationship as I don't have enough time to see all the msg. Is it just purely just mental relationship or there is sexual involve.
I'm really at a lost now. I love my family a lot and willing to give up everything for them. But I was betray by my wife. Someone I trusted completely. I'm willing to forgive her if there is no sexual relationship with her boss and she's willing to cut all ties with him and turn back. But if there's sexual relationship involved, I don't even know is my unborn child mine. And I will not be able to forgive her if there's sexual relationship involved. I will most likely divorce her but will I lose the custody of both my children and I will only have limited access to them? I really cannot lose them. I understand the women's charter normally give divorce couple joint custody to both parents but the child will always stay with the mother. Is it true?
Please advise what should I do?
Thanks.
We have a child who is 4 years old and currently my wife is pregnant with another one.
I noticed that her attitude towards me changed since the start of this year. We have a lot of discussions/argument and there's always no resolution.
we had sex one time during the mid of this year and she got pregnant after that.
Ever since this year, she had been saying she's very busy at work and will leave hm early for work and always come back late. Sometimes at 9-10.
I tried talking to her abt this and she said she's really busy at work and I trust her.
Recently, I noticed that her action towards her boss seems suspicious during a dinner. (I know her boss and we had dinner together). But I didn't think too much as I trusted her a lot.
But today, I accidentally(I never check her msg as I trusted her a lot) saw her boss msg to her asking how is she.
I got a little suspicious again as why is her boss msging her during weekend asking her how is she.
I checked her phone msg while she bath and noticed that her boss has been sending her to and fro work almost everyday. And they are calling each other dear and even said I love u. I'm not sure how long has the relationship been on going and what is the status of their relationship as I don't have enough time to see all the msg. Is it just purely just mental relationship or there is sexual involve.
I'm really at a lost now. I love my family a lot and willing to give up everything for them. But I was betray by my wife. Someone I trusted completely. I'm willing to forgive her if there is no sexual relationship with her boss and she's willing to cut all ties with him and turn back. But if there's sexual relationship involved, I don't even know is my unborn child mine. And I will not be able to forgive her if there's sexual relationship involved. I will most likely divorce her but will I lose the custody of both my children and I will only have limited access to them? I really cannot lose them. I understand the women's charter normally give divorce couple joint custody to both parents but the child will always stay with the mother. Is it true?
Please advise what should I do?
Thanks.