I am a divorcee and custody of my daughter is with me. After my divorce with my ex husband, i tried to go into a relationship with a guy for 3 years. But eventually things dont work out for us. I get to know another guy 7 months back. We can get along very well. There are no problem between us.
But recently i brought up the topic of, if we were to get married, my daughter will follow me and stay with me and him. His home currently house himself and his mom. There is another extra room. But his reply to me was, he can accept me and the existence of my daughter. But he cant accept my daughter to stay in his house. He has his worries.
These are the worries i have gathered from him. May not be all as he do not want to say it out.
1. If i have his child, where will his child sleep if the room is occupied by my daughter.
2. If one day, he accidentally bump into my daughter room and maybe my daughter is changing clothes, for example, my daughter may think that he is a pervert.
3. He do not want my daughter to be the reason we quarrel in the future.
He still has other worries which i do not know the answer.
I thought this man is the man i can settle down again and a life partner i found. But his reply, really gave me a heartbreak. I love him alot and he love me alot too. But i know, he love me but not my daughter. He can just accept her existence.
I am really in a dilemma now. I know the right choice or solution is to give up this man and move on. But i just cant bear to do so because we have no problem. I know i had given my daughter a broken family already, so i should not hurt her further. But in the end, i have to sacrifice my love one.. It is really too cruel for myself.
I post this here is because i wish to know is anyone having such problems. How you resolve this? I really cant bear to let go of this relationship
But recently i brought up the topic of, if we were to get married, my daughter will follow me and stay with me and him. His home currently house himself and his mom. There is another extra room. But his reply to me was, he can accept me and the existence of my daughter. But he cant accept my daughter to stay in his house. He has his worries.
These are the worries i have gathered from him. May not be all as he do not want to say it out.
1. If i have his child, where will his child sleep if the room is occupied by my daughter.
2. If one day, he accidentally bump into my daughter room and maybe my daughter is changing clothes, for example, my daughter may think that he is a pervert.
3. He do not want my daughter to be the reason we quarrel in the future.
He still has other worries which i do not know the answer.
I thought this man is the man i can settle down again and a life partner i found. But his reply, really gave me a heartbreak. I love him alot and he love me alot too. But i know, he love me but not my daughter. He can just accept her existence.
I am really in a dilemma now. I know the right choice or solution is to give up this man and move on. But i just cant bear to do so because we have no problem. I know i had given my daughter a broken family already, so i should not hurt her further. But in the end, i have to sacrifice my love one.. It is really too cruel for myself.
I post this here is because i wish to know is anyone having such problems. How you resolve this? I really cant bear to let go of this relationship